09/22/2025
Too often, especially on social media, birth gets framed as a performance; something you can pass or fail, win or lose. But birth isn’t a test. You’re not being graded for how long you labor, what interventions you use, or whether you stay ‘calm.’
When birth is treated like a performance, parents are left feeling judged, pressured, and compared, instead of supported. That pressure can add fear and stress, which are the very things that work against labor progressing smoothly.
Birth is a threshold. A crossing into parenthood, into expansion, into something you can never fully prepare for but carry with you the rest of your life.
This is why support matters. A doula isn’t there to evaluate or push you toward a certain “ideal birth.” We’re there to protect the space, quiet the noise, and help you feel safe, grounded, and truly seen. When birth stops being performative, it becomes what it was always meant to be: your unique transformation, honored and supported every step of the way.
