02/21/2026
Most women over fifty have been conditioned to believe that anything you can pinch is failure.
That is not physiologically accurate.
Extremely low body fat reduces hormonal resilience.
Illness and injury increase metabolic demand.
Muscle is protective. Some fat is protective too.
Recovery requires energy.
When you fracture something, get pneumonia, have surgery, or just move through a hard season, your body burns through fuel quickly. Having zero reserves is not a badge of honor. It can slow recovery.
For women in their late 50s and 60s, chasing ultra lean aesthetics can backfire. Bone density, immune function, and hormones matter more than visible abs.
Here is the part that is personal.
As a personal trainer, there is an unspoken expectation that I should look like a fitness model. I never have. And for years, that created a tremendous amount of shame. I twisted myself into disordered eating patterns trying to fit an image that was never realistic for my body.
The self hate was real.
I will be turning 60. The invincible feeling you have when you are younger is gone. I know that even with a healthy lifestyle, injury and illness will come for me.
So when I sit down and my butt and thighs "splat" and I see have rolls on my abdomen, I no longer get angry at myself.
I see margin.
I see reserves.
I see a body that is strong and prepared.
I train for capability.
Not for fragility.