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Abbey H Ives Counseling and Supervision PLLC

I’m a mental health and addiction counselor and supervisor with 10 years of experience.

11/18/2025

When we fell back a few weeks ago, it wreaked havoc on my kids’ sleep (and mine). I usually love the time change — slower mornings, early sunsets — but this year it was rough.

That week, I said more than once that it was the tiredest I’ve ever been. Everything felt harder: mornings, moods, motivation. At the time, it was hard to see past it.

But, as quickly as it became a problem, it got better. By the next Monday, everyone had adjusted and we were back in rhythm.

It was such a small but powerful reminder that our circumstances don’t last forever. Even the exhausting seasons shift eventually. Sometimes we just have to hang in long enough to notice when things start feeling lighter again.

11/12/2025

Sometimes we focus so much on what’s next we forget to honor how far we already are.
You’ve done meaningful work, faced the storms, and you’re here - ready for what’s next. Give yourself credit for the steps you’ve taken … and gentle curiosity for the ones ahead.🌱

10/29/2025

We all have a few skeletons — the parts of our story we’d rather keep hidden. Sometimes we bury them to protect ourselves, or because we’re not ready to face what they bring up.

But hiding what’s human doesn’t make it disappear — it just keeps us carrying the weight alone.

Maybe you’ve shared your story, or maybe you’re still finding the words.

Either way, this is your reminder:

Honesty doesn’t erase the past, but it does make space for healing. 💛

This is the last post in my October “Halloween-inspired” series — not the spooky kind, but the deeply human ones we all live with. ☠️

Thanks for following along this month — here’s to showing up with a little more compassion for every part of ourselves. 🎃

10/22/2025

Now in-network with Blue Cross Blue Shield 💙
Therapy for confidence, clarity, and connection.

10/21/2025

Sometimes the loudest monsters aren’t outside of us — they live in our thoughts.
They whisper things like “You’re not enough,” “You’ll mess it up,” or “Don’t even try.”

Those voices often show up to protect us from disappointment or pain — but instead, they keep us small.

Maybe your “monsters” sound like doubt, worry, or guilt.
This week’s reminder:
You don’t have to fight every thought to find peace — sometimes noticing it’s a monster is enough to loosen its grip. 💛

This October, I’m exploring “Halloween-inspired” ideas — not the spooky kind, but the human ones we all live with. 👾

10/13/2025

This October, I’m exploring “Halloween-inspired” ideas-- not the spooky kind, but the human ones we all wrestle with. 👻

Sometimes we ghost to avoid conflict or discomfort-- it feels easier in the moment. But avoiding doesn’t always bring the closure we need.

Ghosting can protect us, but it can also keep us from practicing honesty and repair.

Maybe you’ve ghosted someone, or maybe you’ve been ghosted-- hopefully this offers a little understanding either way.

Disappearing might feel safer, but real peace usually comes from clarity and compassion — even when it’s hard.

10/06/2025

We all wear masks sometimes- it’s how we cope, adapt, and stay safe.

But when we start to believe the mask is us, we lose touch with what we really value.

This October, I’m exploring a few “Halloween-inspired” ideas- not the spooky kind, but the everyday ones we all live with.

Today’s starts with this:

Authenticity doesn’t mean saying everything out loud- it means letting your values, not fear, guide your choices. 💛

09/29/2025

👉 The word triggered isn’t about being annoyed or “too sensitive.” It’s a real nervous system response, often connected to trauma.

I’m in no way posting this to be a fuddy duddy- I know these terms get used sarcastically and I’m not here to police that. I just want to make sure we also understand what the word actually means. 💙

✨ In October, I’ll be sharing some posts with a Halloween twist- think myths, masks, and “monsters” we all face in everyday life. 👻

09/22/2025

👉 Let’s talk about another term that gets thrown around a lot on social media: codependent.

✨ It’s often misunderstood — here’s what it really means (and what it doesn’t).

09/15/2025

Next up on -Popular Social Media Terms- is Narcissism.

Narcissism is a real and painful relational pattern — and if you’ve experienced it, you know how hard it can be. This post isn’t about minimizing those experiences. Instead, it’s about clearing up some of the confusion around the word.

Not everyone who is confident, proud, or wants recognition is a narcissist. The difference shows up in how the relationship feels. If you often find yourself walking on eggshells or wondering if your needs matter, that’s a signal to pay attention.

Being in tune with your feelings in relationships can help you recognize when something isn’t healthy — and that awareness matters.

09/08/2025

Social media has made mental health language more common — which can be both empowering and confusing. Some terms get overused or misunderstood, and that can water down their true meaning.

This month, I’m starting a short series on mental health misunderstandings — breaking down a few buzzwords we hear all the time.

First up: Gaslighting.
👉 Gaslighting is a form of manipulation where someone makes you question your own reality.
👉 Disagreeing with you or remembering something differently isn’t gaslighting.

08/19/2025

Getting back into a routine—school, work, schedules—can feel chaotic at first.
The early mornings, the packed evenings, the lack of flexibility… it’s a shift.
But it won’t feel this hard forever.
Give it time. You’re adjusting. That’s allowed.

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Fletcher, NC
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+18282762950

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http://www.abbeyhicounseling.com/

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