02/26/2023
This says SO MUCH! Read it all the way through to the end.
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Thank you for sharing this Kimberly Goller Medium...
I totally get it. 🫶
I have been sitting with grief a lot in the past couple of months. I used to associate grief only with death. Grief often comes with hurt, change, disappointment, and unmet hopes and dreams and I am finally becoming aware of the difference in that emotion. To acknowledging the loss, mourning, and finding gratitude for what remains is a life long lesson.
It's healing to grieve for yourself.
So much of our suffering is unmetabolized pain that our mind is trying to do something with, without letting the heart in on it.
This stuck grief often has us reaching outside of ourselves for a form of love on repeat that has us wondering what is wrong with us.
We have not learned how to properly grieve for ourselves, yet grief is the way we get back to our souls and what matters most in life.
It's what makes it more spacious for our souls to inhabit our bodies again.
Grief is a part of our human existence, not just in death, but in the constant change and letting go that is this life.
Grief is love.
We do not do grieve for things we do not care about.
Grief is healing.
It is the movement of loving energy that keeps the heart open to life.
IT IS WHAT HEALS US.
When we learn how to feel safe to be with ourselves, our hearts and our wounding, we free ourselves from the ties that bind us.
We learn to trust again.
So much of our suffering is a result of all this stuck, unmetabolized emotional pain that turns into depression, anxiety, low self-esteem, codependency and addiction (deep pattern repetition), etc.
Grief is for what was lost.
That is very real.
We also need to grieve what we never had.
And, for all that has happened to us, all we have survived.
Including ourselves.
Modern culture and rootless new age spiritual movements are infused to the brim with the patriarchal agenda that denies, shames and suppresses grief.
It promotes quick fixes, bandaids and services never meant to actually help us metabolize this grief but feeds a system that perpetuates an addiction to consuming its illusions.
It's really no wonder there is such an epidemic of low self-worth.
We grow up thinking it’s wrong to be human when our very existence has a divine purpose that has nothing to do with this ridiculous pain we do not allow ourselves to truly be free from.
This is the core wound of the patriarchy - denying our humanity, disconnection from the earthly feminine principle - trying to survive without roots.
Our bodies and emotions are tuning forks guiding us to well-being.
Our humanity IS the earth.
You cannot really forgive anyone or the past or yourself without grieving and honoring the past and what was.
It liberates us from the consciousness we were living in and delivers us to a new, more loving one.
Grief is an energy that has the potential to set us free and keep our hearts open to all the ups and downs of life.
It is our aliveness pulsing us deeper into the mysteries of love.
More love.
Not less.
Art by Tijana Lukovic
Dr. Mia Hetényi
