01/02/2026
As an adult, the more we remain in ‘victim mode’, the more we block our own healing. A huge part of emotional maturity is taking responsibility for our own decisions, life circumstances, relationship boundaries.
The only thing we can really control is our own thoughts, not other people.
We have the right to choose who we stay in relationship with- healthy relationships have healthy boundaries and if someone insists that you do or be someone you’re not or attempts to control you, it’s ok to walk away or keep them at a distance.
Externalizing: Unconsciously blaming others or the environment for one's own negative feelings or actions, as seen in projection (e.g., “He is angry,” when you are angry).
