11/03/2025
Misery loves company---- It’s such a simple saying, yet it holds so much truth. When we’re hurting, feeling down, or overwhelmed by anger, it’s so easy—almost automatic—to turn our gaze outward. We start searching for blame, focusing on the faults or actions of others, rather than looking within ourselves. Our ego, trying to shield us from pain, can end up shifting the blame onto those around us and hurting so many !
In those intense moments, it’s often the people we love most who feel the brunt of our pain and frustration of who you're choosing to be "YES" it's a choice !
Our words may become sharp or impatient, and we find ourselves justifying why we’re upset by making others the cause of our anger. It’s difficult to admit, but we all fall into this pattern sometimes.
The most important peace is the except what your doing instead of justifying your actions and continuing to point fingers !
But here’s something I’ve learned: there is gentle power in pausing and taking a look at who you are and **why you’re so angry.** These big feelings aren’t random—they have roots.
Are you tired? Hurt, SAD, hungry, thirsty ? Some  people aren't aware of what their body is feeling and it'll show as aggression because they have not learned to pay attention to what you truly are going through or what your body needs.
Feeling unheard or unappreciated? Is there an old wound or unmet need beneath the surface? When we ask ourselves these questions, we invite understanding and self-growth.
Taking accountability is not about blaming ourselves, but rather about being honest. It’s about saying, “Yes, I’m hurting, and maybe right now, my words or actions aren’t fair to the people I care about.” That honesty opens the door to compassion—for ourselves, and for others.
Growth starts with self-reflection. When you’re able to pause and look within—acknowledging what you’re feeling and where it’s coming from—something begins to shift.
🫶You realize the anger isn’t someone else’s fault to carry, and you start the process of healing it from the inside out.
These moments don’t make us bad people—they make us human. Life can press down on all of us, and sometimes our emotions overflow. But if we can return to ourselves with kindness and curiosity, we can break the cycle and begin to choose a softer, kinder path with out blaming others or hurting them
So next time you feel the urge to lash out or find someone to blame for your misery, take a gentle look at yourself first. Ask yourself where that anger is truly coming from. Be honest, but also be kind to yourself. We all have challenging moments. What matters is what we do next—how we apologize, make amends, and grow stronger in love and understanding.
Sending you a reminder: You are not alone. Healing is possible, and it begins with a little self-reflection and a lot of self-compassion. đź’›
Refined Divine
