04/13/2026
It’s how you’ve shown up your whole life, right?
Be what they expect you to be.
Meet everyone’s needs. Keep them happy - so they’ll like you. With the hope that them liking you will convince you that… you actually deserve to be liked.
The problem is that they like a version of you that isn’t who you actually are.
And somehow, your brain turned that into a belief that who you really are - if they were to ever see that - doesn’t actually deserve to be liked.
So your self esteem drops. Maybe disappears. You second guess everything you say, everything you do. You constantly wonder what people think, because it feels like your worth depends on their opinion.
There’s a different way to live.
And at first, it’s terrifying.
You start saying no. You say what you feel, instead of what you think you should. You put yourself first sometimes, and take care of your own needs - instead of trying to anticipate everyone else’s. You make mistakes sometimes, and you can laugh them off because you’re much more okay with just being human.
It’ll be uncomfortable at first.
Everything inside you will be screaming, wanting to protect you.
But you’ll start to get used to it. And you’ll even start to like the way it feels.
It’ll give you a kind of confidence you’ve never had before. You’ll start to actually like you.
And I am genuinely excited for you to really, really like who you are.