Us and Kids

11/07/2025

11/07/2025

Absent can be more than not physically being there. Absence can be when we get stuck in our phone, work, friends, p**n, sports…” Absence is not just physically not around, it’s also very powerful when we emotionally un-engage.
We miss really good, fun, fulfilling moments. We miss out of a smile, tenderness, purpose, and shared strength.
Which can make you, and your relationships wonky, weak and weary.
But, that’s not so tough to fix- you just need a bit of courage and some consistent kindness. Look up, smile, say something kind or nice. They are simple and powerful plugs to the holes in your love bucket (and your relationship).
Appreciation will fill up that delightful love bucket overflowing!

10/28/2025

What about the "woods" is sooo hazardous?
It's that parenting is meant for you to do together...so that you can protect each other, and your kiddo, can agree on what is dangerous and what risks of the woods is safe (and fun) to take.
The unknown that each kiddo brings into the day requires patience, wisdom, and internal calm so that our courage and creativity can be accessed and used well.
When we parent together that support, encouragement and humor helps to keep us from freaking out.
Yes, the woods are full of adventures!
Yes, they are best done together!
Enjoy and let me know what you found in the woods today!

10/22/2025

Do you "divide to conquer" the house and kids and all the things? Is it sort of happening...one of you gets the routine down for house stuff - you know - loads the dishwasher faster, folds laundry into all the "right" piles and knows where things are. And that other of you does the kids...you know how to get one kiddo to get teeth brushed, and the other to eat something worthwhile. But trading or sharing space is not so easy.
Yet, it is really important for your marriage relationship because it develops trust and cohesion between each other. It's also important for the kids to know that either and both of you can be trusted.
Sure, one of you is probably going to be a bit "better" at something. That does not mean you totally get to own it. Giving the kids, and each other the experience of different approaches, tactics and emphasis broadens your experience, connection and trust base.
Try it, reset, do it again.
As kids grow, switch things up to match their skills and enjoy the connection and and courage that you have with each other!

10/14/2025

Babies gone to soon, moms and friends with cancer, violence that scares and scars families...October is an emotionally heavy month!
Tenderly caring, through actions and words, cards and cookies can help us all.
Ask your friend how they are doing? Say a kind word or memory about those that have passed away.
Acknowledging grief, even if death was "long ago" helps with mental health and with healing. Keep October gentle and warm with your genuine acts of kindness!

10/10/2025

Reconnecting does not indicate a problem...It does indicate intention, desires and some determination.
Responding to a reconnection invite with a "Yes!" given with your words, tone and eyes is a great start to keeping your relationship steady and ready for real life of marriage with kids.

If your re-connections are falling flat, then it's time to check in and chat! Seriously. Free, helpful, professional.
https://calendly.com/usandkids/fun-session

10/08/2025

Yes, staying together while parenting kids together is a messy, tricky space. That's why the quiz is so great - it opens up conversations and connections that are lingering in the longing, lonely spaces between you.
It's not bossy...just helps you be brave and a bit bold in your pursuit of both - marriage and family!
If you are stuck, then we'll chat, but the point of the quiz is to get your both thinking and talking together, again!
Click this to get better connected to each other! https://bit.ly/click-quick-quiz-sm

09/30/2025

What did you do to reset?
What are the signs, in your marriage or parenting that say it's time to pause and reconnect?
Doing the work reduces the worry and helps you all grow your best marriage and family story!

Tell us about how you reset - your woes and/or your wins!

Resetting not a thing...The crazy just keeps spinning?
It's time to connect - together we can find a path to calm.
https://calendly.com/usandkids/fun-session - Free, helpful, not sales.

09/24/2025

We fought with lists, awake-ness- and play! That "fight" was the beginning of untangling the crazy and moving our marriage and family into calm.
Work? YES!
Worth it? 1000% YES!

Listen, watch and enjoy!
Want help creating your best fight yet? Let's talk: www.calendly.com/usandkids/fun-session

09/22/2025

Is your fighting fun...or frightful? Our podcast with Giant Builders tells the story about how one fight helped the other "fights" be fruitful and even a bit of fun!
Listen in to 17 minutes of good conversation and information!

But..if the fight can not seem to be undone...then, let's connect and work on it together!
www.calendly.com/usandkids/fun-session

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-stay-happily-married-while-raising-kids-with/id1734827163?i=1000727072658
https://open.spotify.com/show/1FLXfQZBzMST0svHbr19rZ?si=ed56382a9a9747ac