Emotional Wellness By Design

12/23/2025

Not the way it was or is for some but what it ought to be…..

If there is dysfunctional behavior with the parents , or unhealed wounds from their childhood past, they will pass it down and there will be unbalanced disciplines

The tendency will then be a reaction to over-correct or under correct OR - over protect or under protect when it comes to discipline of kind

Pray as parent for understanding to know the differences
Proverbs 22:6 - KJV
Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.

We didn’t grow up hearing applause for everything we did.

There were no gold stars for effort alone.

No constant reassurance.

If something was wrong…

It was corrected.

Calmly.

Directly.

Again and again if needed.

Not to tear us down.

But to build us up properly.

Adults didn’t confuse love with flattery.

They understood that praise meant more when it was earned.

So mistakes were pointed out.

Standards were enforced.

And expectations stayed high.

It wasn’t always comfortable.

But it was consistent.

And consistency creates confidence.

Because when you’re corrected instead of coddled…

You learn how to improve.

You learn how to listen.

You learn how to get better without needing
validation every step of the way.

That’s why we didn’t crumble under pressure later in life.

We already knew how to handle it.

Not because we were special.

But because someone cared enough to correct us.

Every time.

12/21/2025

12/19/2025

Remember this if you tend to take things personally ❤️

12/18/2025

Truly, think before you speak…..

JAMES 1:19 – “EVERYONE SHOULD BE QUICK TO LISTEN, SLOW TO SPEAK AND SLOW TO BECOME ANGRY.”

Listening first prevents rash words. This verse advises us to prioritize listening, teaching patience and control over impulsive or heated responses.
Don’t let a temporary feeling do permanent damage…..

12/15/2025

"During the holiday season let's not forget those who are emotionally suffering. Being respectful, understanding, and lovingly present is the best holiday gift you can give."

12/11/2025

Never say mean words out of anger. Your anger will pass. But your mean words can scar a person for life.

Anger is temporary, but the damage we cause in those heated moments can last forever. Words don’t fade, they linger, they echo, and sometimes they settle deep in a place people carry silently for years.
That’s why the greatest strength is not in winning an argument, but in choosing kindness even when your emotions are loud.

Take a breath. Step back. Remember that the person in front of you has a heart that feels deeply, just like yours.
A calm mind says what a wise heart won’t regret later. And kindness spoken in difficult moments becomes one of the truest signs of character.

Let your words heal, not wound. Let them build, not break. The world already has enough scars, don’t add to them. 💛

12/11/2025

False accusations can tarnish even the purest souls. Truth always prevails over false accusations. Accusations without evidence are nothing but empty words. False accusations are the weapons of the weak and insecure. A false accusation can destroy years of trust and friendship in a single moment.

Ephesians 4:29-31
King James Version
29 Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers.

12/09/2025

Stop stuffing your emotions & living in survival with your feelings……

Let it go, 🎵 let it go 🎶

12/04/2025

Addiction is a big blind spot in the churches today.
Addiction, whether we think it’s serious, or small or big, or however you spin it, can take your focus off what most important in your relationship with God , and serious relationships here on earth.

A common misconception is that addiction is purely a disease, removing moral responsibility from the individual. While the effects of addiction can be severe and even have biological implications, Scripture makes it clear that all sin—including addictive behaviors—is a matter of the heart. James 1:14-15 explains, “But each person is tempted when they are dragged away by their own evil desire and enticed. Then, after desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, gives birth to death.” Addiction begins with sinful desires and escalates when individuals give in repeatedly. It soon becomes an idol, consuming your time and money.

For the Christian, the answer to overcoming addiction lies in self-control through the new life in Christ .
Believers who desire to experience freedom from addiction must pursue holiness by crucifying the old sinful nature and allowing the Holy Spirit to lead, guide, and develop within them the new nature of Christ .

The road to freedom from addiction first involves admitting the problem.
Confession and breaking the power of denial and secrecy are crucial to achieving healing and wholeness Addiction holds people captive in the darkness of guilt and shame, but freedom comes from walking in the light of the Lord.