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You are worthy of relationships that are healthy, caring, and supportive.Even if your past experiences have made this fe...
04/23/2026

You are worthy of relationships that are healthy, caring, and supportive.

Even if your past experiences have made this feel difficult to believe at times, you are worthy of safe, supportive relationships. As you continue your healing journey, allow yourself to move toward connections that reflect the respect, kindness, and care you deserve.

Healthy Relationships as a Survivor of an Abusive Relationship: Series IntroductionWhether your experiences with abuse a...
04/21/2026

Healthy Relationships as a Survivor of an Abusive Relationship: Series Introduction

Whether your experiences with abuse are ongoing or in the past, they may have shaped how you view relationships. You may carry questions, hesitations, or uncertainty about what healthy relationships look like. Even so, you are worthy of building and experiencing safe and supportive relationships in different areas of your life.

While we cannot always avoid encountering unhealthy or abusive dynamics, we can take intentional steps to build and prioritize relationships that feel respectful, safe, and supportive. Healthy relationships can exist in many areas of life, including with friends, family members, romantic partners, and colleagues.

Healthy relationships often grow through intention. By investing time, energy, and care, and by strengthening skills like communication, boundaries, and conflict resolution, you can create more positive and supportive connections in your life.

Stay tuned for this series as we explore practical tools and strategies to help you build and nurture healthy relationships in ways that feel meaningful and empowering for you along your healing journey.

In recent days, there have been several major news stories that address stories of violence, abuse, and other forms of t...
04/21/2026

In recent days, there have been several major news stories that address stories of violence, abuse, and other forms of trauma. For many survivors of abusive relationships, news stories like these can be triggering, upsetting, and overwhelming. The ever-present nature of news and information in today's world can make it feel even harder to get a break from the seemingly never-ending news cycle.

When the headlines feel heavy, take good care of yourself in ways that are meaningful to you.

This might look like doubling down on your normal self-care practices, or adding new ones into your schedule. Head outside for a walk, practice relaxation breathing, write in a journal, or whatever works best for you.

It could also look like leaning into your support system, such as by talking about your feelings and reactions to the news with a trusted friend, family member, or professional counselor.

Lean into local and national resources, such as the National Domestic Violence Hotline [NDVH; http://www.thehotline.org/; 1−800−799−SAFE(7233)], the 988 Lifeline (https://988lifeline.org/), and/or the local domestic violence service agency in your area (Visit the NDVH directory here: https://www.thehotline.org/get-help/directory-of-local-providers/?service=shelter).

And, remember that you can take proactive steps to manage whether and how you follow the news. It is okay to take breaks from watching or listening to the news, as well as from logging into social media platforms where news stories might pop up unexpectedly.

These have been difficult days for many of us as survivors. Remember that you're not alone if you've felt triggered and noticed other ways the news has affected you. Allow yourself to take the steps you need to take good care of yourself as you navigate these additional, complicated layers of stress along your healing journey.

As we conclude this series on self-care, remember that caring for yourself requires intention. It often means identifyin...
04/16/2026

As we conclude this series on self-care, remember that caring for yourself requires intention. It often means identifying the internal beliefs and external barriers that make self-care difficult and gently working to move past them. Noticing those patterns is a powerful first step.

Self-care can be woven into the rhythm of your daily life. It may show up in how you begin your morning, how you wind down at night, and the small choices you make throughout the day to protect your energy. The key is to choose practices that feel realistic, meaningful, and self-supporting for you.

Your healing journey deserves attention and compassion. Continuing to invest in your well-being is an ongoing act of self-respect and strength.

Self-care does not have to be expensive, complicated, or time-consuming. Any activity that helps you feel grounded, rest...
04/14/2026

Self-care does not have to be expensive, complicated, or time-consuming. Any activity that helps you feel grounded, restored, or supported can become part of your personal self-care plan.

Take a few moments to brainstorm as many ideas as possible. Try not to overthink it. Simply write down activities that sound comforting, energizing, or meaningful to you. Examples might include taking a walk, calling a trusted friend, sipping tea, reading a novel, gardening, journaling, baking, stretching, playing with a pet, or savoring your favorite treat. Add your own ideas and notice which ones feel most appealing.

After you create your list, review it and make note of the activities that feel most realistic and enjoyable right now. From those, choose one or two and make a simple plan to try them in the coming week. Keep your plan manageable so it feels encouraging rather than overwhelming.

Effective self-care strategies play an important role in coping with the dynamics and lasting impacts of abusive relatio...
04/09/2026

Effective self-care strategies play an important role in coping with the dynamics and lasting impacts of abusive relationships. When you are intentional about caring for yourself, you help restore strength, clarity, and emotional balance that may have been worn down by your abuser’s harmful words and actions.

Self-care can serve as a reminder that your needs matter and that your well-being deserves attention. Even small, consistent practices can help rebuild confidence and resilience over time.

Barriers to Self-Care and Strategies to Overcome ThemSelf-care may sound simple in theory: Engage in practices that supp...
04/07/2026

Barriers to Self-Care and Strategies to Overcome Them

Self-care may sound simple in theory: Engage in practices that support your well-being. In reality, maintaining consistent self-care can feel difficult, especially while healing from an abusive relationship. Identifying what is standing in your way can help you take practical steps forward.

Consider reflecting on the different types of barriers you may be facing and what strategies might help you address them.

Internal barriers might include guilt, self-doubt, or feeling undeserving of care. If this is true for you, you might practice reminding yourself that your well-being matters and that caring for yourself supports your ability to handle life’s demands.

External barriers can include a lack of time and solitude. If you are facing very heavy demands on your time and energy, consider building in short, manageable practices that fit into the rhythm of your day.

Practical barriers may involve financial limitations or scheduling conflicts. Look for low-cost or free options and plan self-care at times that realistically work for you.

Relational barriers might involve a lack of support from others. In this case, consider setting gentle but firm boundaries, seeking encouragement from trusted supporters, or finding community spaces that affirm your healing.

Taking time to identify your barriers and possible solutions can help you move from feeling stuck to feeling empowered. Remember that perfection isn’t the goal. Instead, aim for making steady, thoughtful efforts to protect your energy and support your healing journey.

When life feels busy or overwhelming, self-care is often one of the first things to get pushed aside. You might tell you...
04/02/2026

When life feels busy or overwhelming, self-care is often one of the first things to get pushed aside. You might tell yourself you will take that walk tomorrow or skip a relaxing activity just this once to handle other responsibilities. While adjustments are sometimes necessary, it is important to notice when self-care keeps getting put off and slowly fades from your routines.

One way to protect your well-being is to treat self-care like any other important commitment. Schedule it into your day or week. Block off time in your planner or calendar for activities that help you recharge, whether they are brief moments of rest or longer practices that require more time.

Be realistic about your schedule and energy. If your week is full, choose shorter practices during busy days and reserve longer activities for times when you have more flexibility. The goal is consistency, not perfection.

At the start of each week, consider mapping out when you will care for yourself. At the end of the week, reflect on how it went and adjust as needed. Making space for self-care on your calendar reinforces the commitment that your healing and well-being deserve time and attention.

Sometimes the biggest barriers to self-care are the beliefs we carry about what it is supposed to look like. If self-car...
03/31/2026

Sometimes the biggest barriers to self-care are the beliefs we carry about what it is supposed to look like. If self-care feels out of reach, it may help to pause and examine whether certain myths are influencing your thinking.

Myth #1: Self-care requires a lot of money.
Reality: There are many affordable or free ways to care for yourself, such as going for a walk, taking a few deep breaths, journaling, stretching, or listening to music that lifts your mood.

Myth #2: Self-care means escaping to an exotic location.
Reality: Self-care can happen in small, ordinary moments throughout your day, wherever you are.

Myth #3: Self-care must take a long time to be effective.
Reality: Even a few intentional minutes of rest or reflection can positively impact your well-being.

Take time to notice whether any of these myths are shaping your approach to self-care. Releasing unrealistic expectations can make space for practices that truly fit your life and support your healing journey.

How you begin your day can influence how you experience the hours that follow. When you are healing from an abusive rela...
03/26/2026

How you begin your day can influence how you experience the hours that follow. When you are healing from an abusive relationship, your energy may already feel stretched thin. Creating even a small buffer of calm in your morning can help you move into the day with greater steadiness.

If possible, avoid starting your day in a rush. Set aside a few intentional minutes for yourself before diving into responsibilities. This does not need to be long. Whether you have two minutes or thirty, use that time to ground yourself and set a healthy tone for the day.

Your routine should fit your real life. If you are parenting young children or managing a demanding schedule, choose something simple and realistic. A few quiet breaths, a brief stretch, a short devotional reading, light movement, or mindfully sipping your coffee or tea can make a positive difference.

As you experiment with different approaches, notice what leaves you feeling centered and prepared. Protecting your early morning energy can help you face daily stress with more clarity and resilience.

We're excited to announce that we've updated The Source for Survivors website to offer a new "Free Store," where we've m...
03/24/2026

We're excited to announce that we've updated The Source for Survivors website to offer a new "Free Store," where we've made it even easier to gain access to the resources we've developed through this initiative.

This page now also provides access to the free resources that previously were available through the See the Triumph campaign, which is now managed through The Source for Survivors.

Check out the Source for Survivors "Free Store" at https://www.sourceforsurvivors.info/store/c2/sfsfreestore for free downloads of the following resources:

* The Pathway for Survivors Mini-Journal
* The Trigger Tracker Mini-Journal for Survivors
* My Relationship with Myself Worksheets
* A Sample Budget for Survivors
* See the Triumph Workbooks and Facilitator Guide
* See the Triumph Healing Arts Workshop Guide
* See the Triumph Advocacy Training Program Materials

Self-Care Reflections: Journal Prompts for SurvivorsWhen you are coping with the stress and aftermath of an abusive rela...
03/24/2026

Self-Care Reflections: Journal Prompts for Survivors

When you are coping with the stress and aftermath of an abusive relationship, self-care can feel like one more thing on your already full plate. Taking time for self-reflection can help you reconnect with your needs and remind yourself that your well-being matters.

If it feels helpful, consider journaling about one or more of the prompts below:

* How well are you caring for yourself right now? What barriers are making self-care difficult in this season of your life?
* What qualities, strengths, or skills do you appreciate about yourself? If this feels hard, consider asking a trusted person to share one strength they see in you.
* Who do you view as a role model for practicing self-love or self-care? What can you learn from their example?
* Imagine your ideal day from start to finish. What aspects of that day offer clues about what brings you peace or joy?

You deserve care, compassion, and gentleness as you move through your healing journey. Even small, thoughtful steps toward self-care can make a meaningful difference over time.

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