It Takes Two

It Takes Two neurodivergent 💜 queer 💙 fat-positive eating disorder recovery support. be neuro-fed! Hi!

I'm Lianne McCray, an MDiv and doula working out of High Point and the Triad of NC. I'm a queer, neurodivergent, fat-positive former hospital chaplain who loves affirming and validating what is amazing and powerful in YOU.

I have been in bed all day. (ID Closeup of my face, lying on a pillow in a dim room with lamplight)Internalized ableism ...
02/18/2026

I have been in bed all day.
(ID Closeup of my face, lying on a pillow in a dim room with lamplight)

Internalized ableism makes me afraid that actually being disabled by my disabilities means I can't be a competent provider. "How can I help others when I feel like a mess??"

What I think it *actually* means is:
⭐️ I'm a human being
⭐️ I am complex, containing multitudes
⭐️ I deserve my own care and attention
⭐️ I have lived, ongoing experience with the things I specialize in providing support around

It isn't fun. It's hard. Just popping in to say your favorite provider or creator has bad days too. A better world is one where helpers are allowed to be fully human.

02/11/2026

It's well-documented that AuDHD brains feel things more intensely. We also perceive time differently. The combination can result in thinking distress is going to last forever. What helps you remember that tough experiences will pass?

This week's substack: Scaring Scrooge. A literary exploration of converting the rich. 🤑👻💖Link in bio or existentialease....
01/15/2026

This week's substack: Scaring Scrooge. A literary exploration of converting the rich. 🤑👻💖

Link in bio or existentialease.substack.com

This week's substack: Three Gifts (plus notes on Wake Up Dead Man).It seems timely to talk about some gifts I've receive...
12/25/2025

This week's substack: Three Gifts (plus notes on Wake Up Dead Man).

It seems timely to talk about some gifts I've received -- spiritual ones, not concrete or commercial. Perhaps sharing them will also be meaningful to you in this season of darkness, overwhelm, over-extending, and drawing nearer to the warmth and light.

Link in bio or existentialease.substack.com

12/25/2025

No one is entitled to unlimited access to you. Your wellbeing is more important than social expectations! And give yourself grace: this s**t is hard.

UNMASKING - Happier Holidays Edition!A super chill, come-as-you-are, online event scheduled for:Saturday, December 13th ...
12/01/2025

UNMASKING - Happier Holidays Edition!

A super chill, come-as-you-are, online event scheduled for:
Saturday, December 13th at 1:00 pm eastern, on Zoom.

The holiday season presents many challenges for neurodivergent folks: sensory overload; increased social demand; challenging family dynamics; the pressure of familial, communal, and cultural expectations; large group gatherings; travel; struggles with food; plus stress and general hullabaloo!

Basically: IT’S A LOT.

Unmasking is a tool we can use to make life more accessible, and to practice showing ourselves compassion when we are at our most stressed. In this one-hour workshop, we’ll talk in a relaxed setting about how to take some of the overwhelm out of the holidays for our ND minds and nervous systems.

Comment “unmask” and I’ll send you the zoom registration link!

Join for strategies, commiseration, and community to help reduce stress and enhance joy and ease amidst the holiday chaos.

ID: An ombre blue background with snowflakes interspersed throughout, and a snowy scene with trees at the bottom.

This week's substack: when getting exactly what you wanted is kind of a downer! Why does this happen? And how do we nurt...
10/19/2025

This week's substack: when getting exactly what you wanted is kind of a downer! Why does this happen? And how do we nurture contentment?

Thanks, I hate it. (The downside of getting your wish).
Link in bio or existentialease.substack.com

Let me tell you a secret: the difference between your and a bad person is not your thoughts and feelings: it's what you ...
10/09/2025

Let me tell you a secret: the difference between your and a bad person is not your thoughts and feelings: it's what you do with your thoughts and feelings ❤️‍🩹💝

This week's substack: Embracing the Shadow. (Our thoughts don't define us!)

Link in bio or existentialease.substack.com

This week I wrote about the TV show The Good Place and the spiritual concept of being part of something expansive, great...
09/13/2025

This week I wrote about the TV show The Good Place and the spiritual concept of being part of something expansive, greater than ourselves.

"I never let go of you." We were never separate.

Link in bio or existentialease.substack.com

09/09/2025

the idea that accessibility is not possible from a resource perspective is a lie-- what's standing in our way is our cultural aversion to care, community, and, well, human rights 🙃

I'm really overjoyed to have accomplished this. Thank you for making this process so kind, accessible, and full of inte...
09/05/2025

I'm really overjoyed to have accomplished this. Thank you for making this process so kind, accessible, and full of integrity and care. I learned so much not just from the course content but also from how you all showed up and related to us and each other. (How you do the work is the work!) 🥰🥰

So happy to be able to proclaim that I am now a certified Body Trust(R) specialist!

ID: A certificate stating that I have completed the training and coursework to be Body Trust Certified. "We celebrate those who believe in and advocate for a weight inclusive world."

We all make mistakes and cause harm. We can't be perfect, but we can address our mistakes and learn from them in a way t...
09/04/2025

We all make mistakes and cause harm. We can't be perfect, but we can address our mistakes and learn from them in a way that repairs harm and supports our self-esteem. Our worst moments don't have to define us. This week's substack is a little primer on how to screw up (and remember you're worthy and loved in the process!). Link in bio or existentialease.substack.com

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