Counselor Kelsey Bennett, LPC

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01/23/2026

Secure people don't have to step on others to prove they are in control.

01/23/2026

Naturally, when people are hurt or betrayed anger comes up. Where there’s anger there is a natural human desire for “getting even” or getting justice of some kind.

One pattern I always noticed as a therapist is how many people would come to me with regret. Regret around what they said, or how they acted. Regret over how they carried themselves at their lowest. Regret that they didn’t get to actually express themselves how they wanted to in the flood of emotion they were feeling.

Emotional regulation is the most important skill set any human can practice and develop. Almost all of us struggle (myself included) because we weren’t modeled emotional regulation growing up. The ability to regulate your emotions doesn’t mean you don’t feel. It means you feel a lot, but your emotions don’t drive your behavior. When emotions drive your behavior, regret is the result.

The good part is, we can learn how to emotionally regulate at any age, and anytime.

Emotional regulation allows you to feel and pause. This will set you ahead of 90% of people. People who pause have an undeniable magnetic pull of confidence. Not because they’re special, but because they have emotional discipline.

They make conscious choices that their future self would be proud of, regardless of how they feel in the moment

01/23/2026

Most couples wait until they're already heated to figure out what to say. By then, it's too late. These phrases work because they create safety before conflict escalates. They signal to your partner that you're listening, that their feelings matter, and that you're solving this together.

You don't need to memorize them. Just notice how different they feel from how most people communicate during tension.

Like this if you're trying to fight less and follow for more on building a secure relationship.

01/23/2026

Among so many other things that therapists can and can’t do. What would you add?

Disclaimer: Content is for educational purposes and doesn’t constitute therapy. Posts are generalized and may not fit all individuals or situations. My posts don’t speak to situations of abuse, active addiction, or certain mental health conditions.

01/23/2026

Emotional safety isn't something you feel immediately. It's something you build gradually through hundreds of small moments of trust.

It's feeling secure enough to express yourself authentically without fear of judgment or rejection.

It's practicing active listening instead of waiting to respond. Actually hearing your partner instead of planning your defense.

It's demonstrating warmth and concern toward each other's emotions. Making space for feelings even when you don't fully understand them.

It's creating a new process for conflict that doesn't involve yelling, shutting down, or walking away. Building a system where both people can be heard.

It's respecting boundaries and consent as non-negotiables. No means no. Always.

Emotional safety doesn't happen because someone promises it. It happens because they consistently show up and prove it.

What does emotional safety mean to you?