VME Matchmaking Events Houston

11/03/2025

From our friends at The Gottman Institute

03/05/2025

When it comes to matching, your only job on that first date is to determine if there is chemistry! Apply yourself or nominate a friend to be introduced to our newest bachelor. He is 38, fit, resides in Houston, and is ready to meet the right person.

As with traditional matchmaking, we respect your privacy and your information will only be shared with your approval. DM us or email us to see his pictures & full bio.

04/12/2023

07/18/2022

It’s completely free!

06/02/2022

Couples usually break up for a reason and more often than not those reasons are due to a non negotiable boundary being violated . For some it is cheating, for others it is money, and for most it is falling out of love/lust. In a perfect world both parties would end things, there would be an understanding that it is for the best, and life goes on. However, we are humans and humans are filled with emotions. 

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Reconnecting and rekindling: What does your local matchmaker think? Couples usually break up for a reason and more often than not those reasons are due to a non negotiable boundary being violated . For some it is cheating, for others it is money, and for most it is falling out of love/lust. In a per...

04/28/2022

This image perfectly illustrates what we feel when we have strong reactions but may not be able to pinpoint the cause.

The next time you're feeling angry/sad/upset/pissed off think about the why behind it. See if any of these fit the meaning behind those feelings.

Once we understand why we feel something we can

A)Communicate our feelings. "I feel hurt because I felt
uncared for."

B) Identify where we need to heal our
traumas.

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04/25/2022

Dr. Gottman's extensive research has revealed the secrets to a happy relationship. By mastering these Seven
Principles, you can ensure that your relationship will thrive.

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04/18/2022

"Let’s talk about the worst way possible to begin an argument that practically guarantees that it will not end well: the harsh start-up. Research has shown what happens when you come out of the gate with hostility, blame, high intensity, or critical sarcasm:⁠
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Statistics tell the story: 96% of the time, you can predict the outcome of a conversation based on the first three minutes of the interaction (John Gottman, 2014).⁠
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Let’s say you find your partner sitting on the couch, feet propped up with muddy shoes on. You exclaim: 'WOW! SERIOUSLY?! MUD ON THE COUCH! GREAT! HEY GENIUS, HOW BOUT YOU TRY AND THINK?!'
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Your partner might realize their mistake but they’re so distracted by the insults and your hostility that they get frustrated and rather than condeeding your point, they get defensive and yell right back. 'WOW, WELCOME HOME, ITS SURE GREAT TO SEE YOU IN SUCH A GREAT MOOD (sarcasm).'

You might be thinking at this point: 'I didn’t do anything wrong. I’m right that the mud shouldn’t be on the couch. They’re the problematic one. I’m right!'
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However, your way of asserting "rightness” is hurting the trust in your relationship. They can’t hear the complaint underneath the intensity and criticism. Data has shown that if you want them to listen to you (which is the goal) that you’re better off with a gentle start-up. State what you are experiencing and state what you need: 'I see mud on your shoes, I’m worried it will get on the couch. We’ve talked about not wearing shoes on the couch. Will you take off your shoes and clean any mud up on the couch?'
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"The goal isn’t just to be right. The goal is to achieve your goals while maintaining and building trust/closeness. ⁠This is achieved not in the 'what' of the argument but in the 'how.'"

Words and graphic by Matthias J Barker Counseling

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04/12/2022

The small, everyday moments between you and your partner can have a big impact on your relationship over time. When you turn toward your partner's bids for connection, you are making a deposit in your Emotional Bank Account.
And when you turn away from your partner, you make a withdrawal. Just like a real bank account, a zero balance is
trouble, and a negative balance is the real danger zone.

Finding everyday ways to fill your emotional bank account
can help ensure that inevitable hurdles (disagreements, conflict, etc.) don't cause your relationship to dip into the
red. You will be able to weather the difficult times better when you have "savings" of goodwill to draw from.

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04/04/2022

"Gentle startups help couples to have conflict conversations.⁠
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Using a gentle start up improves the likelihood that the conversation will go in the right direction. It reduces both criticism and defensiveness. "

Words and graphic by Certified Gottman Therapist Elizabeth Earnshaw, LMFT. Read more about improving your conflict conversations on the Gottman Relationship Blog: https://fal.cn/3mnOa

03/24/2022

Shows like the Tinder Swindler, Inventing Anna, and Bad Vegan are permeating screens across the world showcasing unsuspecting people getting hoodwinked in relationships.

Romance scammers have increased significantly with the advent of dating apps. Check out the article to find out what red flags to look for when vetting your own matches!

https://www.vmematchmaking.com/post/romance-scammers-tinder-swindler-anna-delvey-bad-vegan

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03/01/2022

Do you experience anxiety before or during a date? You're not alone.

Next time you're feeling anxious while meeting someone new, try refocusing your nerves by asking meaningful questions. Doing this can lessen your worries about saying the "right" thing and can spark a fun conversation!