04/22/2026
It's been one year since my brand photoshoot, and I haven't even shared half of the photos we took! One reason is that I don't always feel so put together and ready to take on the world, the way I look in those photos. Another is that it's kind of hard to be seen especially when photos portray a certain version of you, and most days you're in sweats, with little to no makeup, and feeling overwhelmed.
As you can see if you swipe through, there are many days that I struggle. Today is one of those days. My body remembers even when I want to forgetâŠthe heaviness of losing Austin to su***de. And then there are the random days too, when grief shows up out of nowhere and brings you to your knees.
But grief isn't always tied to losing someone. Sometimes I'm grieving a life I thought I would have. I'm crying because I'm overwhelmed by my feelings, decisions, by trying to do the right thing. Sometimes I'm crying because I don't know what to do or how to feel, and sometimes I just feel so alone in it. Sometimes it's the grief of knowing Earth isn't my home, and that it was never supposed to be this way â the hardship, the loss, the weight of it all.
I'm constantly learning that grief and joy can coexist. Two things can be true at the same time. Even though I sometimes show up here as the put-together person behind my brand, I'm also the girl crying in her car. I don't have to have it all figured out. One doesn't cancel out the other.
I'm not faking anything. I genuinely don't have it all figured out, and I'm certain I never will. I can hold so much joy, laughter, and love, and also feel things deeply, emotionally, and intensely. I can show up and be seen without only showing one side.
There are many layers and that's okay. It's not this or that; it's both, and. It's a beautiful ride, and I'm learning that it's okay to be exactly who I am, even while I'm still growing.
"to provide for those who mourn in Zion; to give them a crown of beauty instead of ashes, festive oil instead of mourning, and splendid clothes instead of despair. And they will be called righteous trees, planted by the LORD to glorify him." Isaiah 61:3