11/01/2025
A Narcissist Will Study Your Strengths, Pretend to Admire Them, Then Use Them Against You
A narcissist is highly observant. From the beginning, they study your strengths — your empathy, confidence, independence, or success — and pretend to admire them. They mirror your best qualities to gain your trust, making you believe you’ve found someone who truly understands and appreciates you. But admiration from a narcissist is never genuine; it’s strategic.
Once they’ve secured your attachment, those same qualities they once praised slowly become targets. Your kindness is labelled “too soft,” your confidence becomes “arrogance,” and your independence is twisted into “selfishness.” This reversal allows the narcissist to undermine your self-esteem and reassert control. By weaponising your strengths, they keep you second-guessing yourself and dependent on their approval.
This manipulation isn’t random — it’s calculated. A narcissist cannot stand being outshone or emotionally outmatched, so they seek to dim the very light that drew them to you. The traits they attack are often the ones they secretly envy.
Recognising this pattern is vital to breaking free. True admiration uplifts and empowers you; narcissistic admiration drains and confuses you. When someone consistently turns your strengths into flaws, it’s not love — it’s control. Protect your power, and don’t let a narcissist rewrite your worth.
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Behind The Mask: The Rise Of The Narcissist
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15 Rules To Deal With Narcissistic People.: How To Stay Sane And Break The Chain.
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A Narcissists Handbook: The ultimate guide to understanding and overcoming narcissistic and emotional abuse.
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0C87NNBNP?ref_=cm_sw_r_mwn_dp_VKQZHN0VXE8W4WXTQQ20
Boundaries with Narcissists: Safeguarding Emotional, Psychological, and Physical Independence.
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CQ583RL8
Healing from Narcissistic Abuse: A Guided Journal for Recovery and Empowerment: Reclaim Your Identity, Build Self-Esteem, and Embrace a Brighter Future
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Games Narcissists Play To Destroy Those They’re Envious Of
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