Counselor Jess

04/28/2026

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04/27/2026

Stay tuned for simple, relatable tips for your marriage, your family, and your everyday life.

-Counselor Jess

01/15/2026

Using ChatGPT as a Tool for Self-Reflection (Not Therapy)

One simple tool I’ve seen people use well lately is ChatGPT, NOT FOR THERAPY, but for self-reflection.

Here’s how it can be helpful.
If you’re in the middle of a difficult text, email, or Messenger exchange and you’re feeling reactive, stuck, or confused, you can copy and paste the conversation into ChatGPT and ask it to analyze the communication.

For example, you might ask:
Is my response clear and emotionally mature?
Does this message escalate or de-escalate?
Where might I be reacting instead of responding?
Are boundaries being communicated clearly?

Why this can help:
It acts as a neutral third party
It removes ego and emotional fog
It can highlight tone, patterns, and clarity you may not see in the moment

What it’s not:
It’s not counseling
It’s not a replacement for real relationship repair
It won’t do emotional work for you
But it can help you pause, reflect, and choose a healthier response before hitting send.

Proverbs 15:1 reminds us, “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.”

Sometimes wisdom looks like slowing down long enough to get honest feedback before we speak.

Used well, tools like this can support growth, accountability, and more thoughtful communication.

Self-reflection before reaction changes everything.

12/13/2025

It's official! Save the date. That’s just $9.50 a week for a stronger marriage!

10/28/2025

🌿 COVENANT WELLNESS ESCAPE 🌿
“He makes me lie down in green pastures; He leads me beside still waters. He restores my soul.” — Psalm 23:2–3

Tucked away in a peaceful forest setting, I’m opening up my home on Saturdays to offer a guided wellness retreat unlike anything you’ll find at a crowded spa.

✨ What’s Included in Your 4-Hour Wellness Escape:

Medical-grade infrared sauna (detox + mood boost)

Cold plunge + hot tub under the trees

30-minute massage chair session with hydrogen inhalation

Hydrogen water throughout your retreat (cellular support + hydration)

Mindfulness meditation in a cozy private theater room

A peaceful nature walk on Soos Creek Trail to ground your soul in creation

Guided experience every step of the way — you just show up and rest.

🌱 Why it works:
Each element is backed by real research:

🌿 Hydrogen inhalation + water → supports antioxidant defenses, reduces inflammation

🔥 Infrared sauna → improves mood, sleep, circulation, and stress response

🧘 Mindfulness & nature walk → calms the nervous system and strengthens resilience

🕘 Start Times: 9 AM • 10 AM • 11 AM • 12 PM
💲 Investment: $100 (solo) | $150 (two people)
📍 Covington, WA

This is not a spa. This is a sacred pause.
A space to slow down, breathe deeply, and let God restore your mind, body, and spirit.

👉 Spots are limited (only 4 couples per Saturday).
📩 DM me to reserve your Wellness Escape.

10/09/2025

🌿 Natural Wellness Spotlight: 3 Powerful Herbs & Oils all help with immunity support for cold season and much more!

1. Oil of Oregano

Known for its strong antimicrobial and immune-boosting properties.

Commonly used for colds, sinus issues, and gut support.

Can be taken in capsules or diluted drops.
⚠️ Very potent—start small, avoid during pregnancy, and don’t overuse long-term.

2. California Poppy

A gentle, non-addictive calming herb that supports relaxation and sleep.

Often used for anxiety, restlessness, and mild pain relief.

Available as tincture, tea, or capsule.
⚠️ May cause drowsiness—don’t mix with sedatives or alcohol.

3. Black Seed Oil (Nigella sativa)

An ancient remedy rich in thymoquinone, offering anti-inflammatory, antioxidant, and immune support.

May support heart health, allergies, and skin healing.

Commonly taken in capsules or mixed with honey.
⚠️ Can lower blood pressure and blood sugar—use caution with related medications.

07/07/2025

Love with wisdom. Commit with intention.

📣 Most couples wait too long.

And it costs them more than they ever expected…

💔 The average couple waits 6 years after problems begin to seek help.
By then, the hurt runs deep. Communication is broken. Trust is damaged.
And counseling becomes a lifeline instead of a growth tool.

💸 Couples in crisis spend $5,000–$10,000+ on marriage counseling, retreats, or coaching to try and fix what was never built right in the first place.

🧠 But what if you prepared instead of repaired?

What if you could walk into marriage already aligned on:

Trust & communication 🤝

Conflict resolution 💬

Family & faith values 🛐

Money & long-term vision 💡

🔥 That’s what our Pre-Engagement & Courtship Coaching Series is all about.

A proactive, faith-rooted approach to love, commitment, and legacy.
Because healing is harder than preparing.

💬 DM me “READY” for early access and details.
Or drop a 💍 below if you believe in building your marriage before the wedding.

01/17/2025

Avoiding the Parenting Ditch: Finding the Healthy Middle Ground

Parenting has swung between two extremes over generations. In the past, many children were raised with a “seen and not heard” mentality—taught to obey without question, suppress their emotions, and simply “suck it up.” While obedience and resilience are valuable lessons, this rigid style often led to emotional disconnect, low self-worth, and difficulty forming healthy relationships later in life.

Recognizing this, modern parenting has shifted in the opposite direction—toward permissiveness. Many parents now avoid boundaries, structure, and discipline, believing they are fostering emotional well-being. However, this approach often results in mentally fragile young adults who struggle with resilience, confidence, and emotional regulation.

Neither extreme sets children up for success. The key is balance.

In Raising Resilient Kids, we take the best from both approaches to create a parenting style that is structured, loving, and developmentally sound. You'll learn how to:
✅ Set firm but loving boundaries that create security and confidence.
✅ Build resilience by walking your children through hard things—not shielding them from struggle.
✅ Teach emotional intelligence and self-regulation without permissiveness.
✅ Foster healthy communication so children feel safe expressing emotions while also learning respect and discipline.

Parenting isn’t about choosing a side—it’s about leading with wisdom, grace, and resilience. Join us as we learn to raise strong, emotionally healthy children who are prepared to navigate life with confidence.

Inbox me for more details

09/03/2024

A Basic 5 minute morning routine that I stick to every morning regardless of how I feel, changed my life. Some examples in the comments.

08/06/2024

I would be thrilled to offer you a no obligation, complimentary 30-60 minute coaching consultation by phone, Video, or in person if geographically possible. The best way to schedule this is to text me at 253-266-5018 with your name and your time zone so that we can schedule our call.

07/02/2024

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In this poignant episode, Sgt Q and Doc Jess, a combat veteran and medic, delve into the raw and powerful story of Jess's time as a combat medic in Iraq. Rec...

06/29/2024

So many adolescents and adults I counsel have the challenges they have because their parents failed them. Stop shielding your children from feeling uncomfortable emotions.