Evolvement Behavioral Health

01/20/2026

01/20/2026

I don't know who needs to hear this, but in a toxic family system, the healthiest person often causes the most conflict. Not because they are problematic, but because their growth, boundaries, and refusal to participate in the dysfunction create friction.

Their presence disrupts the unspoken rules of silence, denial, and control, which makes others deeply uncomfortable. The healthier you become, the more resistance you may face from those who would rather keep things the way they've always been.

Remember conflict in this context is not a sign that you're wrong, it's often proof that you're healing. – unknown

01/20/2026

When kids act out, push back, or fall apart, it’s not defiance. It’s a signal.
A signal that something feels too big, too hard, or too overwhelming.

Instead of jumping straight to consequences, try this:
💬 “That was a big reaction — are you okay?”
💬 “Looks like something’s feeling tricky right now.”

This doesn’t mean we excuse the behaviour.
It means we meet the need behind it — and guide them from there.
Because connection is what builds cooperation. 💛

📘 Find more tools like this in my book Guidance from The Therapist Parent — available at www.thetherapistparent.com or via the link in bio.

BigFeelings ParentingWisdom

01/20/2026

We still have space for a few more adult clients. One of our clinicians would like to work with postpartum Depression/Anxiety, OCD/Panic Disorder, ADHD, Parenting and couples.

01/07/2026

Happy New Year! Our operations have resumed. We have openings for adults & couples. Please contact the office at 575-571-4390 to initiate the enrollment process.

07/13/2025

There’s nothing like parenting to show us just how much growing up WE still have to do.

We expect emotional regulation from children — while we yell, shame, and slam doors.
We demand maturity — while we model reactivity.
We want cooperation — while we dish out commands with no room for connection.

Children aren’t the problem.
Their behaviour is a mirror — reflecting what they’ve been shown, not what they were born knowing.

And too often, they’re punished for being human
by adults who haven’t yet learned how to handle their own humanness.

We expect children to regulate emotions we haven’t even mastered ourselves.
We punish them for being impulsive, reactive, overwhelmed —
as if those aren’t feelings we still battle, too.

Not only is emotional dysregulation normal for kids —
it’s normal for HUMANS. All of them.

But instead of helping them through it,
we often respond with the very behaviour we’re trying to correct…

We scold them for yelling, then raise our voice.
Demand they stay calm, while losing our cool.
Call them disrespectful, while dismissing their need for dignity.

The truth is: they’re not “misbehaving.”
They’re developing.

This isn’t about blame. It’s about awareness.

Because if we want to raise emotionally intelligent children, we have to become emotionally intelligent adults.

We have to pause more often.
Reflect more honestly.
And repair more bravely.

THIS is the work.
And it starts with us. ❤️

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07/09/2025

*Applications DUE: JULY 14, 2025*

Volunteers truly are the heart of what we do at La Piñon. ♥️

Are you interested in empowering survivors of sexual assault and child abuse with a community of support and healing through advocacy?

Then we need you!

For more questions give us a call at 575-526-3437 or send an email to Paul and Patricia.

Emails: Paul@lapinon.org and Patricia@lapinon.org.

07/06/2025

When your child messes up, the way you respond shapes how safe they feel in the world.

Not just with you, but with themselves.

If every mistake is met with judgment or harsh words, they don’t learn better behavior.
They learn to hide.
They learn to be afraid of being human.

But if they see you pause and choose calm, they learn that mistakes are a part of life.
They learn it’s safe to be seen—even when they’re struggling.
They learn that love doesn’t disappear when things get hard.

This is how you become their safe place.
Not by being perfect, but by staying present.