Shadow Light Healing (2026)

03/01/2022

“Any new beginning is forged from the shards of the past, not from the abandonment of the past”

Craig D. Lounsbrough

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22/09/2021

He who doesn’t understand history is doomed to repeat it

One of the most important parts of your healing journey is understanding your past. Examining the things that have happened in our lives and learning from them

This can be an extremely difficult and triggering thing to do. Our past can often haunt us. We dwell on mistakes we have made, blame ourselves or others for the things that have happened to us, or avoid it all together

It takes a lot of courage to step back into our history and feel safe in the present. To forgive ourselves and move on, but it is crucial

How often do we ignore the red flags of a toxic relationship? How often do we blame ourselves or others for the hardships we have faced? How often do we wish to change our situation, but instead settle for the safety of what we are familiar with?

We must understand our history so we can avoid repeating it and ultimately heal and grow. Understanding who you are and the things you have experienced allow you to apply new meaning to everything you have gone through and break toxic cycles

With the right tools and guidance you can change your story and break the cycles. I can help you identify and learn from the patterns and pitfalls that are difficult to talk about, and help prevent them from happening again.

Stepping outside of familiar cycles is scary, but you don’t need to go at it alone

03/09/2021

“When I started working with Jen, I was at a low point in my life. Soon after, my anxiety had decreased and I started to build up my confidence back. She always shows up with a lot of compassion, patience and understanding. She never gives up on me, even when I don’t believe I could succeed. I love the person that I’m becoming, and it’s all due to her guidance! Each week I look forward to our sessions because I get closer to being my truest self and manifest my dreams.”
- Jaklin A

I am so proud of my client Jaki. Each week she shows up with so much courage and enthusiasm and has grown so much since we started working together. She has become such a strong, confident woman and has made incredible strides in achieving her dreams. I feel so lucky to be on this journey with her and I can’t wait to see what she accomplishes

15/08/2021

You can’t go back to a life you once had

We experience the beginning and end of relationships, we go through life and we lose our former selves

In our quest to figure out who we are, at times, we might yearn to go back to an old version of ourselves. To retrace our steps. We might reach out to old friends, try a job we were good at, reach out to an ex

Perhaps we were happier, or when we felt like we knew exactly who we were. Familiarity feels safe

But what we discover is that, what was once familiar feels like foreign ground. We realize that we are indeed different now

Maybe there is still a part of that old version, but we have grown and learned. We have become stronger, older, and hopefully wiser

This does not mean you have to completely let go of the old version. It just means that you need to learn how to integrate it into the newest version of you

You are dynamic and are made up of all the good and the bad- that’s what makes you you

Learn from the hardship and the heartache and become the best version of you that you have ever been

13/08/2021

Fear of the unknown and of failing are the two major obstacles to achieving success

We fear that we aren’t good enough, that we can’t make it on our own, and that failing makes us worthless

We don’t trust our ability to support ourselves and to make our dreams a reality. We start thinking “I wish it was easier”
and then we start thinking about who or what can “save” us, and start burning manifestation candles

You don’t need to be saved and you’re not manifesting incorrectly. You just have to start taking action and embodying who you want to become

The key here is to become curious about yourself. Find out what gets you out of bed in the morning, and start pursuing your dreams. Start making the choices your dream self would make and take aligned action

Taking aligned action no matter how small, slowly starts building our self belief and confidence

The more confidence we have to move forward the closer we get to achieving and the less we feel like we need to be “saved”

Have courage and faith that you are capable and worthy of success. And know that failures are lessons that propel you forward

23/07/2021

For those who are new to Shadow Light Healing I’d like to share a little bit of my story

When I was 19 I dropped out of school to pursue my dream of being in the fashion industry. I was left to my own devices and I wanted to become a famous fashion stylist. I knew I could make it happen

I got a job working retail. It was my “foot in the door.” It wasn’t what I wanted but nothing was beneath me at that point

I worked hard and eventually got a job selling wholesale leather. Selling leather gave me the opportunity to mingle with the fashion elite, and forge connections with well known designers. My dream of becoming a stylist felt like more of a possibility

After 3 years of selling leather, I decided it was time to go out on my own

This meant free photo shoots and getting paid little to nothing, but my dream was becoming a reality

Fast forward 8 years, and I had worked with some of the most well known celebrities in the world, I was living my dream job, but I was the unhappiest I had ever been in my life

I moved to LA and then back to NYC and had been in one of the most painful relationships of my life. I was lost, and completely unfulfilled. The dream had become a nightmare

I knew I needed to heal but didn’t know where to begin

I spoke to psychics, healers, and therapists. I tried meditation. Nothing seemed to be working. No one understood what I had been through and I felt so alone

Eventually, I figured out what actually worked for me through a lot of trial and error. I rebuilt my confidence and self esteem, met the love of my life, moved to the country, and became a proud poochie parent

I wanted to help other women like me heal. I wanted to give them the tools that took me years to find

Working with my clients has become my true dream job. It’s my passion to help others like me along their healing journey

My favorite hat by the lovely 🤍

22/07/2021

Coming into acceptance is one of the biggest milestones in your healing journey

This means you have come to accept the things and people you cannot change. You have learned to manage your emotions in a healthy way, and let go of the things that no longer serve you

Instead of responding out of anger or spite, you are able to respond from a place of neutrality. You see people through a lease of compassion, and understand that you cannot change them

When you come into acceptance it allows you to see people and situations for what they really are. You are no longer blind from emotion, and have the ability to make more informed decisions about what you want and need in your life and what you don’t

People are no longer on a pedestal. You understand who they actually are and are able to adjust your expectations for them. Hard situations become easier to handle because you have the proper tools and can properly assess what is going on

This week I had a client come into acceptance and I could not be more proud of her. The journey seemed difficult and uncomfortable at first but it was all worth it. She is no longer the victim but she has become the hero of her story

Take back the control of your life. Learn to come into acceptance, have inter peace, and become the hero of your story

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05/07/2021

We all have expectations for our partners, friends, and family. We try to “help” them by showing them their potential, and we try to change them. The desire to change someone usually comes from a good place. We believe in our hearts that they will be better for it

Initially we believe that we are doing it for the other person, but typically, changing someone else benefits us

Our desire to change someone subconsciously comes from our need for validation. Being seen and heard

Who do you wish would change? Ask yourself how you would benefit from it if they did change

Then think about when someone has tried to change you. How did that make you feel? Was there resistance? Did it cause feelings of resentment? Were you open to it?

The best thing we can do is change ourselves. When we shift the way we interact with people, and become more compassionate, the dynamic of the relationship changes

Next time you want to change someone, try changing the way you communicate with them instead. You may be pleasantly surprised

01/07/2021

The biggest catalyst for healing and growth is hardship and pain

When we go through a bad relationship, lose a relationship, when we fail at something we’ve put our heart and soul into, the loss is extremely painful no matter what

At this point you have two options. You can become resentful and angry or you can use that pain as a teacher

You can allow the pain to be there and become curious about where things went wrong. You can asses the part you played in it through a lens of compassion, and through the darkness and the hurt you can grow more than you ever thought possible

The only thing you can control is how you respond to the challenges in life, use them as stepping stones to grow

30/06/2021

Think about the last time you wanted to do something that scared you, but didn’t. Can you recall the thoughts you had at the time? What prevented you from trying?

Did you doubt your abilities and assume that you would not succeed? Did you talk yourself out of trying because you aren’t responsible enough, talented enough, or too lazy?

If you have these thoughts or thoughts like this, ask yourself why you have these beliefs about yourself. Where do these beliefs about yourself come from?

More often than not, these negative beliefs are instilled in us as children or teenagers, our most formative years

We then spend our lives as adults in a battle. The identity given to us by others VS. our true self

We are conditioned to look for validation. We want to please our parents, we want to be accepted, and naturally put a lot of weight into what people tell us about ourselves. It can be really hard to get rid of these negative beliefs because we value the opinion of others so much

Become curious about who you are right now. Reacquaint yourself with the present you, and create your own identity based on the person you want to be in the future

Instead of validating old conditioning or the opinion of others, learn to validate your worthiness with evidence. The only opinion about you that matters is your own

29/06/2021

As human beings we strive for recognition and validation. As children and into adulthood we seek validation from our parents, our friends, romantic partners, and even strangers

When we seek validation and recognition we find ourselves doing things that don’t actually make us happy

Maybe we work a job that we hate because it makes us a lot of money. Perhaps we marry someone because our parents approve of them. We might surround ourselves with friends who give us social status as opposed to support

It takes courage to step outside of what others want and expect of you. It takes courage to do the things that make you truly happy without being liked, accepted, or validated

Having the courage to take a risk and doing what you love is having absolute freedom. This is where true happiness comes from

What is something you’ve always wanted to do but haven’t done out of fear of being judged?

Whatever it is, I urge you to be courageous and do what makes you happy. Don’t allow others to determine your life choices because you certainly aren’t determining theirs

28/06/2021

I stood on the Santa Monica sidewalk with tears streaming down my face. My hands shaking as I dialed my friend’s number. She answered the phone and I explained what was happening in my relationship

Her words echoed in my mind for years to come “Jen, he is gaslighting you”

At the time I had no idea what that meant but when I looked up the definition it landed in my lap like a ton of bricks

Gaslighting is a form of manipulation that occurs in abusive relationships. It is an insidious, and sometimes covert, type of emotional abuse where the bully or abuser makes the target question their judgments and reality

Every conversation or problem was deflected back on to me. It was always my fault, and if I defended myself it was met with the silent treatment which could sometimes last days, until I finally caved and apologized. I felt crazy and out of control

It took me a very long time to learn how to protect myself from this ever happening again, and it took me an even longer time to learn how to trust

Fast forward to 2020. I am in a healthy, happy, loving relationship, and I started a business to help women like me so that they don’t have to do it alone like I did

I use this platform to talk about my own personal journey in hopes that it helps even just one person feel like they too will be able to heal

After a recent post about my experiences, I received a message. The sender clearly wanted me to stop telling my story and asked me to explain why I thought I had been abused. The message ended with “I acknowledge that your experiences were real to you.”

The sender wanted me to question and doubt myself, a gaslighting 101 technique

You should never have to explain or justify your abuse to someone else. If it happened, it’s not just your reality, but it is reality

You are not alone, and if you need help I am always here for you no matter what

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