Owning Your O, Los Angeles, CA (2025)

04/02/2025

There was no lightning bolt moment.
There was just… a slow, relentless noticing.

Of women:

• Struggling with fatigue
• Worried about burning out
• Feeling overwhelmed
• That low-level, ever-present frustration
• A quiet anger rising under the surface
• Trying to hold it all together

I recognized all of it—because I was living it too.

As a woman with ADHD, I felt like I was constantly playing catch-up in a world that wasn’t built for my brain.

As I moved into perimenopause, the cracks in that world became canyons.

The tips and tricks that used to kind of work stopped working altogether.

My nervous system was fried. My motivation was MIA. My routines fell apart.

And all the advice I was getting? “Get more organized. You need a new system. You just need meds.”

👉 No one was talking about what happens when ADHD meets hormonal shifts.
👉 No one was talking about the deep grief of losing yourself—and the equally deep desire to come back home to who you really are.

That’s why I’m here. Now.

Not because I had a perfect plan.
But because I couldn’t unsee what was happening.

I have been creating the support I wish I had years ago.
I’ve been building tools that honor the complexity of our lives and the wisdom of our bodies.

I didn’t have a single moment of clarity.
I had a hundred tiny ones.

And now, I’m ready to tell anyone who will listen:

You’re not broken.
You’re not failing.
You’re not alone.

It’s time to create a life that feels supportive, spacious, and radically honest.

This isn’t a job.
It’s a devotion.

09/12/2024

🌟 Ready to Explore Your Kink Journey and Manage ADHD? 🌟

If you’ve ever felt like ADHD creates challenges in your s*x life or relationships, let me introduce you to a powerful tool for transformation: B**M. Yes, B**M can help manage ADHD symptoms by boosting focus, motivation, and offering unique pathways to self-expression and structure. And now, my course "ADHD & B**M" is included in the Kink Bundle, a mind-blowing collection of 36 courses from the top names in kink education.

The Kink Bundle is your go-to resource for everything from practical B**M tips and exploring subspace to transforming your everyday s*x life with kink. But it’s more than just skill-building—it’s about personal empowerment, both in and out of the bedroom. With access to communication strategies, kinky apps, and much more, this magical package helps you dive deep into the Dom/sub lifestyle. 🖤

⏳ Time is ticking, though—this offer ends Wednesday, September 18th at Midnight PT. Don’t miss your shot at this one-of-a-kind opportunity!

Link to get the bundle in the comments so you can take control of your kink journey. 💥

06/28/2024

Curious about non-consensual fantasies? These common yet often misunderstood aspects of human s*xuality don't usually reflect true desires or intentions. Instead, they stem from various psychological roots, including power dynamics, curiosity, and emotional exploration.

Understanding the distinction between fantasy and reality is crucial. Just because someone has these fantasies doesn't mean they want to act on them, be harmed, or cause harm. By openly discussing these topics, we can reduce shame and guilt, fostering better mental health and self-acceptance.

Ready to break the stigma and approach these fantasies with compassion and understanding? Check out my latest blog post to dive deeper into this intriguing aspect of human s*xuality and learn how to navigate it with empathy and knowledge.

Link in the comments.

03/24/2024

Let's talk about something that often gets whispered about in shadows or laughed off uncomfortably in conversations: Fetishes. Kinks. Taboo desires. Just reading those words might stir a mix of curiosity, discomfort, or even shame. It's no surprise, really. From the get-go, society has a way of wrapping these aspects of human s*xuality in layers of secrecy and shame, making it seem like they're off-limits or somehow 'wrong.'

But what if I told you that much of the discomfort we feel could actually dissolve with a better understanding and a dose of compassion? Yes, fe**shes and kinks, those unique quirks of arousal that seem to set us apart, are more 'normal' than you might think. They're often the result of completely natural developmental imprinting that occurs during childhood and adolescence. These imprints are as varied as we are, reflecting a wide spectrum of interests and desires that, frankly, make the human experience rich and fascinating.

Imagine a world where we approach our unique s*xual blueprints with the same curiosity and openness that we do our taste in music or art. It’s possible, and it starts with us dismantling the taboos and shame that have been constructed around these natural expressions of pleasure and desire.

By learning the science behind fe**shes and understanding the neurobiology of pleasure, we can start to see these aspects of ourselves in a new light—one that's free from judgment and filled with compassion.

So, if you're even a little bit intrigued to understand the "why" behind these desires (or if you're just curious about how the mind works) I've included the link to the article and video in the comments.

Let's start dismantling the shame around fe**shes, one curious mind at a time.

03/13/2024

Interested in being a guest on my podcast?

Check the comments for the link...

02/09/2024

Join me for an empowering workshop, "Goal Setting with ADHD," designed to transform your approach to achieving personal and professional milestones. Whether you're an entrepreneur, a creative, or simply looking to refine your productivity techniques, this session is tailored to help you harness the unique strengths of your ADHD mind.

In this interactive workshop, we'll explore:

✅Understanding ADHD: How ADHD affects your goal-setting and the science behind motivation and focus.
✅Personalized Strategies: Leveraging neurodiversity to create goal-setting frameworks that work for YOU.
✅Practical Tools: Implementing actionable tips and tricks to maintain momentum and avoid common pitfalls like procrastination and time-blindness.
✅ADHD Goal Setting Checklist: Get my new checklist for setting goals when you register below. Checklist will be sent by email the day before the workshop.

By the end of our time together, you'll walk away with a clear, achievable action plan and the confidence to navigate your path to success with ADHD. Turn your aspirations into action and redefine what's possible with your neurodivergent mind!

Date: February 13
Time: 11:00 am Pacific

Location: Live on Zoom (link to register in comments)
or you can join live in the Microdosing with ADHD Facebook group (link in comments too)

10/20/2023

Do you constantly feel emotionally overwhelmed? Like your feelings are too intense for others to handle? Tired of living in fear of being "too much"?

You don't have to struggle with emotional overwhelm anymore.

Join Embodied Womanhood and transform your relationship with your feelings from the inside out.

This Program is For You If:

• You often feel emotionally out of control, like you're on a rollercoaster
• You want to cultivate relationships where you can show up authentically
• You're ready to take control and start your journey towards emotional freedom

𝗣𝗿𝗼𝗴𝗿𝗮𝗺 𝗗𝗲𝘁𝗮𝗶𝗹𝘀

Start Date: Tuesday, October 24 at 12:30 pm.
Duration: Set aside about 90 minutes for comprehensive sessions that last approximately 75 minutes.
Platform: Engage live via Zoom. Unable to join us live? All sessions are recorded so you can go back and watch whenever you need.

Do you have the right tool for the right emotion? What's in your toolbox?

During the 6 weeks you will learn specific somatic activities that work with the main emotions: Grief, Fear, Anger, Worry, and anxiety.

Only $300 for 6 weeks of LIVE coaching!

Link to register in the comments.

10/19/2023

Do you find yourself turning to your favorite self-care rituals like yoga, meditation, or going on a hike when you feel overwhelmed? But then you come back to do the thing that got you feeling overwhelmed and you're hit with those same big feelings. Back into self-care you go. Proud of yourself for finally taking care of yourself (especially when you think about how little you used to do for yourself before), but still frustrated that you're not making the kind of strides in your life that you know you're capable of.

The problem is that self-care alone soothes us in the moment, but we're still avoiding our feelings. We're going to experience the same kinds of triggers. We're going to still get overwhelmed if we don't address what's happening underneath the emotions. Relying solely on self-care keeps us stuck in a loop of temporary relief without making real progress.

I wanted to understand my emotions fully and move through them, not just cover them up. I longed to feel empowered, not overwhelmed.

That's why I created Embodied Womanhood - a 6 week live coaching program that uses the Traditional Chinese Medicine framework for understanding emotions.

TCM recognizes that each emotion has an associated energetic pattern in the body. During the program, I teach techniques tailored to these energy patterns. This allows you to work with your emotional flows, adjusting and regulating the energies in a way that moves you through the emotions skillfully.

The result is feeling truly empowered in your emotional life. Understanding your emotions and knowing how to move through them. No more self-care loop avoidance.

If this speaks to you, join Embodied Womanhood! Sessions begin October 24 at 12:30 pm Pacific. Can't join live? Don't worry, the replays will be available for you so you can watch whenever you need... especially after you get overwhelmed by your emotions again.

Link to program in comments!!
You can also leave the comment "embodied" and you'll get a DM from me with the details.

10/16/2023

How often have you wished you could simply switch off your anxiety like a light switch? The racing thoughts, the tense muscles, the unease that permeates your days - wouldn't it be amazing if you could regain control and activate a sense of inner calm on demand?

What if I told you the power is already within you? Your brain and body hold the tools to short-circuit anxiety and restore a feeling of safety - you simply need to know how to use them. Just a simple touch behind the ear can flip the switch, signaling safety to your nervous system and soothing distress.

Embodied practices leverage your body's innate wisdom to resolve the stress response and master your emotional landscape.
No more feeling helpless against the tidal wave of anxiety.
No more feeling like a captive of your emotional responses.
No more destructive emotional patterns interfering with your growth.

You can change the neural patterns etched in your nervous system and create a deep sense of resilience, confidence, and inner peace.

Small steps create big change.

10/14/2023

Have you ever been caught up in a churning cycle of thoughts and feel like you sometimes move through your days on autopilot? Each moment feeling like you're at the mercy of the world around you?

That's been me most of my life. But I knew it didn't have to be this way.

I began to explore the power of embodiment - of tuning into the wisdom of my physical form. With each mindful breath, I felt my lungs expand and contract. As I scanned my body, I released tension on exhales and felt tingles spread across my skin.

Planting my feet firmly on the ground, I tapped into sensations - the solidness under me, spreading roots down through my soles. These simple acts quieted my anxious thoughts and soothed my overwhelmed nervous system.

With consistent practice, I strengthened my mind-body connection. My senses came alive - sights became more vibrant, sounds more melodic. I learned to tap into the universe within and around me through this vessel I've been given.

As my ability to process my emotions expanded, my appreciation for my body's capacity to experience life deepened. Now, even in busy moments, I'm able to drop into an embodied awareness. Feeling my breath and physical form grounds me in the present, before emotions spiral out of control.

No longer scared of what life is going to throw at me, I have stepped into the driver's seat, navigating each moment with confidence in my ability to ride the emotional waves.

This body truly is the piece of the universe I’ve been given. And what a gift it is.

10/10/2023

Let's get real about fe**shes and kink. Emerging science reveals these interests originate through natural childhood imprinting and development - not deviance.

This week on Clubhouse, I'll be hosting rooms in my house "Awakening From Within" to explore the science and psychology behind kinks.

Join me Tuesday at 9am Pacific for educational deep dives on "The Science of Kink." We'll unpack the biological mechanisms behind our desires with compassion.

Then attend the Wednesday 1pm Pacific room to continue the thoughtful conversation in a share/care environment. (Replays will be off for this week)

Link to blog post in comments

Understanding the science fosters acceptance. Together we can bravely examine fe**sh origins and dismantle lingering taboos. I aim to promote thoughtful dialogue on these topics across social media and my blog.

10/09/2023

Let’s be honest —the taboo around fe**shes is real. The discomfort, the whispers, the unease. But what if I told you fe**sh origins are more innocent than you realize?

The truth is most fe**shes begin from normal childhood experiences and progress through normal, healthy child development. Of course, society perpetuates the myth that fe**shes are shameful or harmful.

But the facts reveal that fe**shes develop through natural biological processes. So let’s dismantle the taboos and recognize the universal humanity in our desires.

I wrote a full post and recorded a video with even more details exploring the science behind fe**shes in-depth. Link in comments.

Let’s keep expanding our minds and embracing the diversity of experiences and desires. No shame. Only curiosity and compassion.

Happy Kinktober!

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