07/29/2025
One of my other dearest friend texted me today. We have been continuously trying to transition from 3D to 5D reality and the struggle has been real. But, today after hearing her out, I shed a light on how she can break a cycle of generational trauma by reflecting upon the trauma patterns in her families on both parents’ sides.
I also want to let her know that I’m so so proud of her for stepping out of the norm and reflecting upon her own life, doing mirroring work and owning her own reality without blaming or shaming others.
Following is a poem for her and others who has been trying to elevate themselves from within by doing all the work that needs to be done at a spiritual level.
“You Break the Cycle”
This life’s a board of black and white,
Where old wounds play in day and night.
But you’ve learned moves they never knew
Now checkmate means the pain is through.
You grew up learning what they knew,
Old patterns wrapped in what felt true.
You carried pain that wasn’t yours,
Silent behind familiar doors.
They did their best, but didn’t see
The weight passed down unconsciously.
But you—you stopped and faced the storm,
Refused to call that hurt the norm.
You speak the things they pushed away,
Feel what they couldn’t in their day.
With every choice, with every tear,
You make the path ahead more clear.
It ends with you, and starts anew
Because you dared to see it through.
And those who walk the road you pave
Will know they’re loved, and they’ll feel safe.
So when it’s hard, and you feel small,
Remember—you’re healing it all.
One breath, one step, one truth you claim
You break the cycle. You change the game.
Here are some practical and compassionate suggestions for anyone wanting to break generational cycles and begin the healing journey:
🌱 1. Awareness is the First Move
Start by observing your thoughts, reactions, and patterns—especially in moments of conflict or stress. Ask yourself: Is this truly mine, or something I inherited?
🧬 2. Learn Your Family Story
Speak with elders if possible. Understand what your parents or grandparents went through. Empathy helps you make sense of what was passed down and why.
🧘🏽♀️ 3. Feel to Heal
Allow yourself to feel emotions you’ve suppressed—anger, grief, fear, even guilt. Journaling, therapy, meditation, and body-based practices like yoga can help you release what was never yours to carry.
✨ 4. Set New Boundaries
It’s okay to say no. You don’t have to follow old rules or keep harmful dynamics alive just to be accepted. Healthy boundaries protect your peace and model self-respect for others.
🧠 5. Reparent Yourself
Give yourself what you didn’t get growing up—validation, safety, and love. Speak kindly to yourself. Learn to nurture your inner child like a loving parent would.
💬 6. Use Your Voice
Generational trauma often thrives in silence. Start talking—whether in therapy, support groups, or with trusted friends. Telling your story helps dissolve shame.
📚 7. Educate Yourself
Learn about trauma, nervous system regulation, and ancestral healing. Knowledge is a powerful tool to shift unconscious behaviors into conscious healing.
🔄 8. Create New Patterns
Choose small, consistent changes. That could mean showing affection, practicing gratitude, or simply pausing before reacting. Little shifts lead to big transformations over time.
🌟 9. Be Patient With the Process
Healing isn’t linear. Some days you’ll fall back into old patterns—and that’s okay. Each time you choose differently, you’re rewriting the story.
🌳 10. Know That You Are the Turning Point
Your courage changes everything. You may never get an apology, but your healing ripples forward—through your children, your relationships, and your legacy.
