Thais Sky, Los Angeles, CA (2026)

01/19/2026

If I stay harsh with myself, at least I know the rules. At least I’m in control. At least nothing new has to be risked.

Especially at the start of a new year, self-criticism can masquerade as motivation or discipline… when in reality, it’s often a way of managing fear, disappointment, and the unknown.

In my latest podcast episode (episode 216), I explore why we turn against ourselves in moments of transition, what self-criticism is protecting us from, and how we might begin the year without using self-hate as a coping strategy.

🎧 Listen to How to Start the New Year Without Self-Hate wherever you get your podcasts (including YouTube) by searching for “RECLAIM with Thais Sky.” All links in bio!

01/15/2026

🎧 Listen to How to Start the New Year Without Self-Hate wherever you get your podcasts by searching for “RECLAIM with Thais Sky.” All links in bio!

01/14/2026

Self-hate is often mistaken for discipline, ambition, or “holding yourself accountable.” Especially at the start of a new year, it can feel like the force that keeps you moving, improving, trying harder.

But when self-hate goes unexamined, it doesn’t lead to growth… instead it often leads to exhaustion, paralysis, and a narrowing of possibility. It keeps you loyal to old inner contracts that confuse punishment with change.

In my latest podcast episode, I explore why self-hate intensifies around the new year, what function it actually serves, and what it might mean to begin the year without turning against yourself.

🎧 Listen to How to Start the New Year Without Self-Hate wherever you get your podcasts by searching for “RECLAIM with Thais Sky.” All links in bio!

01/13/2026

New Year, new podcast cover art!

In celebration, I have a new episode available for you to listen on self-hate and New Year’s resolutions.

Starting the year with self-hate isn’t a failure of motivation or discipline.
 For many people, it’s a familiar way of coping with uncertainty, disappointment, and hope that feels risky.

In this episode, I explore why self-hate often intensifies at the start of a new year, what role it may be playing and what it might mean to begin the year without turning against yourself.

🎧 Listen wherever you get your podcasts or watch on YouTube. All links in bio!

01/12/2026

Envy tends to spike this time of year. 
New goals. New bodies. New lives. At least, according to the algorithm.

But envy isn’t actually about their promotion, their relationship, their discipline, or their clarity. It’s about what gets stirred inside when we’re confronted with someone else’s becoming.

Often, envy points to an internal ache: a place where something feels stalled, disallowed, or longed for but not yet lived. And the new year (with its loud insistence that we should be more by now) presses right on that tender spot.

Rather than shaming it or rushing to self-improvement, it’s worth asking what envy is trying to protect, mourn, or name. There’s information there if we’re willing to listen instead of judge.

Because it turns out, envy, in fact, is not really about the other person at all.

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If you want to hear more about navigating envy, I have a whole podcast episode on it. Go check it out wherever you get your podcasts including YouTube, iTunes and Spotify! It’s episode 212 and all the links are in my bio. You can also go to thaissky.com/podcast/212.

01/07/2026

If you’re feeling a little bit tired of the “new year, new me”narrative, know you’re not alone. For a decade now my new year’s eve attitude has been no resolutions. No proclamations of what I need to change. No super specific goals.

Just a few thoughtful intentions and a trust that my growth will unfold in the perfect of ways as long as I continue to show up for it.

At one point this felt really radical for me. But I have found that I don’t actually need to hold myself to super specific “goals” in order to succeed and grow and feel like I am living my best life. So if I don’t need it, why continue to push it on myself? Maybe there is a different way. A softer way. A kinder way.

Can we grow without demanding that our wounding disappear?

Can we grow without shaming the ways we are not living up?

Can we grow without attacking our underdeveloped parts?

Maybe just in asking these questions lies a hope that it is possible. May our lives reflect that hope.

Here’s to another messy year of navigating being human and honoring ourselves as best as we can. I cannot wait to be there with you every step of the way. Take care of yourself as you look towards the new year, and trust that however way you want to approach it, will be right for you.

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My yearly Year in Review is available for download for just a few more days! To grab this free 70 page resource to help you review and close your 2025, go to thaissky.com/review, use link in bio or comment “REVIEW” to get a link in your DMs.

01/06/2026

Every year around this time of the year I see an increase of instagram posts that say something like “In the New Year I will leave behind____” or “This is the year I stop doing ____ and start doing ____.”

It can feel really empowering to read something like this, especially when it aptly names something we really struggle with, like prioritizing our needs or communicating our boundaries.

However, language matters. And more specifically, language precision matters.

My struggle with the above examples is that it implies that we have ability to just command ourselves to stop being a certain way. To just change decades old patterns and ways of relating. As if there isn’t a reason why we are the way we are.

This idea that changing ourselves is just a matter of deciding to stop or start something goes against everything we know about psychology and how humans change. If change were as easy as demanding it of ourselves, we would be living on a much different planet.

So even though the meaning between the two sentences in my post may be the same to some, for me it speaks to two very different ways of relating to ourselves.

Personally, the second sentence feels more spacious. It invites a knowing that change takes time and practice and awareness. And it often requires a lot of support.

So if you are reading a bunch of “stop” posts, and it doesn’t feel very good for you, maybe I am putting some words as to why. You don’t have to take on that energy if you don’t want. There is another way. May we be gentle with ourselves as we grow.

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My yearly Year in Review is coming down! To grab this free 70 page resource to help you review and close your 2025, go to thaissky.com/review or use link in bio.

01/05/2026

Just a quick reminder that you don’t need New Year’s resolutions to change or be your best self. And in fact, setting up resolutions may actually be what’s getting in your way to feeling more of how you want to feel.

12/24/2025

Hi there — if you’re new here (and new to me), welcome.

I’m a psychotherapist, podcast host, and writer with a psychoanalytic orientation, and my work centers on questions of worth, relationships, and the inner conflicts that shape how we live and love.

I’m interested in helping people understand themselves more deeply... not to optimize or fix themselves... but to make sense of their emotional lives with greater honesty and freedom.

You can learn more about my work at www.Thaissky.com, where you’ll also find resources for thinking about worth, relational patterns, and the quieter, often less visible struggles many of us carry.

If you’d like, you can also join my email list to receive periodic reflections on belonging to yourself, psychological depth, and the process of living with more awareness. You can sign up at www.Thaissky.com/email.

I’m glad you’re here.

Warmly,
Thais

12/23/2025

For as long as I can remember I have been intently interested in understanding myself and what it means to be human.

While this type of self-analysis can sometimes came from an anxiety that there is something wrong with you, I also think there is something really beautiful about the deep curiosity many of us have about the human experience.

I personally have always valued insight. And I can credit many wonderful internal and external journeys as a result of it.

That is why I created a formal review process in dec of 2017. I wanted a process that would help me make sense of the previous year. It felt important to me to make meaning in a way that would help me build the new year.

Because how we make meaning of what has happened defines so much of how we currently see ourselves and the world. As we build a life where insight and self-awareness are valued, a life where reflection and slowing down are honored, a life where curiosity is more important than judgement, we begin to feel more spacious in our healing.

This year I am honored to share with you my next iteration of the year in review. Get it at thaissky.com/review or comment “REVIEW” for the link in your DMs. I can’t wait to hear how it lands for you!

AND I am hosting a writing group for us to gather and be in the process of Reviewing, together. It’s happening this Sunday, Dec 28th, at 6pm Pacific. You can register at thaissky.com/writing-group or comment “WRITING” to get a DM with the registration link.

All links in bio!

12/22/2025

I hope you get to spend some time in the next couple weeks honoring all that has transpired in your 2025.

And if you would like help with it, I have a free Year in Review that you can download to guide your process of review. 60+ pages of comprehensive questions and rituals to help you know more of your 2025 so you can find more clarity for your 2026. Get it at thaissky.com/review or comment “REVIEW” for the link in your DMs.

AND I am hosting a writing group for us to gather and be in the process of Reviewing, together. It’s happening THIS SUNDAY, Dec 28th at 6pm Pacific. You can register at thaissky.com/writing-group or comment “WRITING” to get a DM with the registration link.

All links in bio!

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