Over the Rug Therapy

Over the Rug Therapy Problems don’t improve when we sweep them under the rug. Let’s talk about it! � Trauma therapist �

A relatable holiday story🎄Can’t wait to release my ebook + workbook next year ✨🫶🏽 Comment ATTACHMENT to join my waitlist...
12/23/2025

A relatable holiday story🎄

Can’t wait to release my ebook + workbook next year ✨

🫶🏽 Comment ATTACHMENT to join my waitlist, or signup with the link in bio

Attachment patterns show up in every crevice of your life, especially in the way you communicate!- Anxious attachments a...
12/20/2025

Attachment patterns show up in every crevice of your life, especially in the way you communicate!

- Anxious attachments are known for heightened sensitivity to connection and reassurance, often scanning for signs of closeness or distance in relationships.

- Avoidant attachments are known for prioritizing independence, emotional space, and privacy, especially when closeness feels overwhelming or intrusive.

- Disorganized attachments are known for simultaneously craving connection and fearing it, leading to push-pull dynamics that feel confusing.

- Secure attachments are known for feeling comfortable with both intimacy and autonomy, and trusting that connection can be repaired when strain or conflict arises.

What type of texter are you? I can be all 3… depends on the day! 🙃

Got some good questions about attachment styles the other day and I realized that not everyone knows about these therape...
12/17/2025

Got some good questions about attachment styles the other day and I realized that not everyone knows about these therapeutic concepts. Please allow me to break it down for you 🫶🏽

My main framework as a therapist is attachment and psychodynamic practices, OR (in language everyone can understand), I use depth-oriented approaches that focus on early relationships and the patterns they create. These approaches look beneath behavior to understand *why* we react the way we do. I view behavior as protective responses rather than flaws.

Understanding these therapeutic concepts has changed my life and my relationships. I’m sharing with you so you, too, can experience healthy, secure relationships. My workbook on this comes out in a few weeks—sign up for my mailing list to get early access!

12/16/2025

Reemon and I have a secure attachment with each other, but (as you can see in this video) our predominate attachment patterns still peek out. He has avoidant tendencies and I have anxious tendencies—the classic avoidant/anxious dynamic!

Anxious and avoidant partners often end up together because one learned early on to pursue closeness when love feels uncertain, while the other learned to create distance when intimacy feels overwhelming. Without realizing it, they’re both replaying the attachment dynamics they grew up with and unconsciously confirming each other’s deepest fears about love.

And for context: there’s a third insecure attachment style too. Disorganized attachment develops when the same people meant to provide safety also become a source of fear (think domestic violence, parental abuse towards kids, lots of yelling in the home, etc), leaving the nervous system stuck in a push-pull between craving closeness and bracing for harm.

Can you name one of my core fears from watching this reel? 😮‍💨🥲

Our attachments don’t form in a vacuum. Our nervous system learned about safety not only from your caregivers, but from ...
12/15/2025

Our attachments don’t form in a vacuum. Our nervous system learned about safety not only from your caregivers, but from how the world and our communities responded to our body, identities/culture, and family.

As children, we internalize systemic messages long before we can name them. Repeated experiences of bias, scarcity, or exclusion teach the nervous system to anticipate pain loss—even in loving homes. That anticipation often shows up later as insecure attachment.

Intersectionality is one of my favorite things to talk about and consider as a therapist. We are all part of a larger system, and we must be willing to acknowledge this for us to fully understand ourselves and our patterns.

Do you agree? 🤞🏽

If this resonates, my Attachment Reset Workbook drops next month and goes much deeper into how attachment, identity, and systemic forces shape our patterns.

Save this post to stay tuned. 🫶🏽

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