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04/22/2023

Core needs are "must haves" not, "would be nice to have." To successfully compromise, you need to explore what your core needs on the issue are vs. where you can be more flexible.

On the Gottman Relationship Blog, Anna Aslanian, LMFT, shares an example of compromising that may help give you a better understanding of how to do this in your own life. Read it here: https://bit.ly/3MD7vMk

04/22/2023

We could all use the additional support from time to time 💯

Affirmations to remember to practice in any moment of difficulty, discomfort, or unease.

🐻 May I be strong
🦋 May I be kind to myself
✨ May I believe in myself
🌞 May I give myself the compassion that I need
🙏🏽 May I be patient
🌈 May I learn to accept myself as I am
🌳May I trust my goodness

03/22/2023

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If avoiding stress is impossible, how do we adjust our relationship to it? One of my favorite strategies for changing our relationship to stress is to cultivate curiosity.

In order to distance ourselves from our stress, we must understand where it comes from. We can't do that unless we consider what it might be signposting and examine our experience. What are the circumstances surrounding this stressful moment? How is your behavior contributing to the situation? What does your inner dialogue sound like when you're feeling anxious? How can you invite your values into this moment of challenge?

Recognize the patterns in your responses.

03/22/2023

Employee mental and emotional wellbeing is being ignored, a tech CEO believes. Self-care programs should be baked into company benefits, she says.

03/22/2023

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03/22/2023

How often do you share compliments? Regularly expressing appreciation can dramatically change your relationship for the better.

When you're playing the Gottman Game of Hearts this month, share a compliment with your partner each time a Clubs card comes up. Not sure where to start? Pre-fill this script a few times before you start playing, and you'll be ready!

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03/22/2023

When we make a request, we ask someone else to do, or not to do, something in order to meet our needs. When we set a boundary, we are making clear what our actions will be. An ultimatum is specifically designed to control somebody else.

On the Gottman Relationship Blog, Hailey Paige Magee breaks down the differences between requests, boundaries, and ultimatums. http://bit.ly/3l5HVnR

03/20/2023

The world is a chaotic, uncertain place, but this I know for sure: we can always benefit from a little self-compassion.

Loosen your grip today. Let the chips fall where they may. See what happens when you allow yourself to be an "imperfect" human being—the kind that cries at a commercial, spills the tomato sauce while cooking dinner, and puts the kids to bed later than expected. The kind that doesn't always say the right thing.

Stop judging and start loving. You're doing the best you can, and that's enough.

03/20/2023

YES! Words have power.

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03/02/2023