01/12/2026
Let me say som**hing that might make people uncomfortable—but discomfort is usually where the truth lives.
Your triggers are your responsibility.
Not your partner’s.
Not your friends’.
Not the internet’s.
Not the world’s.
The world does not owe you soft edges. It doesn’t come with warning labels, safe spaces, or a customized setting designed around your wounds. Life is chaotic, loud, unfair, and relentless. And if you expect everyone else to tiptoe around your pain, you’re handing your power away.
Now, that doesn’t mean your pain isn’t real. It is. Trauma is real. Conditioning is real. The nervous system remembers things the mind tries to forget. All of that is true.
But here’s the hard part no one likes to talk about: healing begins the moment you stop making your triggers someone else’s job.
A trigger isn’t a weapon to control the room. It’s a signal. It’s information. It’s your mind saying, “There’s still work to do here.” And that work? That’s yours.
When you take responsibility for your triggers, som**hing powerful happens. You stop reacting and start responding. You stop blaming and start understanding. You stop living in defense mode and start living with intention.
Because if every uncomfortable moment sends you spiraling, you’re not free—you’re fragile. And freedom doesn’t come from avoidance. It comes from resilience.
Growth is learning how to sit with discomfort without letting it hijack your behavior. It’s learning how to feel without exploding. It’s learning how to face your past without demanding the present protect you from it.
That’s strength.
That’s maturity.
And that’s how you stop surviving and start actually living.
— j. anthony |