Hypnotherapy with Kristiana

02/07/2026

My abusers behaviour escalated once I had the courage to escape and tell someone. Suddenly he was being exposed and abusers can't take that

01/28/2026

01/24/2026

The mother and father wounds describe emotional patterns that form through our early relationships with caregivers. The mother wound comes from the relationship with the mother or mother figure and reflects how emotional care, comfort, and closeness were experienced. The father wound comes from the relationship with the father or father figure and reflects how protection, guidance, and reliability were experienced. These patterns develop in childhood and often influence how we relate to others and ourselves later on. Most people carry aspects of both though one pattern usually becomes dominant under stress.

Here’s some info on how they form, their lasting impact, & how to start healing. 🕊️❤️‍🩹

01/02/2026

There’s something your body knows
long before your mind catches up:
the right people don’t disrupt your peace —
they regulate it.

You don’t have to perform around them.
You don’t have to calculate your tone,
your facial expressions,
your level of enthusiasm,
your carefully measured vulnerability.

Your chest doesn’t tighten.
Your thoughts don’t scatter.
Your guard doesn’t slam shut
the moment you misread a micro-expression.

With the right people,
your nervous system stops bracing for impact
because there is no impact coming.
No sharp edges.
No hidden agenda.
No emotional landmines waiting to explode
because of something you didn’t even know you did.
Just steadiness.

Quiet safety.

A felt sense of, “I don’t have to survive in this room.”
That’s what real alignment is.
Not butterflies.
Not fireworks.
Not the adrenaline of trying to be “enough.”
But a grounded, steady exhale you didn’t realise
you’ve been holding your whole life.

And here’s the truth trauma teaches you the hardest way:
Your body will pull away from the wrong people
even while your mind makes excuses for them.
Your tension is information.
Your exhaustion is information.
Your anxiety around them is information.
Your instinct to shrink, to silence yourself, to disappear—
all of it is your system saying:
“This connection costs too much.”

Because the right people?
They don’t demand a version of you
that betrays the real one.
They make you feel balanced,
not because they’re perfect,
but because they don’t make you fight for emotional safety
inside your own skin.

And when you finally meet them—
the ones who speak to your nervous system,
not your wounds—
you’ll realise something heartbreaking
and liberating at the same time:
It was never that you were “too much.”

You were just surrounded by people
who weren’t capable of meeting you.
The right people won’t drain you.
They won’t confuse you.
They won’t make you question your worth.
They won’t make your body collapse into survival mode.
They’ll feel like stillness.
Like clarity.
Like ease.
Your soul doesn’t recognise people by words.
It recognises them by how your body feels
when you’re finally safe.

And once you’ve felt that?
You’ll never again settle for the chaos
you once mistook for connection.

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12/14/2025

There’s something your body knows
long before your mind catches up:

the right people don’t disrupt your peace —
they regulate it.

You don’t have to perform around them.
You don’t have to calculate your tone,
your facial expressions,
your level of enthusiasm,
your carefully measured vulnerability.

Your chest doesn’t tighten.
Your thoughts don’t scatter.
Your guard doesn’t slam shut
the moment you misread a micro-expression.

With the right people,
your nervous system stops bracing for impact
because there is no impact coming.

No sharp edges.
No hidden agenda.
No emotional landmines waiting to explode
because of something you didn’t even know you did.

Just steadiness.
Quiet safety.
A felt sense of, “I don’t have to survive in this room.”

That’s what real alignment is.

Not butterflies.
Not fireworks.
Not the adrenaline of trying to be “enough.”
But a grounded, steady exhale you didn’t realise
you’ve been holding your whole life.

And here’s the truth trauma teaches you the hardest way:

Your body will pull away from the wrong people
even while your mind makes excuses for them.

Your tension is information.
Your exhaustion is information.
Your anxiety around them is information.
Your instinct to shrink, to silence yourself, to disappear—
all of it is your system saying:

“This connection costs too much.”

Because the right people?
They don’t demand a version of you
that betrays the real one.

They make you feel balanced,
not because they’re perfect,
but because they don’t make you fight for emotional safety
inside your own skin.

And when you finally meet them—
the ones who speak to your nervous system,
not your wounds—
you’ll realise something heartbreaking
and liberating at the same time:

It was never that you were “too much.”
You were just surrounded by people
who weren’t capable of meeting you.

The right people won’t drain you.
They won’t confuse you.
They won’t make you question your worth.
They won’t make your body collapse into survival mode.

They’ll feel like stillness.
Like clarity.
Like ease.

Your soul doesn’t recognise people by words.
It recognises them by how your body feels
when you’re finally safe.

And once you’ve felt that?
You’ll never again settle for the chaos
you once mistook for connection.

11/30/2025

10/20/2025

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10/07/2025

I could not agree more with the description below. It is an awful experience and no one should ever be made to feel lesser than, by immature, envious and jealous people.

WHEN YOU ARE IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH A NARCISSIST YOU SLOWLY END UP FORGETTING WHO YOU ONCE WERE. At first, it might feel like harmless compromises—small adjustments to keep the peace, to avoid their anger, or to prevent yet another argument. But those small compromises accumulate, and bit by bit, you begin to lose pieces of yourself. The person who once spoke freely, laughed without restraint, trusted easily, and felt deeply is replaced by someone who walks on eggshells, constantly scanning for approval, silently enduring criticism, and doubting their every thought and emotion.

You start to question your reality. Every feeling is scrutinized, every reaction judged, and every decision filtered through the lens of how it will affect them. Your dreams and desires are pushed aside, considered trivial or selfish. Friends and loved ones notice a change—you’re quieter, less confident, more withdrawn—but it’s hard to explain when even you can’t fully recognize the person you’ve become. You stop trusting your instincts, because every time you assert yourself, you are met with manipulation, gaslighting, or emotional punishment.

Over time, your boundaries dissolve, your passions fade, and the vibrant, authentic self you once cherished feels like a distant memory. Even joy, love, and laughter—once your natural expressions—start to feel foreign, replaced with constant anxiety, self-doubt, and fear. It’s not just emotional exhaustion—it’s a slow erasure of identity, a relentless rewriting of who you are to serve someone else’s ego.

And the worst part? Often, you don’t even realize it’s happening until you look back and can barely remember the person who existed before them. You may feel trapped, confused, and isolated, wondering if the real you even still exists beneath the layers of survival, appeasement, and self-doubt. A relationship with a narcissist doesn’t just hurt—it slowly devours the essence of who you are, leaving you struggling to reclaim the person you once were.

07/16/2025

Haha :) Quite familiar, except for the atoms and galaxies 😁

❤️❤️❤️

07/07/2025

Great article about people pretending to be kind, who are actually mean underneath the fake facade:

We all know someone who seems charming, generous, or kind—at least on the surface. But over time, something feels off. Their words start to sting. Their