Pause to Remember

11/10/2025

The holidays are quickly approaching. This can be a tough time of year while grieving the loss of your baby.

We are meeting tomorrow (Monday) at 7pm EST via Zoom.

To receive the Zoom link, sign up here: https://pausetoremember.org/virtual-support-group

Come as you are even if it is from your call room! Whitney and I will see you on Zoom.

08/11/2025

If you are struggling, need someone to listen, or feeling any emotion that is impacting you, Whitney and I will be on Zoom from 7-8pm EST tonight to listen.

This is a peer-to-peer grief support group specifically for female healthcare providers grieving after pregnancy or infant loss.

We have had providers join us when their loss is recent (a week or two) and others that feel triggered (sometimes due to a difficult case/patient at work) or experiencing another rise in their grief months to years later. There is no defined end to grief.

To get the Zoom link, complete the form on the Pause to Remember website here: https://pausetoremember.org/virtual-support-group

Please know you are not alone.❤️🙏🏻

Monthly Virtual Grief Support Group for Healthcare Providers grieving after miscarriage, stillbirth, infant loss, or other pregnancy and infant loss.

07/14/2025

If you feel like no one understands what you are feeling or going through as a healthcare provider grieving after pregnancy or infant loss, come to our peer-to-peer support group tonight at 7pm EST.

You can come, speak openly about your experience. We are not here to "fix" anything--simply to hold space for you.

We want you to feel seen and heard during a difficult time in your life.

Grief has many ebbs and flows. Sometimes it is 10 steps forward and 3-5 steps back with a different timeline for each individual.

You can come if you just experienced a loss or it has been years and the grief is resurfacing for any reason.

Please know you are not alone.

To receive the Zoom link, go to: https://pausetoremember.org/virtual-support-group

06/29/2025

06/09/2025

TONIGHT, the Virtual Support Group meets via Zoom at 7pm EST.

This is a space for you to come just as you are. We are not trying "to fix" anything. We are simply here, as your peer, to listen and offer you support, as needed.

You can grab the Zoom link from the Pause to Remember website: https://pausetoremember.org/virtual-support-group

I hope to see you tonight.

05/05/2025

As Mother’s Day approaches, know that whatever you are feeling is real.

May you find ways to honor those feelings.

May you feel love and support.

May you find a way to honor the baby (or babies) you long to hold.

Sending you thoughts of warmth and peace on this International Bereaved Mother’s Day.

04/16/2025

To the Pause to Remember community,

I want to acknowledge my absence and let you know how deeply each of you matter to me. Thank you to those of you who have reached out with kind words and support—it has truly meant so much. 🙏

In this season of personal loss, I’m honoring my own advice: leaning into rest, practicing self-care, and spending time in nature with close friends. I’m continuing to step back just a little longer so I can return grounded and ready to hold space for you in the way you deserve.

With gratitude and care,
~Amy Pelkey

Linda Aspinall passed away on April 5, 2025. This page is to honor her memory and communicate with her family.

04/14/2025

💔 Tonight’s Support Group Is Canceled 💔

Dear Pause to Remember Community,

I want to personally reach out and let you know that I need to cancel tonight’s virtual support group. This is the first time we’ve had to cancel since the group began, and I don’t take that lightly.

Over the past year and a half, I’ve been walking through one of the most emotional and stressful chapters of my life—advocating for my mother as she entered the final stage of a 13-year journey with Alzheimer’s disease.

In late February, everything changed. I became her legal guardian and conservator—stepping into a role I never expected but felt deeply called to accept. The weeks that followed were filled with heartbreak, sacred moments, and hard decisions as I flew back and forth to Maine. Last weekend, my mother passed away peacefully, holding my hand.

I apologize for canceling tonight, but I need to pause. I’m still in the early days of grief and simply don’t have the emotional capacity to hold space in the way this community deserves. My co-host Whitney also has a family commitment tonight and is unable to facilitate in my place.

This group means so much to me—and to all of us. The most honest and respectful thing I can do tonight is honor what I need: to grieve, to rest, to breathe.

If you’re hurting tonight, please reach out in the Facebook group. We’ve all walked through the unthinkable—and yet we keep showing up for each other with tenderness, courage, and compassion.

I’ll be back for next month’s gathering. Until then, please know: I see you. I honor your grief. And I’m so grateful to be walking this path beside you.

Warmly,
Amy 🤍
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