09/30/2025
It’s NICU Awareness Day to round out it a month honoring all of the brave parents and babies who needed the support of the NICU.
What I have learned from coaching clients, some birth clients, and even a few friends, is that when your baby or babies need this support two things are often true at once— you know that’s where they need to be AND you are robbed of those precious moments after birth that are supposed to be. We talk of the “Golden Hour”, that hour or two after birth where baby lays with their parent/s and they bond, stay warm and snug, and attempt a fumbly first latch. NICU parents don’t get that. Instead, they have to trust fall into allowing strangers to nurture their baby. They pump, they cry, they don’t sleep, they visit the NICU but often can’t stay. They have to trust others to do the thing they so dearly long to do. And it’s for hours— or days— or weeks— or months. In that time, parents intuition isn’t stroked or nourished. So when they are home, they may question what they know about their very own baby.
Be gentle with yourselves NICU parents. This IS hard. This ISN’T how it was supposed to be. It’s traumatic. You do know exactly how to parent your baby even if it doesn’t feel that way right away. You are brave and beautiful. 💪💚