11/17/2025
You don’t have to admit it, but I will: Segglessness in a relationship is common.
When a relationship becomes seggless - which can be a result of many things like infidelity or health problems - or when seggs isn’t pleasurable for a long time, Sensate Focus can be your golden ticket. Your body can begin to recognize seggs and touch as a threat. The sympathetic nervous system sends signals that can result in physically turning away, clinching, a headache, and even feelings of anxiety. This all happens subconsciously, so even though it’s “in your head”, it is VERY real.
Sensate Focus literally rewires your brain to crave touch and intimacy, rather than fear it. We start with slowly reintroducing touch, entirely removing seggs as a factor. The goal is that your brain stops associating touch with seggs, creating a safe space to later gently reintroduce intimacy. Eventually, your libido improves and the body will begin to crave touch more - and yes, this is absolutely backed by decades of research and science.
I want you to know that if your relationship and intimacy is struggling, you aren’t alone. And there are incredible therapies available that help reintroduce seggs in a non-threatening way - Sensate Focus being one of my favorites.
Have you heard of Sensate Focus before?
