12/29/2025
An Open Letter to Service Dog Handlers,
We see you.
To the owner-trainer in the thick of puppyhood—counting potty breaks instead of sheep and setting alarms you never wanted—this part is hard. You’re exhausted. Your sleep is broken. The crate feels loud, your coffee is cold, and you’re wondering if you’ll ever feel rested again. You will. Housebreaking clicks. The midnight trips fade. One day you’ll realize you slept through the night and didn’t even notice when it happened. The early kennel-training protests will become a distant memory, even though right now they feel endless. Keep going. You’re building a foundation that will carry you both far. You can do this.
To the handlers who chose to work with a professional trainer or send their puppy to a board-and-train—this step is emotional in a way few people understand. Handing over the leash feels like sending your first child to school. The house is quiet. Too quiet. Take a deep breath. Those weeks will pass faster than you expect, and when your dog comes home, the growth will be undeniable. You’ll recognize your dog—but you’ll also see confidence, skills, and maturity that make every hard moment worth it.
And then comes adolescence. The stage no one glamorizes. Reactivity may pop up where none existed before. You might deal with marking, chewing, boundary-testing, and behaviors you thought were long gone. It’s frustrating. It’s discouraging. It’s normal. This is not failure. This is development. You are not losing ground—you are teaching through it. Stay consistent. The storm passes, and the lessons stick.
As the two-year mark approaches, something shifts. The “in training” patches come off—whether your dog was owner trained or program trained. Fear periods fade. Puppy chaos settles. Standing in front of you is the dog you once hoped for during the hardest days. For program handlers who have waited so long, the moment finally arrives: meeting the partner who will walk beside you through daily life. For owner trainers, it’s the quiet realization that you did it. Together.
Public access challenges don’t disappear—but they change you. Every confrontation, every awkward interaction, every moment you advocate for your team builds confidence and skill. You learn how to stand your ground with grace and clarity. Don’t back down. When you educate, you’re not just protecting your team—you’re protecting the teams who come after you.
And when you encounter a dog in public that clearly doesn’t belong there, pause for a moment. Look at your own dog, calmly tucked at your feet in the checkout line. Remember the sleepless nights, the training setbacks, the tears, the doubts. Your dedication shows. You earned the right to be there the correct way.
Don’t give up.
We see you.
We hear you.
We know what you’ve been through—and what you’re still navigating.
You are not alone.
— Blues City Service Dogs