Inner Knowing Psychotherapy & Consciousness Work

01/27/2026

At some point, being empathic starts to feel like self-betrayal.

And choosing power starts to feel like relief.

Two voices keep taking turns inside.

One says: Enough is enough
The other says: Stay open.

This feels like the dilemma of our time.

Personally and collectively, we’re caught between two imperatives:
empathize — or draw the line.

‘Enough’ brings clarity, boundaries, finality.
This part restores dignity. It stops leakage. It ends self-betrayal. It brings inner clarity, and massive relief of the inner tension.

The other says:
Stay open. Stay human. Don’t close your heart.
This part preserves connection, meaning, love.

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Why the “power move” feels so seductive

Because it collapses complexity.

Power simplifies.
It gives the nervous system a clean line: in / out, yes / no, safe / unsafe.
That relief is real — especially after years of being the one who bends, understands, empathizes, adapts.

But power has a hidden cost:
it exiles tenderness, curiosity, grief, dependency, longing.
Not forever — but until they return as symptoms.

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Why endless empathy becomes unbearable

Because empathy without reciprocity turns into self-erasure.

Openness without protection isn’t love — it’s exposure.
And eventually, the psyche revolts.

So the first voice says:
Why should I keep being the one who stays open when no one meets me there?

That voice is exhausted.

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The real question isn’t “Which one is right?”

It’s this:

Who is holding the power?

When a part takes power, it dominates.
When awareness holds power, parts can coexist.

This is the subtle but radical distinction.

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The middle ground is not a compromise

It’s not “half boundary, half empathy.”

The middle ground is standing in awareness while allowing both truths to exist — without rushing to resolve the tension.

That’s why it feels unbearable to the mind.
The mind wants closure.
Awareness tolerates paradox.

In this space:

•You can say “enough is enough” without becoming hard
•You can feel empathy without self-abandonment
•You can set boundaries without moral superiority
•You can stay open without staying available

This is not passive.
It’s actually the most adult position there is.

06/17/2025

Anger, Boundaries, and Success

How can developing a conscious relationship with anger help us set boundaries, thrive in relationships, and achieve success?

Boundaries shape every part of our lives. At their root is often a quiet inner voice—a need longing to be heard, honored, and protected. But many of us were never taught how to listen to that voice or express our needs in a clear, grounded way.

That’s where anger comes in.
Anger is a powerful signal that a boundary has been crossed. But when we project it outward—without awareness—it rarely brings the results we hope for.
Instead, it often masks a deeper layer: an inner victim that feels unprotected, and an unconscious, reactive protector rising to defend it.

The cycle?
Outburst → guilt → unmet needs → repeat.

From an early age, many of us were taught that anger is bad or dangerous. But in truth, anger is just information. It’s a signal that our autonomy, integrity, or individuality is being compromised—sometimes not by others, but by the many Selves within us.

So how do we respond to anger in a way that honors both ourselves and others?
How do we protect our boundaries without crossing someone else’s?

It starts with self-awareness.

If you’re ready to explore your relationship with anger—and learn how to set boundaries with clarity, presence, and respect—a Voice Dialogue session is a powerful tool to begin with.

09/24/2024

📌EMBRACING, being in a process, rather than forcing the CHANGE.

When it comes to personal growth and emotional healing, most methods in psychology propose solving problems through understanding the behavior and changing it.

📍But what if I tell you that the path to your true 'Self' is not about trying to 'change' or 'fix' yourself, but rather about engaging in a conscious dialogue with your inner parts, each of which has its own voice, motivation, and purpose. These parts or Selves often operate automatically, and without realizing it, you feel their influence through physical or emotional discomforts, or various relational problems.

👉🏻 Voice Dialogue is a method that helps you get to know the different 'selves' within you — whether it’s the inner critic, the protector, or the 'frightened child' that has remained hidden for a long time. Instead of suppressing your fears and doubts, you learn to engage with them, understand their motivations, and create space for their transformation.

If you've tried other methods but haven't found the answers you're looking for or haven't felt lasting change, Voice Dialogue may be the key to unlocking your true 'Self,' moving beyond limitations, and discovering a deeper level of awareness and spiritual understanding.

Through working with Voice Dialogue, you will:

- Receive non-judgmental support tailored to your unique inner structure — whether it's parts that protect you from pain or those seeking change.

- Experience physical and emotional relief — reduced anxiety, improved sleep, and a renewed sense of peace and wholeness.

- Gain practical tools for working with emotions independently, allowing you to maintain balance and stability outside of sessions.

- Avoid surface-level solutions. VD helps you reach the deepest parts of your consciousness and emotions, where the true roots of anxieties and blocks reside. This enables work at a deeper level and provides long-term results.

- No longer feel the need to 'change' or 'fix' yourself. On the contrary, VD teaches you to embrace yourself by creating a safe space to explore your fears, pain, and defense mechanisms with compassion and without judgment.

🕉️ If you're looking not just to 'solve a problem,' but to gain long-term freedom from inner conflicts, this method could be the key to deep transformation for you.

✍🏻Ready to start the dialogue with your inner 'selves'? Book a consultation via the link in the profile bio.

Psychotherapist with 12 plus years of experience (8 years of clinical practice post master's degree)

09/10/2024

Who Am I

My name is Anastasia, and I am a licensed psychotherapist with a Master’s degree and over 8 years of post-graduate experience.

I practice globally online and currently live between two homes, in Phuket, Thailand, and California, USA.

I have been practicing the Voice Dialogue method (also known as the Psychology of Selves or parts work) for 15 years.

This method is widely used across Europe and America in fields like psychotherapy, coaching, business, art, and diplomacy.

In addition to my professional practice, my own journey of transformation and the mindset it has given me are deeply integrated into my work.

While I appreciate gradual personal transformations where daily practice creates inner stability and freedom, the universe has often brought my most profound shifts through pain and the metaphorical death of “selves.”

My most recent «awakening» came through plant medicine, and great guidance which allowed me to truly embody the understanding that we are the creators of our lives.

I work with individuals, couples, and groups. With couples, I use a combination of the Voice Dialogue facilitation, Gottman method and my personal experience.

Working with me can help you transform any life circumstances into a purposeful awakening to your true nature.

If you’d like to work with me, please send a direct message with your inquiry 🙏

08/17/2024

I am not defined by my trauma.

07/29/2024

You deserved to be born.

You are a symbol of all hope.

Your birth gives the world a chance for a new beginning.

There is no one else like you in the whole world.

You are safe here.

I enjoy spending time with you. Your presence makes my universe complete.

I need you as much as you need me.

You are important.

You are always good enough.

Take as much time as you need. I’ll be patient with you.

It’s safe to explore. There is no limit to what you can achieve.

You have my approval.

You are a miracle.

It’s not your job to make other people happy. It’s your job to play!

You are capable of loving others.

I’ll protect you from danger.

You don’t have to be quiet to be good.

You are worthy of being loved.

I have an unlimited supply of love to give you.

The world is on your side. There are many people you can trust.

It’s important to let others love you.

I appreciate you for just being you.

Your dreams can come true.

You are needed, wanted and loved.

God danced in the day you were born.

Your happiness is my top priority.

It’s okay to be afraid and vulnerable.

It’s okay to cry.

Everyone feels this way sometimes.

I’ll help you set boundaries and find balance in your life.

Mistakes are good; they help you learn.

It is okay to fail.

I will listen without criticizing or judging you.

I want you to be heard as well as seen.

I love you exactly as you are today.

I see you!

While I may put limits on your actions, I won’t put limits on your feelings.

I take you seriously.

Needing others is a sign of strength.

People will help you; all you have to do is ask.

It’s important to ask for what you want. Speak up for yourself.

You can trust your intuition.

I will never abandon you.

What can I do to help you feel safe?

You are not the cause of trouble in our relationship.

You are not responsible for other people’s problems.

If people could look inside my heart, they’d see your face.

Show the world who you really are.

It’s possible to have close, caring friends.

It’s possible to have a wonderful marriage.

It’s possible to have inner peace.

It’s possible to be happy and to have a wonderful life.

Read this to your inner child ❤️and to your children as well. From “Every Child Must Hear” by Cynthia Good.

08/17/2023

At Embracing Ourselves, I offer a transformative path towards experiencing greater clarity, love, and connection in your life and relationships. My approach is rooted in the belief that true transformation begins with self-awareness and self-love. By embracing all aspects of our ‘Selves’, we create a foundation for inner stability and personal growth that is rooted in self acceptance!