Calla Lily Wellness - Ingrid Toledo-Hammett, CH, Midland, TX (2026)

02/13/2026

Newly widowed women and men 40+ recovering from the recent loss of a spouse, many from complicated relationships, often struggle to navigate grief and feel in control of their lives.

All they want is for the pain to stop, but nothing seems to help, even though they’ve tried:

❌ Going to support groups, feeling worse afterwards because they’re just rehashing their pain

❌ Putting on a brave face, hiding the sadness and hopelessness they really feel deep down

❌ Bargaining with time, believing that if they just wait long enough the heartbreak will fade away

❌ Surrendering to the depression, fear, and anxiety that have taken over their daily lives

❌ Enduring moments of deep despair, anger and resentment alone because no one understands.

Marriages are not created equal. If their relationship felt like a storm, their partner was controlling, or emotionally unpredictable, widows may experience;

💔 Deep Sorrow
💔 Anger
💔 Relief
💔 Guilt
💔 Combination of fluctuating emotions

If this resonates, comment "Complicated" now.

Grief after complicated relationships often comes in waves.

Widows and widowers;

🖤 Grieve what was
🖤 Grieve what should or could have been

And That is Real. That is Honest.

The world prefers neat stories, so often widows feel like they can’t grieve honestly for fear of what people might think; family, friends, children.

So they clean it up, soften the truth, or grieve “politely.”

What others may not know is that they constantly walked on eggshells. Waited for the weather to change. Braced themselves for the next shift in mood, tone, or silence.

And then one day… the storm ended.

Or did it?

Here’s the secret no one prepares new widows for: 🌪️ Every storm has it's aftermath. ⛈️

After a great storm trees are down. The ground is unstable. Debris is everywhere. - That’s complicated grief.

They're no longer in the storm, but their body still remembers it.
Their nervous system is still on high alert, while forced to survey what remains.

Complicated emotions or feelings don’t mean they loved wrong.
It means they lived through something intense and are now standing in what’s left.

Even after trying their very best, many widows still feel worn down, lonely, or emotionally numb. Life keeps moving forward, even when everything inside them feels frozen or heavy.

This kind of loss doesn’t just live in the body or mind. It;

🖤 Impacts sleep and energy the following day
🖤 Creates a threat of safety and security among new relationships
🖤 Creates isolation and a loss of purpose and passion for life
🖤 Affects the entire family unit, and the way they see and perceive themselves, life, and the future

“Surviving” isn’t truly living. They deserve more than simply making it through each day.

This is why I wrote this E-Book. It is designed for newly widowed women (40+) who feel lost, overwhelmed, and unsure how to move forward from loss, yet still hope peace and joy can return.
Inside I share how to reclaim:

💛 Connection and Meaning - being present and seeing beauty in life again

💛 Safety and Trust - feeling safe in their own skin and gradually comfortable around others

💛 Peace and Joy Without Apology - finding moments of peace, and even joy, without guilt

💛 Hope and Possibility - recognizing that a future where they can thrive still exists

💛 Acceptance and Moving Forward - believing deeply that life after grief is possible, and that moving forward never means forgetting or leaving their loved one behind.

💥 Important Note: Exclusively designed for Newly Widowed Persons 40+, ready and excited to take back their lives. Not for those younger than 40 years old, or anyone looking for a quick fix or magic pill.

If this resonates, if widowhood feels heavy, scary, and lonely, and a lighter, safer, more joyful life is calling, Comment "Complicated"
👇Now.

Also - Click “Learn More” now to get the Free E-Book; Grief Looks Different For Everyone. Get some relief today!

👇 Learn More - https://ingridhammettsteamwced71.myclickfunnels.com/group-opt-in-callalily321

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02/11/2026

We don't talk enough about the widow or widower who was the caregiver.

💪 The strong one.
🫡 The organized one.
😎 The “we’ve got this” one.

But then… it ends. And suddenly:

😩Your body hurts.
🥵 Your blood pressure rises.
🫥 You feel empty.
😶‍🌫️ You feel invisible.
😔 You feel depressed.
🤒 You feel ill.

Because when survival mode stops, the body finally feels everything. Everything.

Caregiving keeps you running on adrenaline. 🏃‍♀️

Grief removes the structure. And now your nervous system doesn’t know how to stand down.

If this is you, I want to offer some relief, right now. Try this 3-minute reset:

🌿 Inhale for 4 seconds. Hold for 2. Exhale for 6. - Whisper: “I don’t have to hold everything anymore.”

🌿 Lightly and gently, tap under your collarbone, and say: - “My nervous system can soften.”

🌿 Tap under the eyes and say: - “I survived. Now I can rest.”

🌿 Tap on top of the head and say: - “It’s safe to release a little.”

Slow and gentle. Even temporary relief counts.

And if you’re realizing your body is paying the price of years of caregiving, I support widows and widowers through recalibrating the nervous system, reducing emotional overload, and rebuilding identity beyond the caregiver role.

No pity. No performance. Just grounded support.

You were or have been strong for so long. Now you deserve care too. 🤍

I want to help; message me.

I see you.

With love,

Ingrid 💛 Calla Lily
Grief Transformation Coach

PS: For 1-on-1 support, Free E-Books, and more, follow the link in the comments.

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02/08/2026

Newly widowed women 40+ recovering from the recent loss of a spouse from a complicated relationship often struggle to navigate grief and feel in control of their lives.

Nothing seems to help, even though they’ve tried:

❌ Going to support groups, feeling worse afterwards because they’re just rehashing their pain

❌ Putting on a brave face, hiding the sadness and hopelessness they really feel deep down

❌ Bargaining with time, believing that if they just wait long enough the heartbreak will fade away

❌ Surrendering to the depression, fear, and anxiety that have taken over their daily lives

❌ Enduring moments of deep despair, anger and resentment alone because no one understands.

Marriages are not created equal. If their relationship felt like a storm, their partner was controlling, or emotionally unpredictable, widows may experience;

💔 Deep Sorrow

💔 Anger

💔 Relief

💔 Guilt

💔 Combination of fluctuating emotions

If this resonates, comment "Complicated" now.

Grief after complicated relationships often comes in waves. Widows;

🖤 Grieve what was

🖤 Grieve what should or could have been

And That is Real. That is Honest.

The world prefers neat stories, so often widows feel like they can’t grieve honestly for fear of what people might think; family, friends, children.

So they clean it up, soften the truth, or grieve “politely.”

What others may not know is that they constantly walked on eggshells. Waited for the weather to change. Braced themselves for the next shift in mood, tone, or silence.

And then one day… the storm ended.

Or did it?

Here’s the secret no one prepares new widows for: 🌪️ Every storm has it's aftermath. ⛈️

After a great storm trees are down. The ground is unstable. Debris is everywhere. - That’s complicated grief.

They're no longer in the storm, but their body still remembers it.

Their nervous system is still on high alert, while forced to survey what remains.

Complicated emotions or feelings don’t mean they loved wrong.

It means they lived through something intense and are now standing in what’s left.

Even after trying their very best, many widows still feel worn down, lonely, or emotionally numb. Life keeps moving forward, even when everything inside them feels frozen or heavy.

This kind of loss doesn’t just live in the body or mind. It;

🖤 Impacts sleep and energy the following day

🖤 Creates a threat of safety and security among new relationships

🖤 Creates isolation and a loss of purpose and passion for life

🖤 Affects the entire family unit, and the way they see and perceive themselves, life, and the future

“Surviving” isn’t truly living. They deserve more than simply making it through each day.

This is why I created the Bliss Effect Method. It is designed for newly widowed women (40+) who feel lost, overwhelmed, and unsure how to move forward from loss, yet still hope peace and joy can return.

Inside I share how to reclaim:

💛 Connection and Meaning - being present and seeing beauty in life again

💛 Safety and Trust - feeling safe in their own skin and gradually comfortable around others

💛 Peace and Joy Without Apology - finding moments of peace, and even joy, without guilt

💛 Hope and Possibility - recognizing that a future where they can thrive still exists

💛 Acceptance and Moving Forward - believing deeply that life after grief is possible, and that moving forward never means forgetting or leaving their loved one behind.

💥 Important Note: Exclusively designed for 40+ Newly Widowed Women, ready and excited to take back their lives. Not for males or those younger than 40 years old.

If this resonates, if widowhood feels heavy, scary, and lonely, and a lighter, safer, more joyful life is calling, Comment "Complicated" 👇Now.

Also - Click “Learn More” now to get the Free Guide for New Widows 40+ - Grief Looks Different for Everyone

👇 Learn More - https://ingridhammettsteamwced71.myclickfunnels.com/group-opt-in--2b9ba

02/06/2026

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02/05/2026

Newly widowed women 40+ recovering from the recent loss of a spouse, many from a complicated relationships, often struggle to navigate grief and feel in control of their lives.

All they want is for the pain to stop, but nothing seems to help, even though they’ve tried:

❌ Going to support groups, feeling worse afterwards because they’re just rehashing their pain
❌ Putting on a brave face, hiding the sadness and hopelessness they really feel deep down
❌ Bargaining with time, believing that if they just wait long enough the heartbreak will fade away
❌ Surrendering to the depression, fear, and anxiety that have taken over their daily lives
❌ Enduring moments of deep despair, anger and resentment alone because no one understands.

Marriages are not created equal. If their relationship felt like a storm, their partner was controlling, or emotionally unpredictable, widows may experience;

💔 Deep Sorrow
💔 Anger
💔 Relief
💔 Guilt
💔 Combination of fluctuating emotions

If this resonates, comment "Complicated" now.

Grief after complicated relationships often comes in waves. Widows;

🖤 Grieve what was
🖤 Grieve what should or could have been

And That is Real. That is Honest.

The world prefers neat stories, so often widows feel like they can’t grieve honestly for fear of what people might think; family, friends, children.

So they clean it up, soften the truth, or grieve “politely.”

What others may not know is that they constantly walked on eggshells. Waited for the weather to change. Braced themselves for the next shift in mood, tone, or silence.

And then one day… the storm ended.

Or did it?

Here’s the secret no one prepares new widows for: 🌪️ Every storm has it's aftermath. ⛈️

After a great storm trees are down. The ground is unstable. Debris is everywhere. - That’s complicated grief.

They're no longer in the storm, but their body still remembers it.
Their nervous system is still on high alert, while forced to survey what remains.

Complicated emotions or feelings don’t mean they loved wrong.
It means they lived through something intense and are now standing in what’s left.

Even after trying their very best, many widows still feel worn down, lonely, or emotionally numb. Life keeps moving forward, even when everything inside them feels frozen or heavy.

This kind of loss doesn’t just live in the body or mind. It;

🖤 Impacts sleep and energy the following day
🖤 Creates a threat of safety and security among new relationships
🖤 Creates isolation and a loss of purpose and passion for life
🖤 Affects the entire family unit, and the way they see and perceive themselves, life, and the future

“Surviving” isn’t truly living. They deserve more than simply making it through each day.

This is why I wrote this E-Book. It is designed for newly widowed women (40+) who feel lost, overwhelmed, and unsure how to move forward from loss, yet still hope peace and joy can return.

Inside I share how to reclaim:

💛 Connection and Meaning - being present and seeing beauty in life again
💛 Safety and Trust - feeling safe in their own skin and gradually comfortable around others
💛 Peace and Joy Without Apology - finding moments of peace, and even joy, without guilt
💛 Hope and Possibility - recognizing that a future where they can thrive still exists
💛 Acceptance and Moving Forward - believing deeply that life after grief is possible, and that moving forward never means forgetting or leaving their loved one behind.

💥 Important Note: Exclusively designed for Newly Widowed Persons 40+, ready and excited to take back their lives. Not for those younger than 40 years old, or anyone looking for a quick fix or magic pill.

If this resonates, if widowhood feels heavy, scary, and lonely, and a lighter, safer, more joyful life is calling, Comment "Complicated" 👇Now.

Also - Click “Learn More” now to get the Free E-Book; Grief Looks Different For Everyone. Get some relief today!

👇 Learn More - https://ingridhammettsteamwced71.myclickfunnels.com/group-opt-in-callalily321

02/04/2026

Many of us learned there were 5 Love Languages. Today, they have expanded into 7, because love is more layered, especially after loss.

With Valentine’s Day around the corner, I want to gently remind my fellow widows and widowers:

💬 Love can be received
🤲 Love can be given
🌱 Love can be offered to yourself

Here are the 7 Love Languages, with a softer, modern lens:

✨ Words of Affirmation
✨ Quality Time
✨ Receiving Gifts
✨ Acts of Service
✨ Physical Touch
✨ Emotional Safety
✨ Shared Experiences

And here’s the beautiful part;

You don’t have to wait for someone else to speak these languages to you. You can begin speaking them to yourself.

💓 Little by little.
💓 Without guilt.
💓 Without pressure.

This season doesn’t have to be about what’s missing. It can be about planting a new, kinder idea of love, starting with you. 💐

If this resonated, save it, share it, or simply let it sit with you today.🥰

Warmly,

Ingrid @ Calla Lily
Grief Transformation Coach 🤍

02/03/2026

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02/02/2026

Many widows aren't just Sad. They feel unrecognizable to themselves. And that's real!

After years of adapting, compromising, or surviving, especially in complicated relationships, the masks they wore or roles they played became automatic.

The parent.
The supportive one.
The Lover.
The peacekeeper.
The strong one.
The caretaker.
The mediator.
And now, the grieving widow.

The relationship as they knew it may have ended, but the masks and roles remain.

Many widows may say or think:

- Who am I?
- I don’t recognize myself.
- I don’t belong anywhere.

That doesn’t mean they’re lost. It means those all too familiar roles are no longer required.

No Longer Required??! So where does that leave me?? - they often ask themselves.

If this resonates, ✨ Try this simple reconnection practice (5 minutes):

- Sit quietly, one hand on the heart.

- Breathe slowly and intentionally.

- Ask: Which version of me am I ready to release?

- Write one honest sentence.

Identity doesn’t return all at once. It returns when they stop pretending to okay with what no longer fits. Widows are allowed to;

💛 Be honest and authentic.
💛 Change or reinvent themselves.
💛 Feel safe and comfortable in their own skin again.
💛 Surrender roles, masks, or what no longer aligns.
💛 Become themselves, whole again, on their own terms.

Grief doesn’t need to look a certain way. If loss feels complicated, quiet, or hard to name; I see you.

There is room here for all of it. Let's have a chat.

Here to support you,

Ingrid @ Calla Lily

01/29/2026

Whether it's 11 minutes, 11 hours, days, weeks, months, or years... it is a journey. Hang on. Take a deep breath. Keep going. I see you.

01/28/2026

Grief Looks Different for Everyone. Not every couple fits the same box. Not every relationship looks good on paper. Not every loss is simple or socially “acceptable.”

Some people grieve:

• a long marriage

• a short but intense relationship

• an engagement that never made it to the altar

• a same-sex partner few people knew about

• a partner they were unsure about

• someone they loved deeply and struggled with

• someone they were drifting away from

• someone they were preparing to leave

Young. Older. LGBTQ+. Straight. Married. Not married. Open. Secret. Complicated. Estranged. Unfinished.

All of it counts.
All of it leaves a mark.

And here’s the hard truth: When your grief doesn’t look “right,” people don’t know how to support you, so they often don’t.

That’s when grief goes underground.

It shows up as anxiety, numbness, irritability, guilt, exhaustion, or feeling stuck in survival mode. Not because you’re doing it wrong, but because unspoken grief has nowhere to go.

This is where non-conventional support matters.

Not just talking. Not just coping.
But helping the body feel safe again.

Helping the mind settle.
Helping the heart hold truth without shame.

You don’t need to justify your grief. You don’t need to explain your relationship. You don’t need permission to feel what you feel.

If your loss feels complicated, taboo, or hard to name, please hear this:

Your grief is valid.
Your story matters.
And there are ways forward that honor all of it.

I see You. 🤍

Ingrid @ Calla Lily

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01/27/2026

Menopause can turn grief up a notch, and that’s totally real. I see how hot flashes, night sweats, and sleep disruption magnify sadness and make healing feel harder. You are not overreacting. You are responding to real changes in your body and heart! 🧡✨

Try these two calming practices from the Bliss Effect Method that help both hormones and emotions:

1) Rhythm Breathing + Cool-Down: slow 4-6 breaths, sip cool water, and tuck a cool cloth at your neck during a hot flash to calm the nervous system fast. 😮‍💨

2) Evening Reset Ritual: a gentle 10-minute guided body scan before bed, dim lights, and a warmth-regulating herbal tea to support sleep and steady mood. 🍵

These simple steps don’t erase the loss, but they can reduce overwhelm and create steadier days. Ready to feel steadier?

Visit https://wix.to/h5CNU7O to learn more and find support. Let’s walk this path together! 🌿🤝

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