Joy with Jax

Joy with Jax If you're desiring to experience a more soul-aligned life, filled with depth, meaning, & connection, you're in the right place! Learn more at joywithjax.com.

As a coach, I specialize in supporting high-achievers, freedom-seekers, and ambitious women who crave MORE than a fancy job title, lackluster relationship, & status quo life that leaves them thinking "is this REALLY what I've worked so hard for?!" at the end of a long (busy) day. Jacqueline Stevens is a Soulful Alignment Coach who guides women to create lives full of passion, purpose, + peace. Her personal journey of “making it” to the top of a career in the beauty industry while being clinically burnt out led her onto a true “Eat Pray Love” spiritual + internal quest to rediscover who she was without all the external achievements, roles, + relationships she had defined herself by. As she began to re-discover herself by unraveling her inner workings, her life literally transformed from the inside-out. This journey led her to become a Certified Professional Coach + an Energy Leadership Index Master Practitioner (ELI-MP) + Energy & Reiki Practitioner.

Mexico City.O.My.Goddess.Divinity. ✨The food — superb.The culture — exquisite.The museums — I found my favorite in the w...
03/31/2026

Mexico City.

O.
My.
Goddess.

Divinity. ✨

The food — superb.
The culture — exquisite.
The museums — I found my favorite in the world.
The art — I wept at a painting for the first time. Mary Magdalene.
The friends — lifelong.

12 days in this Mecca of a city.

No wonder she’s wildly popular.
She’s a yes every time for me.

I’ll be back.
Again and again.

What you must do:

✨ Museo Anahuacalli
(part museum, part temple, part time capsule)

🌮 Michelin tacos at Maizajo
(I had them three times)

🥐 Pastries at Panadería Rosetta

☕ Breakfast at Another

🥗 Lunch at Entremar, Molina El Pujol & Manu

🍷 Dinner at Gaba & Rosetta

But honestly…
it’s hard to f*ck anything up here.

Gratitude oozes.
Memories abound.

My love for this city —
and this country and culture —
is deep and wide.

And?
I can now order in Spanish. 🇲🇽

If only the U.S. treated Mexicans
the way Mexicans treat us.

Forever grateful for this journey. ❤️

Mexico has been a true love story.Just not the one I expected.When I left for Mexico on January 31, I thought I was comi...
03/28/2026

Mexico has been a true love story.
Just not the one I expected.

When I left for Mexico on January 31, I thought I was coming for a month.
For the food, the culture, the sunshine to bronze my skin, and a much needed reset.

And if I’m honest… maybe there was even a person 👀

But as I’ve extended my time here… twice… what’s been revealed is that the person I’ve fallen more deeply in love with… is me 👱🏼‍♀️.

There is something exquisite about travel.
I’ve always thrived in this arena, maybe it’s my Sagittarius rising.
But there something even more special about traveling so(u)lo.

Travel disrupts your routines.
It forces adaptability.
It expands your perspective.
It reconnects you to your curiosity.
You’re forced to see yourself and your place in the world, differently.

But more than anything,
it reveals who you are.

How you move through the world.
How you see yourself in new environments.
How you respond when things don’t go your way.
How you spend your time and energy when no one else is around.
And of course, there’s learning a new tongue.

We humans are wired for connection.
We spend years dependent on our caregivers… longer than almost any other species.

Dependence isn’t weakness.
It’s part of our design.

But I believe we’re entering a new era of love. I know we are.

Not one where we outsource ourselves.
But one where we come home to ourselves first.

Mexico hasn’t been a romantic getaway in the traditional sense. Which makes sense, I’m not really a traditional woman.

But it has been wildly romantic.

Because the romance wasn’t about someone else.
It was about how I spend my time.
How I honor my energy.
How I meet myself when no one else is there.
How I turn myself on, simply by living, breathing, and feeling.

This trip has been a deeper becoming.
A fuller embodiment.

Of loving myself.
And ultimately… trusting myself!
And what I’ve created as I’ve been here?
Is the best work of my life.

And it makes me curious:
Have you ever taken a trip that changed the way you see yourself?

Not just where you went —
but who you became while you were there.

To all my lovers 🖤🤍
Journey in, and journey on.

Just a very belated Puerto Escondido, Zicatela drop. 🌊☀️Because I’m not all business.I’m a helluva lot of PLEASURE too. ...
03/27/2026

Just a very belated Puerto Escondido, Zicatela drop. 🌊☀️

Because I’m not all business.

I’m a helluva lot of PLEASURE too. 💃✨

If you would have told me seven years ago that this is what my life would look like…
my mind couldn’t have believed it.
It couldn’t have held it.

But now?

I’m so(ul) grateful. 🌺
Proud.
Expanded.
Delighted.
On purpose.
In my body.
In my S*X. 🔥
Abounding with pleasure.
Alive.
Well.
Magnetic.
Sweet.
Witchy AF. 🪄
Devoted.
Amazed.
Adoring.
On fire.

The life I wanted
was waiting on the other side of my biggest fears…
and some very deep doubt.

And in the end,
I trusted that I would have my own back.

My spirit team too. ✨

My Year of Joy. 💫

Modern dating says:“You just haven’t met the right person yet.”(It’s not you. It’s them. A blame game.)Disruptive Dating...
03/25/2026

Modern dating says:
“You just haven’t met the right person yet.”
(It’s not you. It’s them. A blame game.)

Disruptive Dating asks a different question:

Have you become the person who can attract what you say you want?
(It’s part you, and it’s part them. Accountability + opportunity)

The person who knows what they actually want.
(Not just height, income, or a checklist. Surface level bs)

The person who understands the energy of the relationship they want to create.

The person who can communicate clearly.
Who can be patient and playful!
Who knows their patterns, and works with them.

The person who can handle conflict without losing themselves. Or without losing it.

Because a love that is soul-expanding will ask something of you.
Actually,
It will ask a lot.
Because it’s going to give you so(ul) much.

The Disruptive Dating Method addresses the real forces shaping your love life:
your biological wiring, your relational patterns, and the energy you bring into connection.

If you’re ready for a different way of relating to love… a more expansive, empowering way?

Let’s disrupt your patterns baby.

03/23/2026

You’re dating life isn’t random.
It follows your patterns. 👀

And when you can start to change your patterns, you start to change your whole experience.

How dating feels, who you attract.

Traditional dating lacks accountability.
Disruptive dating, cultivate it

This is the work we do inside my Disruptive Dating program, this program will change your life.

Applications are open to those who are willing to do the work, even when it stings.

This is your call into liberation.

For a long time, I thought my dating history meant something was wrong with me.Non-committal men!Emotional unavailable m...
03/20/2026

For a long time, I thought my dating history meant something was wrong with me.

Non-committal men!
Emotional unavailable men.
Wrong timing.

Most people want a secure, equitable, juicy relationship.
Most people want a million dollars.
But wanting something and being equipped to create it are two very different things, whether in the bedroom or the boardroom.

My dating life wasn’t random.
It followed my patterns.

Who I chose reflected what felt familiar — because that’s how we’re wired.
We recreate what we learned about love long before we had language for it.

And here’s the part most people avoid:
Patterns can be painful — and they are changeable.

How I dated reflected my emotional availability!
More than theirs.
Because an emotionally available person would never stay with someone who isn’t.
Period. Let that sting!

What I tolerated showed me where I was out of alignment with what I said I wanted.
Traditional dating says,

“You just haven’t met the right person yet.”
Disruptive Dating asks a deeper question:
Are your dating habits actually designed to create the relationship you want?
Gulp.

That question changed everything.
It wasn’t about the men.
It was about my tolerance.
What I accepted.
What I avoided.
My need to chase and prove love.
I didn’t need more options.
I didn’t need more chemistry.
I didn’t need to try harder.
I needed skill and will.

So I read over 250 books on dating, attachment, and relating.
I immersed myself in the science — and then? I fu***ng lived it.

I created a framework that helped me see my patterns in real time and make different choices — without shame.

Choices that aligned with what I actually wanted to create.
That’s why I developed the Disruptive Dating framework.
It’s a soul science.
Not a promise of “the one.”
Not a bypass around discomfort.
But a way to hand you the tools — the sword — so you can dig deep, create alignment, reclaim agency, and date with clarity and self-trust.

Your dating history isn’t a verdict.
It’s information!
And when you learn how to read it, it becomes the pathway forward.
🖤

03/17/2026

83 point in a game.

And the first person he talks about?
His boo.

First call he answers?
In his media interviews?
His mommy.

This is a man who clearly sees the power of women in his life, and he honors them.

This? Is a Disruptive Man.
And we love him for it.

Your mess is YOUR medicine.Most people would rather stay in a familiar hell than step into an unfamiliar heaven.Same fig...
03/13/2026

Your mess is YOUR medicine.

Most people would rather stay in a familiar hell than step into an unfamiliar heaven.

Same fights.
Same shutdowns.
Same emotional loops.
Different partner… same damn pattern.

And then we blame:
“It’s my partner.”
“It’s men.”
“It’s women.”
“It’s my parents.”
“It’s politics.”
“It’s my boss.”

All partially true.

But if you stay there?

You stay stuck in the past.

Victim energy keeps you reacting.
Creator energy asks a much harder question:

And some people, can recognize their pattern, but don’t know why to change it!

Here’s what I see all the time in relationships.

When the feminine energy (the feeling, relational part of us) brings up a problematic dynamic, the masculine nervous system often experiences it as status threat.

Not feedback.
Not curiosity.
Not growth.

Threat.

The body goes to war.

Defensiveness.
Shutdown.
Frustration.
Projection.

“Why are you trying to change me?
You knew who I was when you met me.”

Meanwhile?

The feminine has often tolerated the behavior for way too long before saying anything.

By the time it’s spoken out loud,
they’re already exhausted.
Already hurt.
Already marinated in the BS.

So now both nervous systems are activated — and the relationship stays stuck in the same loop.

Here’s the truth most people don’t want to hear:
Healthy relationships REQUIRE adaptation. The invoke it.

Your behaviors are not your identity.
They are patterns.

Patterns can evolve.

But if feedback always feels like an attack?

Growth never happens.

And without growth…

You don’t get the thing everyone actually wants:
Deep safety.
Deep intimacy.
Deep, honest connection.
Deep, wildly free, phenomenal s*x.

That’s the work we do inside Disruptive Dating.

We don’t just talk about finding the right person.

We dismantle the unconscious patterns RUNNING your relationships — so you can actually create something secure, equitable, and juicy as hell. 🔥 🍒💦

Your old patterns won’t open new doors.

But your mess?

That’s where the medicine lives.

Full article is on my Substack (link in bio).
If you’re ready to disrupt your patterns, you already know the application for Disruptive Dating is open.

03/13/2026

Conflict or Co-Regulation?

Most people think conflict means something is wrong in a relationship. But conflict is actually just two nervous systems trying to find safety at the same time. When we haven’t learned how to regulate ourselves — or co-regulate with someone else — feedback feels like threat, defensiveness kicks in, and the same loop repeats. Secure, juicy relationships aren’t the ones without conflict… they’re the ones where two people know how to stay present long enough to grow through it. That’s relational fitness.





03/08/2026

Today I’m celebrating the women who shaped me, supported me, challenged me, and helped make me who I am.

And I’m also celebrating the brave men — the ones willing to expand. The men willing to cultivate their feminine side so their masculinity becomes more human, more conscious, and more powerful.

Expansion is the future.

(Taking a moment to honor this stunning Mayan couture — hand-stitched in a Mayan pueblo. A true piece of artistry and culture. Obsessed!)





03/06/2026

I used to buy into the bs goal that dating was simple:
“Be in my feminine.”
And… find a “masculine man.”

It felt restrictive, confining, and caged my fierceness.

It’s bu****it, this trad wife fantasy!
And, it’s wildly lazy.

The deeper truth is this:
Real partnership isn’t built on shrinking yourself into a specificity role.

It’s built on being fully f*cking expressed.

My softness. And my strength.
My leadership.
My ambition.
My tenderness.
My independence.
And yes… my love of listening gangster rap, LOUDLY.

The internet loves to sell women a fantasy:
be small, be protected, be provided for.

The internet also love to shortchange MEN:
Protect, PROVIDE, stoicism.

What I’ve discovered is that aligned partnership is way more f*cking expansive than that.

It’s two WHOLE (and messy) people
meeting in expansion. Growth. Curiosity.

The right partner doesn’t need you to minimize yourself.

They just meet you fully.

Remember the lioness? SHE’S a GD huntress. And my Vedic astrologer said that me. 🐅🐆💋

And men in touch with their feminine?
Haute AF.

My GOD, does it feel good to be in my expansion era.

Are you ready to initiate yours?

That’s the kind of love we build inside Disruptive Dating.

Blow me up with your DMs if you’re ready to change your paradigm.

One way to know you’re successful in dating? (Women’s edition)Tip 1:You become the mediocre man’s worst nightmare 😉Follo...
03/04/2026

One way to know you’re successful in dating?
(Women’s edition)

Tip 1:
You become the mediocre man’s worst nightmare 😉

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P.S. Gawwwwd I love humidity.

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