Joy with Jax

If you're desiring to experience a more soul-aligned life, filled with depth, meaning, & connection, you're in the right place! Learn more at joywithjax.com.

As a coach, I specialize in supporting high-achievers, freedom-seekers, and ambitious women who crave MORE than a fancy job title, lackluster relationship, & status quo life that leaves them thinking "is this REALLY what I've worked so hard for?!" at the end of a long (busy) day. Jacqueline Stevens is a Soulful Alignment Coach who guides women to create lives full of passion, purpose, + peace. Her personal journey of “making it” to the top of a career in the beauty industry while being clinically burnt out led her onto a true “Eat Pray Love” spiritual + internal quest to rediscover who she was without all the external achievements, roles, + relationships she had defined herself by. As she began to re-discover herself by unraveling her inner workings, her life literally transformed from the inside-out. This journey led her to become a Certified Professional Coach + an Energy Leadership Index Master Practitioner (ELI-MP) + Energy & Reiki Practitioner.

01/14/2026

late in the Capricorn ♑️ Season.
And it’s been a heavy one.

The world feels tender right now.
The USA.
Minneapolis.
Iran.
So much pressure.
So much grief.
So much asking us to stay steady while everything feels uncertain.

Capricorn doesn’t rush us through this.
It doesn’t ask for performance.
It asks for presence.
For responsibility to what is real.
For integrity in how we move forward.

Capricorn is the mountain.
Slow. Enduring. Rooted.
It reminds us that resilience isn’t loud.
It’s built quietly.
Moment by moment.
Choice by choice.

This season has asked me to take stock.
Of what I’ve built.
Of what I’m carrying.
Of what needs to be tended before anything new can grow.

These photos are fragments of that process.
Movement. Rest. Beauty. Witnessing.
Proof that even in hard seasons, life continues to unfold. In divine timing.

🪨 Reflection
What are you being asked to tend with care right now?
What kind of structure would actually support you in this season, not constrain you?

If you’re craving something steady to hold you through the coming months,
Your Year of Joy is your grounded companion for reflection, intention, and pacing yourself with integrity.

It’s available on Amazon.
The link is in my bio.

May we build what lasts.
Even now.

01/12/2026

I didn’t create Disruptive Dating because I needed another dating strategy.

I created it because nothing else was working, and needed a something real, tangible, and proven.

I did the therapy.
I learned about attachment styles.
I tried the masculine–feminine energy thing.
But even with all that… something was still missing.

Because if you can’t identify your patterns,
If you don’t understand your energetic blueprint in love,
If you’re disconnected from your soul in the process —
Then dating will always feel like guessing, hoping, and disappointment.

When I finally combined all 4 pillars —
behavior, psychology, energetics, and soul —
That’s when things shifted;
that’s when I aligned.
That’s when I started attracting a new kind of Man.
Men who could meet me.
Men who wanted to meet me.
Men I could choose from — not chase.

That’s why I created the Disruptive Dating Method™️ .

A 6-month relationship accelerator for high-achievers who feel drained, depleted, or discouraged by dating —
and are ready to step into unshakable confidence, magnetic standards, and secure, soulful (and hell yes, JUICY AF) partnership.

DM Me DISRUPT to start the conversation….

Xoxo,
You’re BIGGEST and BOLDEST supporter.
Juicy Jax

01/08/2026

Some people wonder…
Why is there a male loneliness epidemic?

Because this.
Because Men terrorizing youth.
While other men saying nothing.
Feathers, completely unruffled.
To some men, yesterday was just another day without emotion.

Domination thrives on fear.
And fear destroys intimacy.

In the end, the patriarchy f***s men the hardest.
Because it trains them to confuse power… with belonging.
Control with connection.
Silence with strength.

It teaches boys that tenderness is weakness,
that obedience is safety,
that to be a man is to dominate—or disappear.

And yet, then we act shocked when men are lonely!
When they don’t know how to be seen without their armor.
When they don’t know how to be in love without fear.

that’s not masculinity, that’s patriarchy.

You cannot build brotherhood on terror.
You cannot build intimacy on hierarchy.
You cannot build love on the backs of children.

Real masculinity protects life.
It speaks up.
It intervenes.
It refuses to hide behind orders, uniforms, or “just doing my job.”

This is the cost of a system that rewards cruelty and calls it order.

And until men are willing to confront that—
not women, not immigrants, not children—
the loneliness will continue.

Because domination isolates everyone.
But love? That s**t requires courage.

some people call it the male loneliness epidemic, I call it natural selection.

**kice

01/08/2026

I don’t give a f**k what you think.
Love… is political.

Yesterday in Minneapolis,
a woman named Renee Good
was murdered before our eyes
by an ICE agent.

If that doesn’t make you uncomfortable, upset, angry, or awake, then we are not on the same page about LOVE.

Love is political because love is ACTION. awareness.
It’s not a FEELING.
It’s not a VIBE.
It’s not a QUOTE in your IG feed.

Love is what we STAND for when it COSTS us something.

Real love? Is Expensive & Expansive.

It asks questions like:
Who gets to be SAFE?
Who gets to BELONG?
Whose bodies are DISPOSABLE?
Whose PAIN is IGNORED, justified, or explained away?

Love is political because what we call “policy” lands on real BODIES, in real neighborhoods, in real families.

Because systems don’t love people,
people do.
And when systems are violent,
rooted in domination, in perversion?
silence is not neutral.
It’s willing participation.

It’s also disgusting.

Love is political because it defines:
🖤 What’s acceptable
🖤 What we tolerate
🖤 What we excuse
🖤 What we normalize
🖤 What we’re willing to look away from so we can stay comfortable.

Love is political because anger can be holy. Righteous. 🔥 Alchemizing!
Because the grief of a gaping wound is a form of devotion.
Because RAGE, when rooted in CARE, is a refusal to let cruelty become ordinary.

If your version of love never DISRUPTS anything?
never challenges POWER & domination,
never asks you to risk comfort,
never makes you say “this is wrong” out loud?
Then it’s not love.
It’s convenience & complacency.

Love is political because loving means choosing humanity. Sentience.
It means saying: this is not okay.
It means drawing lines.
It means refusing to spiritually bypass brutality.

You don’t get to preach peace while benefiting from harm.

Love is a stance 🖤 a boundary 🖤 not tolerating the intolerable.

And today, love looks like remembering Rene Good. And getting crystal fuqking clear about what—and who—we are no longer willing to tolerate.

01/06/2026

When I first became single in my mid-thirties, I thought I had no time to figure out dating.

So I rushed it.

In my first year, I went on 22 dates —
tracking details in my notes app instead of learning to ask better questions.

I wasn’t dating consciously.
I was dating for validation 😬

Chemistry over compatibility.
Intensity over intention.

Sound familiar?

But I know, I wasn’t doing it right, the Virgo is me (I think I have 7 Virgo placements) HAD TO GET IT RIGHT.

The Sagittarius rising in me, wanted to learn and grow.

That’s exactly how I birthed The Disruptive Dating Method—
to shift dating from exhausting to energetically aligned.

It’s not about more dates.
It’s about clearer choices.

If you’re ready to stop repeating patterns
and start dating with intention…

DM me “DISRUPT”
and let’s change the way you love. 💫
For f**king ever!

01/05/2026

Me in Minneapolis,
channeling Ƭ̵̬̊
like it’s my side hustle.

When someone asks why I’m single…
Supply chain issues.

(Inventory delayed.
Quality control strict.)
😌
😉

01/04/2026

This week, while hibernating in Minnesota.
My phone rang.
WhatsApp.
Nigeria.
234 country code.

From a number I know well — because it belongs to the man I once loved. Someone who taught me so much about loving and leaving.

Fifteen years ago, we had chemistry that felt inevitable.
Bodies tangled. Worlds merged.
We barely spent a night apart.

And then — he vanished. 🫰

Changed his number.
Packed his things.
Disappeared from my uptown apartment almost overnight.

No clear explanation.
No real goodbye.

Weeks later, I was sitting on my couch in my underwear when five armed men knocked on my door at 7 a.m.
Badges & warrant out.
CIA.

That’s how I learned my boyfriend (or x boyfriend?) wasn’t just mysterious —
he was the human resources arm of a massive crime ring.

The man on the cover of the MPLS Star Tribune?
Yes. My x.

My computer was seized.
I hired a lawyer, because wtf.
The CIA asked me to help lure him overseas so he could be arrested.

This is how I almost became a mob wife.

Here’s the part that matters NOW:

The relationship was passionate.
Electric.

And completely absent of what makes relationships real and sustainable: clarity, honesty, and safety.

At the time, I thought the absence of words meant depth.
Now I know it meant avoidance.

Fifteen years later, he still calls.
Still says he loves me.

Yet love without clarity will always pull you toward chaos.

Chemistry is not character.
Intensity is not intimacy.

And learning that distinction is the foundation of what I now teach about dating.

So when I say I understand the path of pattern recognition,
the path of disruption,
the path of choosing differently—
it’s because my life has been flipped upside down by love.
More than once.

Disruptive dating isn’t about making perfect decisions.
It’s about learning from the patterns that once pulled us into chaos
so we can create something entirely new.

If you want the full story, it’s on Substack.
And if you’re ready to create a different story for yourself—
DM me DISRUPT.

Let’s get clear on where you want to be romantically
six months from now.

01/01/2026

If you were brutally honest with yourself today…
what would make 2026 the sweetest, most expansive year?

A trip?
A car?
A promotion?

Be honest.

It’s deeper than that.
And that depth: the ache, the longing, the quiet prayer—
is what you came here to experience.

It’s f*cking love that you want.
Not because you’re lacking—
but because love is the most natural current that runs through you.

Most people don’t struggle in dating because they’re broken.

They struggle because they were never taught what healthy love actually is. And that is fundamental to building something real.

We learn love through childhood:
the chaos or the silence.
the emotional labor.
the expectations.
the neglect.
the loss.

None of this is your fault.

But it is your pattern—
until you decide it isn’t.

So we normalize:
• longing
• inconsistency
• chemistry that feels like danger
• calling anxiety or breadcrumbs “connection”

But love was never meant to feel like survival.

Love, the real kind, helps you thrive.

Love feels like:
• safety
• clarity
• reciprocity
• presence
• two grown-ass adults choosing each other with intention—not blind hope

Inside Disruptive Dating, you stop choosing from your wounds…
and start choosing from the truth of who you are.

This is the revolution.

✨ If you’re curious where you could be in 6–12 months—emotionally, relationally, energetically—DM me “DISRUPT.”
Let’s explore what becomes possible when you stop settling and start aligning.

12/29/2025

We’re in the darkest nights of the year.
And in the dark, grief doesn’t scream —
it knocks.

It knocks on the places where desire hasn’t yet been met.

On the partnerships we long for.
On the lives we know deep down are possible.

Darkness isn’t here to punish you.
It’s here to initiate you.
Tonight you into what you actually f**king want out of life.

Not just what’s available.

If something in you is ready for more love, more safety, more aliveness —
that’s not lack.
That’s your capacity… reminding you it wants to shed.

✨ DM me DISRUPT if you’re ready to meet what’s trying to be born in you.

DisruptiveDating

12/27/2025

Are you done pretending partnership
doesn’t matter to you?
You’re not wrong for wanting partnership…

The disruptive dating method is for the ones who want love
Without losing themselves …

Moving from patterns, to purpose.

Merging soul, and strategy.

If this resident needs,
DM me DISRUPT

12/22/2025

Sometimes the thing we call “risk”
is actually the moment we stop abandoning ourselves.

Staying comfortable can look responsible.
But comfort without truth slowly drains your aliveness. Your Eros. Your s*x. Your magnetism.

If you’re done repeating the same relational patterns
and ready to create wild ass possibilities (wap). That’s exactly what we do inside of disruptive dating.

DM me “DISRUPT.”
Let’s look at where your love life could be 6–12 months from now
if you stop waiting and start choosing.

12/19/2025

I remember the day my breakup followed me into the boardroom.

A seven-year relationship ending.
A global presentation the following week — in an international market.
A boss who kept asking for more than was humanly possible.

I thought if I just stayed professional enough,
composed enough,
capable enough…

I’d be fine.

It was a lie.
I wasn’t.
I felt feral.

What shocked me later was realizing this:

The way I was being met at work mirrored the way I was being met in love.

Unclear expectations.
Over-functioning.
Silencing myself to “keep the peace.”

Our relationships don’t stay at home.
They amplify everything.

If you’re stressed in love,
it shows up in your leadership.
If you’re disconnected romantically,
your body carries it everywhere.

Healthy relationships don’t steal your peace.
They meant to expand your capacity.

This is why I created Disruptive Dating —
for driven, high-potential humans who are done treating love like a side quest.

The people in this community know they want more.
And they’re willing to get into the arena and fight for it.

If you’re serious about intimacy, connection, and partnership…
your seriousness needs more than thought it needs proof.

Freezing your eggs may be part of the process —
but developing the skills to create a healthy, secure, juicy relationship matters even more.

You may think that love is about finding the right partner, but it’s about you working through your patterns.

❤️‍🔥 Love is not a distraction.
It’s an initiation.

Opening Ceremony begins January 11.
There’s still time to clean up love in 2026 —
not just claim it, but actually create it.

👉 DM me “DISRUPT” and let’s explore how this program supports you and your goals.

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