New Beginnings Women's Help Center

04/23/2026

In the book, "Safe People, How to Find Relationships That are Good for You and avoid those that aren't" by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend list eleven personal traits that unsafe people. The first personal trait is that "Unsafe people think they have it all together instead of admitting their weaknesses." In relationships, it is important to be able to share all thoughts and feelings with another. If someone you are in relationships with never seems to have any needs and you feel that you are the only one who shares problems, then this person maybe unsafe. Warning signs are those that make you feel unconnected, weaker, dependent on the strong one, frustration or anger, or a need to reverse roles. Relationships are made for connection, sharing, and honesty. These characteristics make the best type of person to be in relationship with. Relationships are to be a give and take from both people. It is wise to incorporate sharing of weaknesses with trusted relationships.

04/22/2026

Photo albums are something from past generations now due to having a cell phone. Still there is something very special about a paper photo. It's the person or persons in the photo that make it special. Digital albums are new, but they still contain favorite people. Once a loved one has departed, those pictures become a way of remembering. Those special places, times, and activities that were shared with our loved one become a treasured album. Ever sit around the table when family is gathered and reminisce about a departed loved one? We then recall that snapshot and share an emotional connection. Some become are favorite that we put into the mind's album to recall over and over again. If you don't have a paper or digital photo album of loved ones, it is never too late to start. How about those digital frames that download multiple pictures. Memories in pictures are a way to cherish others that are no longer physically present. Give it a try and start one today.

04/21/2026

The bond of a secure relationship whether it be a mother, father, spouse, or child is an attachment that is broken by loss. This attachment provides emotional stability and safety. When death occurs that connection, is severed. The brain will continue to try to maintain this sense of connection despite this physical separation. In keeping meaningful mementos, talking out loud in conversation, or watching a shared favorite movie, this connection can help the brain to continue that sense of connection. We then learn how to carry a departed loved one within a memory that carries their essence everywhere. Daily life becomes an opportunity to include them in our journey as we find a new steadiness.

04/17/2026

Grieving is the entire response that we have to a loss. It is expressed in the mind's thoughts, heart's emotions, body responses, and actions. Mourning is the steps of processing and expressing through grief. Both are intertwined with each other, but mourning gives a path towards active processing. Things such as making a piece of jewelry with your loved one's ashes or a teddy bear out of a loved one's clothing is an outward remembrance. These remembrances help give the mind and body a way to slowly adapt, connect, and find stability. There are so many creative ways to remember a loved one. Comment below the mourning ways you have created to remember your loved one.

04/17/2026

If you were not able to find anyone in this picture that was not in grief, then you answered correctly. There are many different types of ways people grieve. It is unique to the personality, circumstances, and relationship that was lost. There are three types of grievers. First type is called head grievers. They experience loss by processing it with the mind and will often do this through tasks, planning, and problem-solving. Their emotions are minimally expressed. Second type is heart grievers. They experience loss with feeling and expressing emotions. These are the ones who will search out support, weep openly, and want to talk about the loss of relationship. Last type is Blended grievers. They experience loss by switching between head and heart due to the type of circumstances. When we are sitting with others who have just experienced a major loss through death of a very close relationship, remember to allow a space for them to grieve however they are uniquely made. Not everyone will exhibit the same way. It is wise for those helping to realize this.

04/11/2026

Sharing is caring. Think about the people in your life. Which ones can share your real fears, feelings, mistakes, and hurts with? We all need to have at least one person in our lives that we can share honestly with. Before sharing with another, ask yourself if this person is trustworthy, humble, and can admit their own real fears, feelings, mistakes, and hurts with you. We need to connect with those who are capable of being trusted. Connection with others helps to combat loneliness and isolation. Any time we are in relationships there is the possibility of hurt feelings. When this occurs, we need to take a step back to allow the heart to heal. Often this step back helps one not to say or do something harsh in return. Even in trusted relationships, hurt feelings can occur. Noone can be a perfect friend. However, we can learn how to give and receive forgiveness and seek reconnection. Sharing life with others brings the deepest connection of the heart. We all need somebody to lean on.

04/09/2026

04/09/2026

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04/09/2026

A dragon can only be safe if it lays down being defensive. If we can hear another's feedback without feeling the need to breath out fire to protect self is a safe place to be. Noone likes to be confronted about something they are doing wrong. It feels safest to avoid such people or comments. Often times we get defensive instead of being open to others feedback. We need a perspective shift when it comes to this. Maybe instead of seeing other's feedback as a dragon breathing fire, we can sit and listen. Feedback helps us learn about self and to correct unhelpful behaviors like defensive fire breathing. Can we own where we are wrong? This is the first step towards becoming a safe person.

04/02/2026

Memories are chosen and cherished within each of us. The mind can hold on to a memory for a lifetime. They come flooding back when something triggers them. The question is are those memories that help or hinder. The mind can also hold on to hurtful memories too. Since memories cannot be changed, it's the lingering thoughts and feelings that need to be focused on. If a memory brings happy tears, joy, warmth, and peace then this is a memory to hold on to. Likewise, if a memory brings pain, guilt, shame, sorrow, and turmoil then this is a memory that needs to be worked through. The only thing we have control over are the thoughts and feelings about a painful memory. The choices we make to give time and attention to these thoughts and feelings are very important. In order to do this, we must learn to forgive, give grace, and let go of regrets. Life will always be filled with both kinds of memories.

03/31/2026

It matters who and what you are filling your cup with. Women are created for connection. When we go to fill the friendship cup in life, we need to discern whether that person will be an encouraging addition. Even before we fill the friendship cup of life, we need to ask ourselves if we are the kind of women that will empower other women. If we have to much stress going on in life, it is harder to be that encouraging person to others. First, we need to figure out how to encourage ourselves. Start with defining what brings big peace into your mind. Next, list what actions and activities bring you joy. Last, start to put into practice that peace giving and joy filling things you listed. Let's all beginning to work on empowering self, so we can empower others.