20/11/2025
Dearest Grieving Moms,
This may be something you would like to share on your page if you are not comfortable saying it directly to your family and friends…..
Ten Things Bereaved Parents Wish You Knew
1. Please don't be afraid to talk to me about my child. My child lived and was very important to me, and it is a comfort to me to know that he or she was important to you, too. My child is pretty much always on my mind anyway...you're not going to "remind" me that he or she is gone.
2. If I cry when you speak of my child, it isn't because you have hurt me. My child's death is the cause of my tears. You have talked about my child and allowed me to share my grief and I thank you for both.
3. If I seem absent-minded and forgetful, that's because I am! "Grief Brain" is a common malady in bereaved parents. I'm really not losing my mind, but sometimes I may feel like I am.
4. Please don't expect my grieving to be over in six months, or even a year. The early months may be the most traumatic for me, but please understand that my grief will never fully end until the day I am reunited with my child in Heaven. And though it may sound strange, I don't really want my pain to completely go away....it helps me feel connected to my child.
5. When you ask me how I'm doing, that's a really hard question for me to answer. I will probably tell you I'm fine or I'm doing okay, but neither one of us has enough time for me to fully and accurately answer that question.
6. Please excuse me if I seem rude at times. Sometimes I just don't have the emotional stamina to participate in small talk and keep the smile on my face. I may just have to " check out" for awhile.
7. Please don't tell me you understand or that you understand how I feel. Unless you have lost a child, you cannot understand how it feels. I pray that you will never know how I feel.
8. Being a bereaved parent is not contagious, so please don't shy away from me. I need your support now more than ever before.
9. You may see me struggling emotionally sometimes, but this is just me trying to survive. This does not mean that I have lost my faith. For a variety of reasons, anywhere I am or anything I’m doing anymore is just a very emotional place to be. But I’m trying.
10. Please understand that the loss of a child changes a person. When my child died, a large part of me died with him or her. I am not the same person that I was before my child died and I will never be that person again.
