Remerge Life Coaching

02/03/2026

The High Cost of "Fixing" Others

In my work, I see one recurring pattern that drains even the most resilient people: The attempt to reach into another person and rearrange their heart.

We’ve all been there—trying to edit their choices, rewrite their wounds, or force a breakthrough in a chapter they refuse to read. But here is the hard coaching truth: No amount of "loving harder" or "waiting longer" can create a transformation in someone who isn't ready to own their own growth.

The Pivot: Reclaiming Your Power

The breakthrough happens when you stop focusing on their "why" and start focusing on your "how." Real change starts when you bravely decide to meet them exactly where they stand—without trying to move them.

This week, I challenge you to trade:

• Reaction for Response: Keep your emotional steering wheel.

• Bitterness for Boundaries: Protect your peace before the resentment sets in.

• Persuasion for Peace: Stop selling a version of "better" they didn't ask for.

• Self-Abandonment for Self-Respect: Stop setting yourself on fire to keep someone else warm.

The Result: Becoming "Storm-Proof"

When you make this shift, something sacred happens: You stop handing your inner weather over to someone else’s storm. Their behavior might stay exactly the same, but your life is no longer a casualty of it. You start protecting the space required for your own becoming. You learn to speak only when it won’t cost you your calm.

The Bottom Line:

This isn’t about giving up on people; it’s about finally showing up for yourself. Growth isn't found in trying to master another soul—it’s found in learning how to hold your own.

02/03/2026

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12/27/2025

12/20/2025

No one gives you a trophy for being honest. 🏆

In fact, staying true to yourself can be lonely. It might cost you some "easy" approval or the safety of blending in. But what you get back is so much better: the quiet dignity of not betraying yourself.
When you stop performing, you stop having to negotiate with your own soul in the dark. You get to lay your head down at night without replaying conversations or juggling masks.
Being genuine builds a strength that praise just can’t touch. It’s the freedom to be misunderstood but real, rather than accepted but false.
The real reward is simple: you finally get to rest in exactly who you are. ✨

12/20/2025

12/13/2025

The Year-and-a-Half Delay: Why You Should Reconnect

Big parties are not my thing. While they are a great way to catch up with people you normally don’t meet, those interactions are typically superficial. I usually try to stay only long enough to justify the time it took me to pick out an outfit!

However, at this one party, because I was very late, I didn’t get to sit near people I knew; all the seats were taken. I did sit next to someone I thought was radiating warmth and positivity. I’m so glad I did; we had great conversations, laughter, and even exchanged numbers, with the desire to continue this conversation.

And that was it. That’s how things usually end for me. Because I know it’s hard to recreate the same momentum. And life went on.

A year and a half passed.

Then, last night, while scrolling through my contacts, thinking about starting a book club with like-minded friends, I came across her name. I had completely forgotten what we had discussed, but I just remembered that it was a great conversation that involved our spiritual beliefs.

On an impulse, I sent her a message: “Hey, remember me? We met at so and so’s party and had really connected, hope you are doing well.”

A few minutes later, it was her calling!

We talked and laughed about how little we remembered about our conversation that day. But slowly, the surface thawed, and the deep connection we had experienced emerged. The next hour and a half was spent in amazement at the level of understanding we have for each other’s experiences. I’m left wondering how she articulates my thoughts and feelings so well—and she is probably thinking the same.

It truly felt like an old friendship in a new lifetime.

So why am I sharing this? If there are people in your life whom you feel drawn to reconnect with, do it. Not just the acquaintances that you know you will have a good time with, but the ones with whom you sense a deeper connection. It doesn’t have to be strangers; it could be those childhood friends or those college roommates.

It might or might not turn into a great connection, but you wouldn’t know till you try.

11/29/2025

The Secret Exhaustion of the High-Achiever: Why I Traded Goal Setting for Soul Setting.

I used to chase goals like a sprinter running a race that never seemed to end.
I hit the metrics. I earned the title. I created the perfectly curated life that ticked every box on the "successful woman" checklist. Yet, in the quiet moments between meetings and errands, a deep, persistent ache whispered, "Is this all there is?"
I looked capable, calm, and constantly in control, but inside, I was just exhausted. I was running on an invisible treadmill, convinced that the solution to my emptiness was simply setting a bigger, better goal.

The Problem with the Map

Traditional Goal Setting gave me a clear, efficient map. It told me what to get and how much to acquire. It excelled at the linear, the logical, the public-facing pursuit of achievement. And for high-achieving women, this approach carries a unique burden: we chase these goals not just for success, but often for proof—proof we are worthy, capable, and deserving of our seat at the table.
But the map doesn't tell you if the destination is one your heart truly desires. It doesn't measure the collateral damage of reaching the summit on fumes.

Finding the Compass

I had to stop asking, "What goal can I get?" and start asking, "Who am I becoming in the process?" This is the shift to Soul Setting.
Soul Setting is trading the exhausting map for an internal Compass. It focuses on the WHO and the HOW IT FEELS. It’s about committing to non-negotiable internal states—like Ease, Presence, Courage, or Integrity—and letting those guide your actions.

For years, my Goal was to be the person who kept all the plates spinning—the one who said 'Yes' to organizing every event and committee commitment to ensure everything ran smoothly. This goal was rooted in the external need to feel needed and valued.

My Soulset asked a different question: "How can I practice Honest Capacity this week so I can truly be present for my own well-being?"

The shift was profound. The success was no longer measured by the number of plates I held, but by the level of peace I felt while having the most important ones. It shifted me from a state of over-giving to one of self-respect and sustainable energy.

It’s Time to Stop Proving

You don't have to sacrifice your health or your true self for your ambitions. True success is integration: where your achievements are an expression of your Soulset, not a frantic attempt to earn validation. If you’re reading this and feeling that whisper of emptiness, it’s time to pick up your compass.

I want to hear your pivot: What's one thing you are allowing yourself to stop proving this week so you can reconnect with your true self? Share your thoughts below. 👇



Shoutout to Julia Vivcharyk for this picture.

11/19/2025