03/26/2026
When people talk about medical crises, they usually focus on the patient.
But there is another story happening at the same time—the caregiver, typically the spouse/partner.
The spouse managing paperwork, finances, decisions and emotional survival for the entire family.
During our interview, shared so many things that continue to stick with me. One of those was, “You took a nap for several months, but I went to war.” Yes, she brings humor and levity, but the underlying message is one that truly hits home for the spouse who is fighting for everyone.
Caregiver trauma often looks like competence. It looks like handling everything. But behind the competence is often profound emotional strain and the primal will to survive.