02/22/2026
If your child falls apart after school…
It’s not because they were “good all day and bad at home.”
It’s often restraint collapse.
Many children — especially those with sensory differences, ADHD, autism, or anxiety — use enormous energy during the day to:
• Sit still
• Follow rules
• Tolerate noise and lights
• Suppress stimming
• Hide overwhelm
• Meet social expectations
That’s masking.
And masking is exhausting.
When they get home — to safety — the nervous system releases.
Tears.
Irritability.
Sibling conflict.
Meltdowns over small things.
Not manipulation.
Not disrespect.
Decompression.
The toy wasn’t the trigger.
The cup was already full.
When we understand threshold and capacity, we stop personalizing the behavior — and start supporting regulation.
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