11/07/2025
9 things I’ve learned in 9 years of being a doula.
1. Birth gives us the opportunity to be taken to the edge of ourselves. At our edge is where we soften. It’s where transformation and expansion happen. Our capacity grows. No two edges look the same.
2. The massive amount of information on the internet is stripping away our intuition as mothers and leading us to fear and anxiety. We are outsourcing at a time we should be looking more inward and upward.
3. There is not a one size fits all best way to birth your baby. It’s about surrender, intuition, and agency. Your journey will not look the same as someone else’s.
4. It never gets old witnessing the birth of a baby. It’s holy ground. A place of joy, wonder, and worship.
5. Birth preparation is way more about preparing our hearts than it is about preparing our minds. Education can only take you so far.
6. You cannot predict birth. There is mystery to it. It’s through that mystery that we learn we cannot control, so we must open ourselves up and surrender.
7. Your pain tolerance has nothing to do with your ability to have an unmedicated birth. But your perception of the pain does.
8. Pregnancy is expansive. Physically and spiritually.
9. The tender strength and love of a supportive and protective husband in the birth process is one of the most powerful tools I’ve witnessed as a doula.
