Jennifer L. Bristow Cain, MA LPC

12/03/2025

This is something we talk about a lot— what is the right age for cell phones?

My answer: put them off as long as possible, and then use with as many guardrails as possible.

A growing body of literature continues to point in this direction.

A new study in Pediatrics found that twelve-year-olds who owned smartphones were more likely to experience depression and obesity and not get enough sleep than their peers without one. Consistent communication with children and teens about smartphones and screen time can help make sure that phones don’t crowd out important activities like exercise, sleep, and quality time with friends and family. Learn more in AAP News: https://bit.ly/3KvYJkB

10/19/2025

Just a friendly neighborhood reminder this morning:

You can’t just flip a switch and expect burnout — or old habits — to fix themselves. Real change takes effort. You have to do the work, make the adjustments, and turn the light back on for yourself.

Change isn’t automatic. It’s intentional. It’s hard. And it’s worth it.

09/11/2025

A resource for tonight, if you need a place to start, from NCTSN

Talking to children when scary things happen:
https://www.nctsn.org/sites/default/files/resources/fact-sheet/talking-to-children-when-scary-things-happen.pdf

And as always, take care of yourself, don't be afraid to turn off the screens, reach out to your people, and don't be afraid to ask for extra support.

07/08/2025

We are honored to provide free access to trauma-informed resources for those impacted by the Central Texas Flooding Disaster.

🔗 https://child.tcu.edu/flood-support

06/25/2025

What's your attachment style?
How is it impacting your life and other relatoinships?

Attachment is a big deal!!! How we were parented and cared for along with our childhood experiences informs our attachment style. Then we grow up, and how we parent our children informs their attachment style. Then they grow up, and how they parent informs our grandchildren’s attachment style (and on and on and on…)

The good news is attachment can change! So making an intentional decision to walk towards your own “earned secure attachment” can have generational impacts.

While this can feel overwhelming it is important to remember that having an insecure style does not mean something is wrong with you. It simply shows the brilliant and beautiful way you adapted to your surroundings and circumstances. Identifying your own attachment patterns can show you the pathway towards earned secure attachment. Doing the processing and work for yourself and your children is a gift! It’s never too late to process your past and the way it impacts your current relationships!

06/25/2025

Hydrate, hydrate, hydrate!

And by the way, this works for everyone, not just kids.... so grab your water today!

05/15/2025

Your future isn’t built in breakthrough moments — it’s shaped in the quiet, ordinary choices no one claps for. The ones where you show up. Say no. Stick to your values.

Growth looks like consistency, not just intensity. And that’s really good news — because it means you can start today… right now.

05/12/2025

Lilyfield is excited to be offering FREE TBRI and Trauma-Informed Classrooms training to licensed childcare centers/providers caring for a child ages 0-5 who has experienced some kind of trauma or adverse experience. Childcare providers will also have access to one-on-one and group consultations to help teachers problem-solve challenging behaviors and build skills to manage these behaviors. Our team will support your teachers in understanding and responding to challenging behaviors in order to make classrooms more peaceful and positive for everyone!

Register for training and consultations here: http://tinyurl.com/ydj9k563

04/22/2025

Free treatment for nightmares!

We are looking for adults who have experienced a traumatic event and are struggling with nightmares to participate in a research study that offers free treatment!
If you are interested, please call us at 918-631-3976 or email us at tu.nightmarestudy@utulsa.edu.
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03/19/2025

Come visit me in my new office, and check out the updated website. I am now in-network with many Blue Cross OK plans!

Do you feel like you’re at a crossroads? Are you discouraged, overwhelmed, or frustrated? Managing, but barely? Ready for more? You are not alone.

03/17/2025

Friends who have experienced the fires, this is a good resource with your kiddos:

Free resource for families who have experienced wildfires developed with NCTSN

08/05/2024

Worth the Watch:

Jia Jiang adventures boldly into a territory so many of us fear: rejection. By seeking out rejection for 100 days -- from asking a stranger to borrow $100 to requesting a "burger refill" at a restaurant -- Jiang desensitized himself to the pain and shame that rejection often brings and, in the proce...