04/05/2026
The emotion Selfish, can be expressed in many ways,one area it can show up as feeling that someone wants something of yours that you are not ready to share.
An example would be a special memory or a special gift from your deceased loved one.
The question I asked was; Are you feeling that other’s won’t meet your needs during this process ? Are you focusing more on your self and how you feel?
I offered the choices of essential oils: Spikenard, Magnolia, or Palmarosa . They selected Palmarosa.
This essential oil has the ability to help individuals to be honest about their grief and to truly see how strong their heart is and that they have the ability to keep going. Knowing that they are loved and allowing their emotions to soften.
I had them close their eyes and do a body scan and see where they were holding this emotion. Asking where they felt the most tension, could they describe it along with the intensity of 1-10, where in their body was this sensation.
Took it a step further, front or back of the body, right or left side. These questions help to look deeper into how the emotion is expressed and affecting their body. Leading to deeper understanding and breakthrough of this emotion.
Holding onto emotions can have negative impacts on their health, especially if it has been an emotion that has been present for quite some time. I had them rub a drop of the oil on the area of tension and then three slow and deep breaths in, hold, then exhale , asking how that area felt after using the oil on it and breathing. They reported feeling less discomfort.
At this time I asked if they were ready to release this emotion of selfish?
They were, next step is visualizing letting it leave their body and then using the visualize being filled with all the love, nurturing, and nourishment that their body and soul needs. …..The visualization comes from the book Essential Emotions 13th Edition, page 310.
Giving them a moment to settle into their visualization, having them apply a drop of oil to their hands and do some slow deep breathing. When they were ready to continue, asking how they felt after the visualization, they said that they were feeling less of the heaviness, also they feel that they have the ability to believe in their own healing journey.
Anchoring in a new emotion to fill the space that was just released, we don’t want to leave a void. We want a new way of being. A declaration is repeated to deepen it into the body and it resonates. Using the oil to create new neural pathways. The declaration is a short statement that is simple enough to remember and personalized to enhance their healing.
After a breakthrough, I encourage them to integrate with self nurturing, this is different than self care, it is to nurture their mind, soul and body. Because releasing emotions and healing requires compassion and courage. Suggestions are movement, music, time in nature, rest, hydration, and applying the oil of choice.
It is a good idea to prepare for what comes next with this new awareness. Some times it is setting new boundaries for yourself, forgiving yourself, and releasing expectations of others. As with any situation in life, sometimes we need to be ready for what can get in the way of our healing and have an idea of how we can handle these situations.
I like to end the session with gratitude, I have them place a hand over their heart and silently Thank themselves for showing up to do the work.
It is always an honor for me to guide them through their breakthrough and encourage them to trust in their healing journey and transformation.
