Tesa Saulmon

12/22/2025

You didn’t cause the betrayal.
Almost every betrayed spouse asks the same question: “Was it me? Did the marriage push them into this?”

When your world collapses, your mind searches for reasons—anything to make sense of the pain.

But here’s the truth you deserve to hear clearly:
Relationship struggles do not cause betrayal.
Communication gaps don’t cause secrecy.
Emotional distance doesn’t cause lying.
Your imperfections don’t cause deception.

Betrayal is a personal choice—rooted in avoidance, unhealed wounds, or a lack of integrity.

It is its own wound, separate from the marriage.
You can acknowledge the pain in your relationship and still name the betrayal for what it was.

And healing becomes clearer—more grounded—when the truth is spoken out loud.

The betraying partner must take full ownership.
The betrayed partner deserves safety, honesty, and space to heal.
If you’re walking through this season, you don’t have to do it alone. The Online Betrayed Spouses Support Group offers a compassionate, guided place to understand the impact, steady your heart, and rebuild your sense of self.

And through it all, Jesus stays near—holding you, not blaming you, and reminding you your worth was never up for debate.
Visit the website to learn more.

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12/22/2025

Betrayal has a way of shaking what once felt solid.
Suddenly, you’re more guarded. More overwhelmed. Unsure where to place your feet or how to begin again.

That response isn’t weakness—it’s trauma. And healing becomes far more possible when you’re guided by someone who understands betrayal trauma and supported by others who know this pain from the inside out.

The Online Betrayed Spouses Therapy Group offers weekly live sessions designed to help you gently process what happened, rebuild a sense of safety, and reconnect with the strength that betrayal tried to steal.

Together, we focus on:
• Trauma education that helps your reactions make sense
• Emotional regulation skills for when your body feels hijacked
• Boundaries that protect your peace
• Understanding the recovery process for both partners

This is a space where your experience is taken seriously. Where your pain isn’t minimized. Where healing is honored with compassion, clarity, and practical tools to help you move forward.

Jesus often heals in community—placing us among those who can carry hope with us when we feel too tired to hold it ourselves.

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12/20/2025

If accountability feels like punishment, something is already broken.

Most betrayed spouses aren’t asking for perfection.
They’re asking for honesty.

I see it all the time—the moment a partner finally owns the full truth.
The shoulders drop. The breath deepens. The nervous system exhales.
Not because the pain disappears… but because the gaslighting stops.

Accountability isn’t about blame or control.
It’s about safety.

When there’s no accountability, your body keeps the score:
the anxiety, the hypervigilance, the constant scanning for what’s missing, the exhaustion of carrying clarity alone. And then you start wondering if you’re “too much” for needing answers.

You’re not.

Accountability is the doorway to healing after betrayal.
It’s how trust begins to regrow.
It’s how safety is rebuilt—brick by brick.

And here’s the part I don’t want you to miss:
your healing does not have to wait on someone else’s readiness.

You can begin restoring stability, clarity, and self-trust inside your own body today.

This is the work I do with betrayed spouses every day—walking with you through this season with trauma-informed care, compassion, and steadiness. And if you need a place where you don’t have to carry this alone, the Online Betrayed Spouses Support Group is a gentle, grounding space to land.

And in the middle of all of it—Jesus remains steady.
He doesn’t rush your healing, minimize your pain, or ask you to silence your truth. He stays.

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12/19/2025

🎄 If Christmas feels fragile this year, please hear this first: you are not broken.

When betrayal has touched your life, the holidays can feel disorienting. Joy feels forced. Traditions feel hollow. You might look around and wonder why everyone else seems to be celebrating while your heart is just trying to survive.

That disconnect doesn’t mean you’re weak.
It means you’ve been wounded.

Betrayal trauma has a way of colliding with seasons that are supposed to be joyful—making you feel lonely even in crowded rooms. And if that’s you this Christmas, you are not failing at the holidays. You are responding normally to something deeply painful.

This season, it’s okay to do things differently.
✨ Rest when your body asks for rest.
✨ Say no without explaining yourself.
✨ Set boundaries without guilt.
✨ Let healing—not pressure—decide how you show up.

Your emotional safety matters. Honoring your needs isn’t selfish—it’s brave.

And here’s the gentle truth I want to leave you with:
Jesus is not disappointed in your grief. He is with you in it. Emmanuel—God with us—doesn’t only meet us in joy, but in heartbreak too. Even here, you are not alone.

💛 If you’re navigating betrayal, infidelity recovery, or relationship trauma this holiday season and need support, help is available.

👉 Reach out for trauma-informed, faith-integrated therapy
Tesa Saulmon, LMHC, CSAT
Root to Bloom Therapy
🌐 www.roottobloomtherapy.com

📧 hello@roottobloomtherapy.com

📞 (850) 530-7236

You don’t have to carry this season by yourself.






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12/17/2025

False peace is comfortable… until it costs you everything.
It’s the kind of peace that smooths things over on the surface while the real wounds stay hidden underneath.

It soothes the conscience, avoids conflict, and keeps everything looking “fine”—but nothing actually changes.

True healing?
That takes courage.
It starts when you stop minimizing the damage and let truth do its refining work.

There’s a big difference between the two voices we hear in recovery:
Regret says: “I feel bad for what happened.”

Responsibility says: “I own what I did and how it affected you.”
One avoids.
One transforms.

The peace God offers isn’t born in denial or pretense—it grows in confession, humility, and the slow, steady rebuilding of trust. It’s deeper. It’s harder. And it’s the only kind that lasts.

Take a quiet moment…
Which voice are you listening to today—regret or responsibility?
In all of it, Jesus meets you with truth and tenderness, inviting you toward real peace, not the fragile kind.

Save this for later or share it with someone who needs it.
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12/17/2025

12/17/2025

False peace is comfortable… until it costs you everything.
It’s the kind of peace that smooths things over on the surface while the real wounds stay hidden underneath.

It soothes the conscience, avoids conflict, and keeps everything looking “fine”—but nothing actually changes.

True healing?
That takes courage.
It starts when you stop minimizing the damage and let truth do its refining work.

There’s a big difference between the two voices we hear in recovery:
Regret says: “I feel bad for what happened.”

Responsibility says: “I own what I did and how it affected you.”

One avoids.
One transforms.

The peace God offers isn’t born in denial or pretense—it grows in confession, humility, and the slow, steady rebuilding of trust. It’s deeper. It’s harder. And it’s the only kind that lasts.
Take a quiet moment…

Which voice are you listening to today—regret or responsibility?
In all of it, Jesus meets you with truth and tenderness, inviting you toward real peace, not the fragile kind.
Save this for later or share it with someone who needs it.

Follow for more trauma-informed, faith-rooted support.

12/15/2025

Forgiveness does not mean pretending the wound wasn’t real.
So many betrayed spouses feel pressured to “move on,” “let it go,” or “be the bigger person.” But forgiveness was never meant to erase truth. God’s heart for you has always included honesty, justice, and real restoration—not denial.

Psalm 51:6 says God desires truth in our inward parts.

Truth, not avoidance.
Truth, not minimization.
Truth, not blame-shifting.
You can walk in forgiveness and hold firm, healthy boundaries.
You can protect your safety and refuse to tolerate chaos.
You can expect real accountability and still keep your heart anchored in grace.

Forgiveness is not pretending.
It’s choosing not to carry what isn’t yours—while still expecting the person who harmed you to do their work.

If you’re navigating betrayal, you don’t have to do it alone. I help clients heal with both faith and evidence-based care, honoring your story and your relationship with God every step of the way.

Jesus does not rush your healing. He sits with you in truth, gently strengthening you as you rebuild.

If you need support, reach out or visit the website to learn more.
Follow for more trauma-informed, faith-rooted guidance.

12/12/2025

Ever notice how healing in a relationship never looks the way you thought it would?
One day you feel connected… the next you wonder if any progress has been made at all.
It’s messy. It’s tender. And it’s so much more human than we ever admit.

Because relational growth is rarely a straight line —
it’s a series of small, almost invisible moments that slowly change everything.

Maybe you’ve felt it too…
that tiny pause before reacting,
the gentler tone in a tough conversation,
the moment you owned something honestly without spiraling into shame,
or the first time you said what you needed — and didn’t apologize for it.

Those moments don’t always feel big.
But they are big.
They’re the first signs that deeper healing is taking root.

Growth usually whispers before it speaks loudly:
a quicker repair after conflict,
a little more curiosity instead of defensiveness,
a shared moment of progress you both notice and hold onto.

This is how couples rebuild safety —
not through perfection, but through steady, honest presence.
This is how trust returns — not overnight, but piece by piece.
This is how emotional connection comes back — slowly, intentionally, with humility and care.

What small signs of growth have you noticed in your relationship lately?

—
Tesa Saulmon, LMHC, CSAT
roottobloomtherapy.com
hello@roottobloomtherapy.com

(850) 530-7236

12/10/2025

💛 Healthy connection doesn’t mean you never fight or always get it right. After betrayal this takes time, it takes SAFETY.

It means that when things get messy—you both know how to find your way back to each other.

It’s when one of you takes a deep breath instead of shutting down.
When an argument ends not in silence, but in softness.
When both of you can say, “I see where I hurt you, and I want to do better.”

That’s what real love looks like—it’s not perfect, but it’s present.
It’s showing up, even when it’s uncomfortable.
It’s choosing repair over resentment, empathy over ego, connection over control.

Over time, these small moments of kindness and accountability start to shape something sacred.
You begin to feel safer, calmer, more at ease.
Healing stops feeling like hard work—it becomes the heartbeat of the relationship itself.

Because true intimacy isn’t built in the easy seasons.
It’s built in the quiet, everyday choices to keep turning toward each other—again and again. 🌿

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12/09/2025

Have you ever felt like you have to manage your partner’s healing after betrayal?

Like if you just tried hard enough… helped enough… guided enough… maybe things would finally feel safe again?

It’s such a common response when trust has been broken — to step into responsibility that was never meant to be yours.
But the truth is, real renewal doesn’t come from fixing the other person.
It comes from the braver, quieter work of taking ownership of yourself.

You are responsible for your choices.
Your emotions.
Your boundaries.
Your healing.
How you show up — with honesty, clarity, and steadiness — is where real change begins.

From that grounded place, respect can grow again.
Accountability can grow again.
Even intimacy can grow again — not through control or over-functioning, but through two people tending to their own healing while slowly creating something new together.

Save this as a reminder:
You are not responsible for your partner’s healing journey.
You are responsible for your own — and that is where your power, peace, and freedom begin.

Tesa Saulmon, LMHC, CSAT
roottobloomtherapy.com
hello@roottobloomtherapy.com
(850) 530-7236



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