Nicole Ohebshalom, RN, LPC

Nicole Ohebshalom, RN, LPC Psychotherapy

Burnout isn’t overload—it’s overload without an end signal. Your body reads endless chaos as “this is life now,” dialing...
01/30/2026

Burnout isn’t overload—it’s overload without an end signal.

Your body reads endless chaos as “this is life now,” dialing down rest systems until calm feels wrong.

01/30/2026

Somehow, January always feels like both a prologue and a test—an early glimpse of who we are becoming, and a quiet audit of which parts of us are ready to be retired. We start the year with intentions, plans, and color‑coded calendars, and then life responds with its own agenda: unexpected conversations, small detours, flashes of clarity, moments of resistance.

If we pay attention, these first few weeks reveal more than any New Year’s resolution ever could. What felt nourishing and sustainable? What already feels heavy or outgrown? Where did we find ourselves more honest, more tender, or more impatient than we expected?

As this first month closes, I’m less interested in whether we “stuck to the plan” and more curious about what we learned about ourselves that supports our evolution. My invitation is not to judge the month, but to listen to it - to let January be data, not a verdict.

So before we step into February, I invite you to pause with me: to notice what you’re carrying that still feels sacred, and what you’re carrying simply because you always have.

All we want is to feel that freedom we felt as a kid. We want moments of feeling authentic and having a good time. What ...
01/28/2026

All we want is to feel that freedom we felt as a kid. We want moments of feeling authentic and having a good time. What does authentic fun look like to you?

01/26/2026

Nonlinear movement helps trauma healing by letting your body lead the way, releasing stuck pain through natural, looping rhythms instead of forcing straight-line fixes.

Why It Works for You
Imagine your mind as a high-performing engine: it revs fast for deadlines but clogs with old stress. Nonlinear movement—gentle swaying, shaking, or flowing—mirrors life’s real ups and downs, signaling safety to your nervous system. It unsticks energy without overthinking, turning setbacks into quiet strength.

Real Benefits
Frees bottled-up tension from years of high-stakes wins, so you recharge faster.

Builds calm resilience, like debugging code that loops back smarter.

Sparks clarity for decisions, without the burnout grind.

High-achievers thrive here: no rigid steps, just intuitive flow that fits your pace. Try it—your body knows the path. DM for a tailored session

When you’re overthinking, it’s a sign that your emotions are disconnected from you. Slow down by taking a deep breath, g...
01/22/2026

When you’re overthinking, it’s a sign that your emotions are disconnected from you. Slow down by taking a deep breath, gently making contact with the emotion underneath the somatic overthinking experience. In this awareness, we can connect with the emotional message.

01/21/2026

Authenticity in relationships is about connecting with yourself first and being anchored there. It’s about staying connected to what brings you a sense of aliveness—your expansive joy points—and remaining rooted in yourself as your primary point of reference.

Many ambitious, thoughtful women become highly skilled at managing relationships. You read the room, anticipate needs, smooth tension, and push past your own discomfort to meet high expectations. These skills often lead to success at work and stability in relationships. But over time, something quieter can happen inside: an inner voice that says, “Just hold it together. Don’t need too much. Don’t slow down.” Without realizing it, you begin treating yourself the way demanding systems do.

Authenticity asks for a gentle shift. Before speaking or acting, pause and notice: does this choice feel constricting or enlivening? Draining or nourishing? Real connection grows from this inner alignment—where you choose when and how to engage not out of fear or obligation, but out of self-respect and care.

Connection—whether with a partner, a colleague, or yourself—deepens when you stop disappearing to keep the peace. When you show up whole, without over-performing, the right people can actually feel you and respond.

Reflection: Where in your life are you pushing yourself to perform at the cost of feeling more alive? What small choice today could help you come back to yourself?

Authenticity in connection is not unfiltered disclosure—sharing everything without regard for whether the other person c...
01/21/2026

Authenticity in connection is not unfiltered disclosure—sharing everything without regard for whether the other person can truly hear it, or without protecting your own energy.

True authenticity begins with you, in relationship with yourself first.

High-earning women often master the external dance: preempting needs, smoothing friction, overriding the body’s quiet signals to meet relentless demands. But the deeper fracture lies inward, where self-talk turns interrogative and depleting—“Push harder. Don’t falter. Your worth hinges on endurance.”

This is where authenticity falters—not in what you withhold from others, but in what you refuse to grant yourself: presence, discernment, a voice that honors your limits as sacred, not shameful.

Connection of any depth—at work, home, or within—requires this prior fidelity to your own experience. Only then can you discern what’s worth sharing, with whom, and at what cost.

Where does your self-dialogue demand performance over protection? What one phrase might you offer yourself instead, as you would a valued confidante?

Authenticity in connection is not unfiltered disclosure—sharing everything without regard for whether the other person c...
01/21/2026

Authenticity in connection is not unfiltered disclosure—sharing everything without regard for whether the other person can truly hear it, or without protecting your own energy.

True authenticity begins with you, in relationship with yourself first.

Thoughtful, ambitious women often master the external dance: preempting needs, smoothing friction, overriding the body’s quiet signals to meet relentless demands. But the deeper fracture lies inward, where self-talk turns interrogative and depleting—“Push harder. Don’t falter. Your worth hinges on endurance.”

This is where authenticity falters—not in what you withhold from others, but in what you refuse to grant yourself: presence, discernment, a voice that honors your limits as sacred, not shameful.

Connection of any depth—at work, home, or within—requires this prior fidelity to your own experience. Only then can you discern what’s worth sharing, with whom, and at what cost.

Where does your self-dialogue demand performance over protection? What one phrase might you offer yourself instead, as you would a valued confidante?

Authenticity has impact when the question shifts from “How do I secure this relationship?” to “How do I stay **anchored*...
01/20/2026

Authenticity has impact when the question shifts from “How do I secure this relationship?” to “How do I stay **anchored** in myself while I care about this connection?”

High-functioning women are so skilled at reading the room, adapting, and making things work that it can feel natural to prioritize the relationship over their own inner life. You start managing the outcome—nudging the pace, over-accommodating, downplaying needs—and it may create momentum, but often at the cost of your aliveness and your voice.

The real question becomes: “Can I speak in my own voice here, and do I like who I am in this connection and the life I’m living around it?”

Authenticity isn’t radical transparency with everyone you meet; it’s the quiet refusal to abandon yourself in real time. That might look like not overriding the subtle “no” in your body just to keep things smooth, letting silence or difference exist without rushing to fix it, and allowing your own pace and preferences to matter as much as the potential of the relationship.

When you take your desires, limits, and happiness seriously, you stop auditioning and start discerning. From there, the relationships that are good *for you* can recognize you as you are—you don’t have to disappear to be chosen.

Reflection: Where have you noticed yourself performing in connection (dating, home, or work) instead of bringing your full, quiet self—and what would be the first thing to change if you stayed loyal to your own voice?

Micro-regulation asks for consistent, quiet attention to your inner world rather than dramatic, once-in-a-while interven...
01/19/2026

Micro-regulation asks for consistent, quiet attention to your inner world rather than dramatic, once-in-a-while interventions. Treat it like strength training for your nervous system: many small reps, done often, build real capacity over time.
A few ways to practice:
• Notice your baseline more often: pause 3–5 times a day and simply name what you feel in your body without fixing it. This awareness alone starts to regulate your system.
• Choose a 60-second reset: one slow exhale, dropping your shoulders, unclenching your jaw, and softening your gaze. Repeating this micro-ritual throughout the day gradually shifts you out of chronic activation
• Keep the change realistic: aim to move from “highly activated” to “slightly less activated,” not from overwhelmed to bliss. Tiny reductions in intensity, repeated often, are what prevent collapse.
Reflective journal question:
• When I notice my nervous system starting to ramp up, what is one small, concrete thing I’m willing to do in that moment to support myself—and what usually gets in the way of doing it?•

Let it go. The story, the grand distraction. The tension, the thoughts. Make space for more. Release the rest. Have some...
01/18/2026

Let it go. The story, the grand distraction. The tension, the thoughts. Make space for more. Release the rest. Have some fun.

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