02/13/2026
đ Valentineâs Day is a great reminder to slow down, reconnect, and show up with intention - whether youâre partnered, dating, or focusing on yourself. Therapist Natasha Taffett, MS, LMFT shares thoughtful reflections on self-love, honest communication, and staying present:
1. Start with self-love.
Whether you are searching for love or nurturing a long-term relationship or marriage, itâs important to prioritize how you treat yourself. The way you care for yourself often sets the standard for how others treat you. Engage in practices that support your well-beingâregular exercise, for example, has been shown to reduce anxiety, boost mood, and help prevent depression. And donât underestimate the power of feeling good in your own skin: dressing up, having fun, and taking pride in your appearance can meaningfully shift how you show up.
2. Know your values and communicate your desires.
Clarity helps attract the right kind of love and ensures that you and your partner are on the same page. While many people hope their partner will surprise them with romance or reservations, waiting silently can lead to disappointment. If something matters to you, say so. Communicating your hopes allows both partners to plan intentionally and sets the relationship up for success.
3. Be present in the relationship youâre in.
For those in long-term relationships, consider letting go of past hurtsâat least for the eveningâand focusing on connection. Ask meaningful questions, such as: What made you feel most loved this year? or What are you hoping for in the coming months?
4. If youâre just beginning a new relationship, ensure youâre well supported by therapy and friendships as you work through old wounds. A healed heart creates space for healthier love.
5. Say yes to new experiences.
Growth happens outside our comfort zones. Go somewhere youâve never been, try something youâve always avoided, or revisit something you decided you disliked long ago. You might even discover you like onions after all.
6. Celebrate one another.
Clink glasses over promotions, milestones, successful sleep training of babies, and everything in between. These momentsâsmall as they may seemâare your life. Take stock, be present, and allow gratitude to deepen connection.
And for single parents:
If you donât have a Valentine this year, you actually do. Take your school-aged child out on a Valentineâs date. Dress up together and make the evening special. Children rise to the occasion when they feel seen as capable and valuedâand the memory will stay with both of you.
Wishing you a Valentineâs Day filled with connection, intention, and care. đ