09/18/2025
This story started out on an entirely different topic before this one grabbed the reigns. I didn’t think I’d ever share it publicly, and it took all of the courage and emotional energy in my well to tell it. I had to hold myself in exquisite self-care during the two weeks that I wrote it and hope that in doing so it helps someone else. I’m relieved to finally publish and want to extend a special thanks to the three men in my writer’s group who encouraged me to loosen my grip and trust what unfolds. This is an account of what happened when the “one who got away” came back into my life ten years later. What began as a dream-come-true reunion turned into something far more complicated: a love story blurred by projection, addiction, and the illusions I clung to. In this personal essay, I share the journey of falling for a man’s potential instead of the person in front of me — and what it took to finally face the truth, release the fantasy, and return to myself.
What happens when the “one who got away” comes back ten years later? I thought it was fate — but it turned into a story of illusion, codependence, and finall...