Peg Iannone Health and Wellness Coaching

07/19/2022

I’ve been working with a client who is in the THICK of some stuff.

Sometimes in life we have more to do than we have time or resources.

I shared with her the best advice I’ve heard for these times…

Run the mile you’re in.

We live in a crazy ass world where multitasking is glorified..

All that does is take your focus off the task in front of you and create confusion and overwhelm.

Stop belaboring the past. Move on.

Stop worrying about the future. You can’t get there till you get there.

What you do control is right now. The present. This moment.

Hit the road, and run the mile you’re in.

07/08/2021

Your feelings are not problems to be fixed.

When you feel badly you’re first instinct will be to make it stop.

For instance, when I feel anxious I get controlling...

But feeling anxious doesn’t make me controlling...

Being anxious and trying NOT to be anxious that’s what makes me overly controlling.

Maybe for you it’s over eating or over spending or over drinking or over doing anything.

But, trying NOT to feel what you’re feeling - doesn’t really work.

And all the buffering - all the over doing it...just makes you feel worse.

Emotions - the good and the ugly are part of what makes us human.

We have to be willing to feel them and process them.

So they can go on their way and be done with us.

When you’re sad - it’s ok to be sad....until you are done being sad.

Or angry
Or frustrated
Or anxious
Or whatever

Stuffing feelings down, avoiding them, or trying to buffer them away never. ever. works.

The antidote is....

Feel what you feel for as long as you need to feel it.

Your feelings are not problems to be solved. They are to be felt.

07/06/2021

“How you do one thing is how you do everything.”

I’m not sure who originated this phrase...

But it has had profound meaning in my life.

Because, to me it says we all have a standard to how we show up in the world.

Which then begs the question, what is the standard I set for ME in all areas of my life?

Am I someone who’s going to give up?

Am I someone who’s going to over react?

Am I someone who’s going to give in?

I have to say it wasn’t until this little phrase entered my world that I began to actively decide.

How was I going to move forward creating the life I wanted for myself? What is my standard?

My answer? It was going to be by taking one step at a time.

On a run, in my business, with my relationships, navigating my 40s and 50s...

One careful step forward at a time.

This morning while running on the beach, I kept my eyes cast down - watching each sneaker hit the sand, knowing that looking at the miles out ahead would just tire needlessly tire me.

And I want to be someone who finishes. Who gets the job done.

How you do anything is how you do everything, SO...

It is important to be honest with yourself when asking how do I do “anything”.

And ask yourself, does it meet the standard I want, for me?

And if you aren’t totally satisfied with your answer, perhaps it’s time to set a new standard?

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07/05/2021

07/03/2021

You can do it!

07/01/2021

Here's the thing....its not that thoughts and emotions won't come up ....like all the time. They will. You are human.

But you do get to decide how much air time they get.

You get to decide where you spend most of your time.

The thoughts and emotions you choose to live in WILL determine every part of your life.

Choose carefully friends.

06/28/2021

Yesterday I posted about mistake I made.

But, I had the money in my bank account. I had a solution.

But, what about when you make mistakes and there isn’t a good solution?

Or people are pi**ed off about it?

What then?

The rules of the game don’t change just because other people are involved.

No mistake is worse than what we do to ourselves. And that’s the part that needs to stop.

So, take a breath. Read and remember these 4 steps.

You are going to Calm Your Inner Bitch - starting today.

1. You are human.

2. You get to make mistakes…even when they are big and people’s feelings get hurt.

3. There is always a lesson. Always an opportunity to grow. But you have to be curious. And you won’t be curious if your m.o. is to beat self up or get defensive or over identify with other people’s feelings.

3. Have your own back no matter what. Note- this doesn’t mean dig heels in and claim to be right. It means having courage to admit your weaknesses, surrender to your mistakes, accept your limitations and KNOW that it doesn’t affect your worthiness as a HUMAN. So after you make amends and try your best to fix things, REread step one.

4. Repeat

I believe it was Maya Angelou who said, ‘you teach people how to treat you’ -

But we have to start with teaching ourselves how treat us, first.

And I think this is so difficult because we have absorbed so much messaging throughout our lives that we’re supposed to be perfect. Loving. Not make mistakes.

And our inner bitch just grabs on and drives that message over and over.

She’s got to pipe down.

And when you learn how to calm her down, you free yourself up to so much more love, more peace and calm. More joy.

06/27/2021

I made a stupid mistake.

And now the mistake is threatening to become a big problem ....

Back in December we switched our home security monitoring and I had to close our current account.

But, they wanted to charge me a fee for closing the account (bs in my opinion) so I paid off in full except their bs fee. I cancelled my credit card and I wrote an email saying I never agreed to it, show it to me in writing,....blah blah

Well they NEVER closed the account. It kept accruing monthly fees (even though we have a new monitoring system.)

Flash forward and I get a letter from a collection agency for an overdue account with all the charges since Dec.

Believe me I called them and tried to “explain.” They weren’t having any of it.

I could feel the outrage and frustration in my body. I ended the call, took a breather, sat with myself awhile and made a decision.

Digging my heels in more about how it isn’t right or isn’t fair isn’t going to solve the problem

And neither is berating myself with ALL the ‘you should have...’

Because, that doesn’t help.

Hear me, it NEVER helps.

And I tell this story because I want to assure you

that what you make your mistakes and missteps MEAN (even the expensive ones) is truly optional.

OPTIONAL

I decided I needed to put my big girl pants on settle this bill even though it feels like crap and unfair and like I’m being railroaded.

But.....I will NOT add to that misery by piling on myself in my own brain.

I decided I get to make mistakes, even stupid ones.

That I could learn some lessons from this (for one, just pay the stupid fee because it’s never worth the fight).

And mostly that I have my own back no matter what.

06/23/2021

“How can this be easier??”

I ask myself questions all day long. Lately this one simple question has been a game changer.

I can SO easily to fall into the “this is the way to do this” or worse, “this is the right way to do this.”

But, SO MUCH of my day to day life becomes easier when I stop and ask myself, “how can this be easier?”

When I put the focus on easy, my brain usually comes up with a pretty good answer.

This week alone I’ve ...

Saved a trip going home from the beach to get my son’s ss number.

Didn’t have to purchase of an expensive dress for an event.

Stocked an entire kitchen - pots, pans, plates, small appliances... by pulling up to a store and having everything loaded into my car.

And clients are doing it too.

One is putting on her workout clothes on as soon as she gets up.

Another is cutting up all the veggies for the week on the weekend.

and has creating designated places in her house to keep certain things that tend to get lost.

Our brains keep doing what’s familiar, even if it isn’t the best way or isn’t helpful.

So, remember to redirect your brain when you want to find simple and easy solutions. Ask a good question like “How can this be easier?”

It bet it will come up with some good answers!!

06/20/2021

Happy Father’s Day.
Missing mine, but feeling his love.

06/17/2021

I want to talk about fear. And here's why.

I have had my own personal struggles with fear getting in the way in my life, and I see it creeping around almost every person that I talk to.

Everywhere you look, you hear people saying take risks, go for your dreams chances....

Right? There's even that famous book, Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway.

I don't know about you, but all of that cheerleading just leaves me feeling like something is wrong with ME.

Because my brain is like, HOW???

And also because I don’t always recognize fear. Sometimes it masquerades as anger, or sadness or frustration.

Fear is a primal human emotion. It is essential to keeping you alive and well. There is no getting rid of it.

And, you don’t HAVE to get rid of it, to live a great life.

But, having said that, it doesn't have to run the show as much as it is.

Put fear in the trunk instead of letting it ride shot gun 😃, so you can get on with it.

I've created a guide with some tools to help you with HOW to do it.

So you can diminish the day to day fear that crops up and tries to take control of you.

So you can show up to your life the way you really want to.

You can get a free copy right here!!