Elizabeth Earnshaw, LMFT

11/10/2025

I realize that perhaps this falls into the hot take category? So I'd also like my "unpopular opinion" to remained nuanced, too. Sometimes it might be important to express something in a strong and direct manner. Most of the time, though, a hot take is just someone who has had an experience they feel is unheard and they want to make it louder (I understand this) by dismissing an experience others have had that frequently gets heard ( which makes their statement not reflect full reality) or it's a criticism of someone else veiled as a truth in order to elevate themselves above the other. (Newborns are easy for me, so they should be easy for you too).

11/05/2025

11/04/2025

In just a few weeks, I am teaching a two day course on Intensive Couples Therapy! Intensive Couples Therapy completely changed the way I practiced and increased my passion for the work!

If you're interested in joining my training, you can read more about it here >
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10/03/2025

Last night at , I had the opportunity to interview Allison Daminger about her new book What’s on Her Mind.

Her book is grounded in research that really ties into my book ‘Til Stress Do Us Part.

In her book, she interview 172 parents and 94 couples to better understand how thinking work (cognitive labor) is managed in home life.

Cognitive labor is the anticipating, researching, deciding, and following up that keeps a home running and something I see often with my couples is the added burden of stress this places on their relationship when it’s not managed well.

Before we started our interview, we asked the audience to think of their own cognitive loads and then discussed themes. Some of the themes included how their cognitive load is often difficult for them to even define, how it evolves over time, and how certain systems add cognitive load they feel they can’t opt out to even if they wanted to (i.e. having multiple apps just to send their child to school).

I would love to hear from you - what does cognitive load look like in your home? What thoughts come up for you about it?

10/02/2025

If you're in the Philadelphia area and looking for something to do tonight I would love to see you at Headhouse Books! I will be there in discussing with Allison Daminger for her new book "What's On Her Mind" to discuss the mental load in family life!

You can register here:
https://www.headhousebooks.com/evening-allison-daminger-elizabeth-earnshaw

09/26/2025

I believe deeply in the Intensive Couples Therapy model - a model I have been using for many years now. The ability to take time to get a fuller picture of relationship dynamics and explore them without start and stop interruptions has been game changing for the work I do.

That's why I wrote The Clinician's Guide to Intensive Couples Therapy - to help other therapists understand what intensive sessions are like and how to implement them.

The book released as a #1 bestseller in the Psychology Education category and is #17 on the list of best sellers right now! Clearly a lot of therapists working with couples want another option for how they work with their clients.

If you're looking for another option when it comes to offering therapy to couples - you can check it out here >

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09/23/2025

Are you a couples therapist looking for a new way to work with couples? Does it feel like the 50 minute therapy hour sets your couples up for conflict that can’t be resolved and sets you up for the experience of having the zip everything up much too quickly?

If so, Intensive Couples Therapy might be just what you’re looking for. Intensive Couples Therapy is couples therapy in which couples meet with a therapist over two to three days. I teach you how to do them in my new book with - The Clincian’s Guide to Intensive Couples Therapy and an upcoming two day FREE training with !

🔗Link to the free training in my bio
📖 Book available everywhere books are sold

09/22/2025

I am a big supporter of this. Go somewhere without your phone! Your walk, the grocery store, a date night! It makes a huge difference. You do not need it, people survived without them before they existed.

The goal isn’t to be unplugged all day.
The goal is to be present enough in the moments that matter.

Try picking just one everyday activity to go phone-free today. It doesn’t need to be fancy or long:

•Snack time at the kitchen table
•Dinner time
•Bath time with bubbles and silly songs
•A walk around the block without distractions
•Reading a bedtime story, fully tuned in

It’s not about doing more. It’s about doing less to feel more.
More connection.
More calm.
More magic in the mundane.
More of the little things that actually matter.

Sometimes, it’s in those simple, undistracted moments that our relationship with our kids deepens, and that we get a little breath of peace, too.

09/12/2025

Hi everyone! How are you? It's been forever since I've posted (maybe a few reshares here and there?) but I wanted to hop on today because my son wrote a children's book with his dad - "Whatasaurus - A prehistoric mix-up of silly names and big laughs".

We are so excited because today we woke up to see it as a #2 new release!!!

It would be so cool to see it become #1 even if for a day!

If you have a kid in your life and they like dinosaurs or like to laugh - please consider buying Whatasaurus here > https://www.amazon.com/Whatasaurus-Prehistoric-Mix-Up-Silly-Laughs/dp/B0FQHHGP78/ref=zg_bsnr_g_2808_d_sccl_2/135-0669756-9360958?psc=1

08/19/2025

I feel so lucky to have Jenny to learn from

We are so lucky to have Jenny Blaszczyk, MS, LPC as a senior clinical supervisor and therapist at A Better Life! Jenny sees clients at our Ardmore office and supports clinicians working toward their licensure. She speaks English + Spanish and specializes in trauma, addiction, narcissistic abuse, and couples therapy. She is a wonderful colleague, friend, and therapist.

08/12/2025

Early in my career, I felt frustrated with the limits of traditional weekly, 50-minute couples therapy sessions. Fifty minutes is barely enough for one person, let alone two partners who both need to share their perspectives, learn new skills, process past hurts, improve their attachment system, and still come to some kind of consensus about moving forward.

So I tried something different. Instead of meeting once a week, I devoted entire weekends to working with one couple at a time. These intensive sessions created the space for deeper work, faster breakthroughs, and lasting change. Over time, I connected with other therapists doing the same thing, and we all agreed: the impact of intensive therapy is hard to put into words—but you can feel it in the profound shifts couples experience.

The more I talked with colleagues, the more I realized many wanted to offer intensives but didn’t know where to start. That’s why I wrote The Clinician’s Guide to Intensive Couples Therapy—a comprehensive roadmap for bringing this transformative approach into your practice.

It’s available for preorder now! If you’ve ever thought about adding couples intensives to your work, this guide will show you exactly how.

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