Elizabeth Earnshaw, LMFT

01/14/2026

I’ve stepped away from IG a lot because so much of what’s shared on the internet is non-nuanced engagement bait. And it is having real consequences in people’s lives. People are taking these posts as Truth for all, rather than one possibility. I even have seen this drip down into the therapy room where therapists themselves , influenced by social media, are providing feedback and opinions with broad strokes rather than trying to truly understand what are these symptoms in the relationship related to because many of the common issues have varied sources.

01/03/2026

So proud of ABL!

12/09/2025

The Psychotherapy Networker Symposium 2026 has been the gathering place for connection, creativity, and rejuvenation among therapists for decades, and 2026 will be no different. I’m excited to share that I’ll be speaking at this incredible event! A boost of inspiration, or just the most fun you’ve had at a professional conference — this is it.

Join me and thousands of other therapists this March using the link below!!

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Invite your connections. 2026 Psychotherapy Networker Symposium is an event not to be missed.

12/09/2025

people often say what they “don’t” want instead of sharing what they do want. When you’re trying to express something you need or want, try to be clear about what that actually is.

This works for kids and adults ❤️

12/07/2025

Each week, I send an email to help you connect, even during your busiest seasons. Read it to each other in bed or take it in the car with you. It’s made to be easy, like Sunday morning.

Link here >

a question, an activity, an intention

12/02/2025

The first will get you somewhere, the second might get you somewhere too - but not usually anywhere good.

11/10/2025

I realize that perhaps this falls into the hot take category? So I'd also like my "unpopular opinion" to remained nuanced, too. Sometimes it might be important to express something in a strong and direct manner. Most of the time, though, a hot take is just someone who has had an experience they feel is unheard and they want to make it louder (I understand this) by dismissing an experience others have had that frequently gets heard ( which makes their statement not reflect full reality) or it's a criticism of someone else veiled as a truth in order to elevate themselves above the other. (Newborns are easy for me, so they should be easy for you too).

11/05/2025

11/04/2025

In just a few weeks, I am teaching a two day course on Intensive Couples Therapy! Intensive Couples Therapy completely changed the way I practiced and increased my passion for the work!

If you're interested in joining my training, you can read more about it here >
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10/03/2025

Last night at , I had the opportunity to interview Allison Daminger about her new book What’s on Her Mind.

Her book is grounded in research that really ties into my book ‘Til Stress Do Us Part.

In her book, she interview 172 parents and 94 couples to better understand how thinking work (cognitive labor) is managed in home life.

Cognitive labor is the anticipating, researching, deciding, and following up that keeps a home running and something I see often with my couples is the added burden of stress this places on their relationship when it’s not managed well.

Before we started our interview, we asked the audience to think of their own cognitive loads and then discussed themes. Some of the themes included how their cognitive load is often difficult for them to even define, how it evolves over time, and how certain systems add cognitive load they feel they can’t opt out to even if they wanted to (i.e. having multiple apps just to send their child to school).

I would love to hear from you - what does cognitive load look like in your home? What thoughts come up for you about it?

10/02/2025

If you're in the Philadelphia area and looking for something to do tonight I would love to see you at Headhouse Books! I will be there in discussing with Allison Daminger for her new book "What's On Her Mind" to discuss the mental load in family life!

You can register here:
https://www.headhousebooks.com/evening-allison-daminger-elizabeth-earnshaw

09/26/2025

I believe deeply in the Intensive Couples Therapy model - a model I have been using for many years now. The ability to take time to get a fuller picture of relationship dynamics and explore them without start and stop interruptions has been game changing for the work I do.

That's why I wrote The Clinician's Guide to Intensive Couples Therapy - to help other therapists understand what intensive sessions are like and how to implement them.

The book released as a #1 bestseller in the Psychology Education category and is #17 on the list of best sellers right now! Clearly a lot of therapists working with couples want another option for how they work with their clients.

If you're looking for another option when it comes to offering therapy to couples - you can check it out here >

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