02/27/2026
The hardest part about stopping people pleasing is not saying no.
It is surviving the discomfort after.
When you are wired to scan, soften, fix, and absorb, silence feels dangerous. You start looking for the next task, the next repair, the next way to smooth it over.
But sometimes the next step is nothing.
Sometimes the work is letting them feel what they feel.
If this one hits, it might be time to ask yourself when you learned it was your job to manage everyone else’s emotions.