02/23/2026
I have been going through a major transformation. I’m evolving every day, ever changing.
I know these changes are hard for my children and the rest of my family. They’re used to older versions of me — versions that were toxic, reactive, and hurting. I’ve worked hard to face my demons, admit my wrongs, and become a kinder, softer, safer, more loving version of myself. That old version of me is long gone, and I refuse to go back.
The hardest part is that the people who love us often expect us to stay who we were, because that’s who they learned to relate to. But growth means change, and change can feel unfamiliar, even uncomfortable.
I only want to see my family happy and healthy. I refuse to be toxic, even when that’s what some still expect from me or struggle to move past.
So to anyone experiencing this — whether you’re the one evolving or the family watching someone change — please allow space for growth. If you have demons to tame, tame them. And if you’re watching someone evolve, try to stay open. Maybe even look within instead of placing blame for how life has turned out.
Let’s evolve with each other. Let’s give each other grace.
The key is love — love of self and love for one another.