Feed Your Soul Happy

07/06/2021

Stop living in the past. You can’t change it. (Unless you’re a time traveler, in which case, we need to talk!)

The mental and emotional energy you waste (yes, waste) on the past is exactly why you feel “stuck,” in your life, your relationship(s), your work, your health (mental/physical/emotional).

The past is meant to be a reference point from which to learn. Use the outcomes of the past as feedback, so you can DO things differently/better.

The problem is that you refuse to let the past be the past, and keep dragging it with you. So you’re never actually living in the now.

Let it go love. Focus on the now, so you can have a better tomorrow.

What do you struggle letting go of?

28/05/2021

Listen! Stop speaking negatively about your body- no matter what shape/size it is right now.

Your body has been through a lot this past year. It has survived a global pandemic!

Here’s what NOT to do:
🙅🏻‍♀️ start a fad/super restrictive diet

🙅🏻‍♀️punish/berate/shame yourself

🙅🏻‍♀️spend hours doing cardio

Instead:
• forgive yourself
• practice self compassion
• get clarity on what you want to accomplish
• develop an action plan (this doesn’t mean “change everything all at once!”)

This is what you can do if your clothes from previous years no longer fit:
• donate them
• throw them away
• get new items that make you feel good

You are worthy because you are.

Your worth isn’t determined by the size of your clothes, the number on the scale, or the opinions of others.

You are worthy of love because you are.
You are worthy of happiness because you are.
You are worthy of feeling good in your skin and in this current body because you are.

No need for conditionals.

Do you struggle with negative self-talk? Let me know below, I can help. 💜

25/05/2021

It’s that simple.

Mental health is every day.
Mental health is all areas of your life.
Mental health is not something you can put off while you take care of other things.

Prioritize your mental health, and everything else will get easier- at least easier to approach/handle/manage.

Sometimes we don’t even realize that we have been neglecting our mental well-being until we are burnt out and struggling.

If you’re struggling, know that
- you are not alone
- you are loved and supported
- you are worthy of health and happiness
- you don’t have to do this yourself (reach out for help)

If you’re not even sure where to begin, ask me in the comments below ❤️

xoxo
Aleks

21/05/2021

Mental health is H E A L T H. Period. It’s not simply the absence of mental illness.

Approach your mental well-being with preventative and proactive measures.

Small changes in your habits create BIG impact in all areas of life.

May is mental health awareness month, but mental health is every day.

Take the steps to be the best version of yourself you can be, today. One day at a time.

Let me know in the comments what you do for your mental well-being 👇🏼

15/05/2021

Don’t be so attached to the outcome that you forget to enjoy the process.
“The process” is not always easy, but if you learn to enjoy all aspects of it, it will be easier.

Cognitive behavioral therapy teaches you to recognize these moments and treat them as opportunities for self-praise, joy, healing, growth, etc.

The space between where you are and where you want to be is a journey of ups and downs, and turn-arounds and feeling lost, but also exploration and self discovery. And with proper guidance and support, it’s far less scary and definitely not lonely.

If you want to enhance your well-being, holistically (all-encompassing, as a whole) click on the link in my bio to learn how Holistic Behavior Therapy can help, or book a free mini consultation if you’re not sure 👩🏻‍💻🤳🏼

09/05/2021

Beautiful mama, you are enough. You are so much more than enough.

And to everyone for whom this day is difficult, for any reason, I see you, I feel you. You are loved and supported.

For anyone who struggles, I hope you heal. Heal your mother wound. Show your inner child the love it longs for. Heal your self. So you can step into the amazing being that you are, today and every day.

♥️💐♥️💐♥️

Happy Mother’s Day to all you amazing women!

01/05/2021

If you want to have better days, start with practicing better mornings.

• you don’t have to wake up early, but try to get up around the same time
• start appreciating what you already have, you’ll be amazed at how that impacts your mindset and mentality
• deep breaths in through the nose out of the nose or mouth (you can do this as you say what you’re grateful for, with one hand on your heart, the other on your belly)
• before coffee, caffein, or anything else, hydrate with water
• move your body to get the blood flowing and wake up your joints
• make a short list of what you need to accomplish, start with what’s priority, and work your way to “least important,” for the day
This may help you stay focused on the task, not multitask, and feel less anxious about doing “all the things.”

Try to do this for 21 days and see how you feel.

Save for later. Share with friends. 😘

22/04/2021

I have a secret 🤫

I still get triggered by my body image issues…

There I said it. 💁🏻‍♀️

Look, it going to happen. You’re not going to love how your body looks every single day. You’re just not.

There are things I still have to remind myself.
In the evenings, after a whole day of eating, I still have to remind myself that I’m not going to look as I do first thing in the morning. Around the time of my period, I still have to remind myself that bloat is natural.

I still have to remind myself that the scale is just ONE objective measure.

I still have to remind myself that the number on the scale or the size of my jeans, or the absence of visible abs, or whatever else, does not determine my self worth.

I still have to remind myself that even if I gain weight or lose weight, I don’t gain or lose my value as a human being.

I still have to remind myself that the shape of my body isn’t going to make me any more or less worthy of love.

The difference, even though I still get triggered after all these years, and as someone who helps so many develop self and body love, is that these days, those emotions come and they go.

They don’t consume me.
The negative thoughts don’t live in my head.
My mood doesn’t spiral, and behavior doesn’t change.
I don’t revert to old self-destructive patterns of severe restriction and over training.

Nothing good can come out of shame and guilt. Self-deprecating, self-shaming and self-minimization will only add more shame, guilt, and possibly disordered methods of “undoing.”

The triggers don’t go away. But, the healing work you do in the process of reconciling your relationship with your body and self, will determine how successfully you can manage them.

You are worthy because you are.

Learn to embrace all of you. 
Learn to stop battling yourself.
Learn to make self love a habit.

Click the link in my bio to learn how.

Let me know what you love about your body, in the comments below ❤️

08/04/2021

Let’s talk about setting boundaries, particularly around conversations about your food choices, your fitness habits, and your body.

Whether you’re just starting your health improvement journey, or have been on it for some time, it is important to have boundaries around conversations that usually happen: People commenting on your food choice, unsolicited advice about diets you should try, what you should or shouldn’t be doing at the gym, and what your body looks like.

For me, the most important boundary to set is one around comments on the body. Whether people come from a well-meaning place, i.e. give you a compliment, or a judgmental place, i.e. fit-shaming, telling you you’re too (skinny, muscular, big, etc.), it is your responsibility to let them know if it isn’t ok.

Boundaries are a key element in your mental, emotional and physical wellbeing. They are a set of limits and rules we set for ourselves that communicate your values, beliefs and standards to others. Having healthy boundaries allows others to know what is and isn’t ok, will and will not be tolerated or accepted, and how you choose to proceed as a result. Boundaries you set are also a practice of self-love.

Committing to that practice will help you not only navigate through the social situations but also remain consistent and in power of your inner peace and well being.

Make sure you save the post, so you know what to say the next time someone makes a comment about what you’re eating, your fitness habits or your body.

Feel free to ask questions in the comments below, or share with me your favorite way to practice your boundaries.

For more information on what I do, or how you can work with me, check out my website, link in bio.

03/04/2021

Here’s an article I wrote. I’m really proud of it. It took many years to get to a point in my life when I can genuinely say that I love my body without conditions. I hope you enjoy the read

A holistic behavior therapist and wellness coach explains how to mentally prepare for bikini season in a body-positive way that emphasizes self-love

22/02/2021

How about we stop.
Stop the “doing.”
Stop the “controlling.”
Stop the “powering through.”

And let’s give our bodies a break.
From the dieting. From forced fitnessing. From anything that you’re doing instead of BEING.

If we are only focusing on the physical, we are inevitably going to only spin the wheel, going “forward” only to end up in the same place again.
But when we address the inner work (in combination of actionable things) do we truly get insight, find purpose and ultimately heal that which has been hurting, and causing us to take it out on our physical bodies.

It is safe to feel.
It is safe to be in your body.
It’s safe to stop doing and start feeling.

You are loved.
You are supported.
You are valid.
You are enough.