Redeem Thyself

Redeem Thyself Redeem Thyself supports the journey to self-love and healing. Mission
The mission of Redeem Thyself is understanding the journey to self-love and healing.

RT provides a social media support group for professional women who have experienced trauma and abuse and want to embrace self-acceptance, self-kindness, and self-compassion. Redeem Thyself provides a social media support group for professional women who have experienced trauma and abuse and want to embrace self-acceptance, self-kindness, and self-compassion. It is a platform for women who want to critically and thoughtfully learn together while growing and supporting one another in our journey for a better tomorrow. Vision
Redeem Thyself will provide a social media presence where professional women who have experienced trauma and abuse can share their stories, feel supported, and learn from one another. Redeem Thyself hopes to inspire women to recognize and acknowledge their abilities as professional and accomplished women and to embrace those abilities in every aspect of their lives. Purpose
The purpose of Redeem Thyself is to give professional women who have experienced trauma and abuse a voice and a place to be heard without judgment. Redeem Thyself is a platform for women to support, encourage, and inspire one another as we move towards a peaceful, loving, and fulfilling life.

These words remind me that advocacy and healing share the same heartbeat — both are acts of courage rooted in compassion...
11/14/2025

These words remind me that advocacy and healing share the same heartbeat — both are acts of courage rooted in compassion. It’s not about shouting the loudest, but standing firm with grace, inviting others into the work of redemption, justice, and love.

In this season, I’m learning that the fight for what matters most — dignity, truth, and healing — is strongest when it’s shared. ~ julie

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In this week’s Redeeming Stories Podcast, I reflect on the sacred work of healing from spiritual and emotional abuse — a...
11/13/2025

In this week’s Redeeming Stories Podcast, I reflect on the sacred work of healing from spiritual and emotional abuse — a journey profoundly shaped by Dr. Diane Langberg’s book Redeeming Power.

Dr. Langberg explores how power — even spiritual power — can be distorted and weaponized. With grace and courage, she exposes the misuse of power within faith communities and calls us toward accountability, humility, and restoration. Her message is clear: true redemption begins with truth-telling, justice, and the courageous use of power to protect the vulnerable.

Her work led me to an honest reckoning — to see how trauma and abuse not only shaped who I became, but also how my survival patterns sometimes silenced my wise mind. I began learning to make choices grounded in self-compassion, self-kindness, and self-love rather than fear or habit.

May this conversation invite you, too, to look gently at your own story of power, truth, and redemption. ~ julie

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In this week’s episode of the Redeeming Stories Podcast, I reflect on what it means to reclaim a sense of worth.Dr. Donn...
11/12/2025

In this week’s episode of the Redeeming Stories Podcast, I reflect on what it means to reclaim a sense of worth.

Dr. Donna Hicks’s book Dignity revealed that restoring our worth is, in itself, an act of justice — that dignity is a universal human need, the recognition of our inherent value. She outlines ten essential elements of dignity and shows how its violation fuels conflict, while honoring it rebuilds trust, heals relationships, and transforms anger into mutual respect and understanding.

Her words invited me to pause — to consider that maybe I was worthy, too. That what I’ve given so freely to others through my work, my words, and my presence…perhaps I was deserving of it as well. May her insights speak to your own story of redemption and self-worth.

You can listen to this week’s episode wherever you get your podcasts. ~ julie

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In this week’s Redeeming Stories Podcast, I’ve been reflecting on what it truly means to persevere — not just to survive...
11/11/2025

In this week’s Redeeming Stories Podcast, I’ve been reflecting on what it truly means to persevere — not just to survive, but to keep showing up with heart.

Dr. Angela Duckworth, in her book Grit, reminds us that success — and healing — depend less on talent and more on sustained effort. She defines grit as the blend of passion and persistence, the steady commitment to long-term goals even when progress feels painfully slow.

Her words reminded me of my own journey. People have often called me resilient, someone who pushes through. But what I’ve learned is that perseverance isn’t about perfection or performance — it’s about faithfulness. It’s the quiet, courageous act of continuing to grow, even when the way forward isn’t clear.

If this resonates, I invite you to listen to this week’s episode of the Redeeming Stories Podcast — where we talk about what it means to keep walking, one brave step at a time. ~ julie

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I hope you’ve had a chance to listen to the Redeeming Stories Podcast that launched yesterday. Each Sunday, a new episod...
11/11/2025

I hope you’ve had a chance to listen to the Redeeming Stories Podcast that launched yesterday. Each Sunday, a new episode will be released — blending pieces of my own story with those of weekly guests who share their journeys of healing and redemption. You can listen on Spotify now (link below) with episodes on Apple Podcasts coming soon.

This week on Instagram, I’m highlighting the voices of women whose words have deeply shaped my healing path. One of them is Dr. Kristin Neff, author of Self-Compassion. Her work offers a science-based alternative to self-criticism, grounded in three pillars: mindfulness, self-kindness, and common humanity. Through her teachings, we learn to meet our imperfections with gentleness rather than judgment — to quiet shame, soften our inner voice, and rest in a steadier sense of worth and connection. Her research continues today, guiding countless people toward greater self-compassion.

Maybe her work will speak to you, too. ~ julie

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Today marks a new beginning. I’ve launched a Redeem Thyself safe space — The Redeeming Stories Podcast. It’s a place to ...
11/09/2025

Today marks a new beginning. I’ve launched a Redeem Thyself safe space — The Redeeming Stories Podcast. It’s a place to share not only my story, but the stories of others — those who’ve walked through trauma, abuse, abandonment, or loss, and found healing on the other side. I hope you’ll take a few minutes to listen or watch today’s first episode (link below).

This week’s IG content draws from women whose words have shaped my healing journey. One of them, Jean Baker Miller, in Toward a New Psychology of Women, reminds me that growth doesn’t come through competition, but through connection. Her work reframed strength as something born in relationship — in empathy, compassion, and mutual empowerment. I was still in high school when her book was first published and a bit lost; trying to find my way while keeping silent about the abuse. Reading her now, though, has brought an understanding of the Equal Rights Amendment era. Her words today seem to be the norm. Yet, in the 1970s her words, her voice is what women had desired. Her words resonate. ~ julie

https://open.spotify.com/show/2GHPB4SoJGjOlUvKZpB7Wd

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We all have a life journey full of joy, hope, accomplishments, heartache, disappointment, and hurt. The degree varies gr...
11/08/2025

We all have a life journey full of joy, hope, accomplishments, heartache, disappointment, and hurt. The degree varies greatly. For some of us, the chronic abuse and trauma requires years of professional help. For me, 60 years of abuse and trauma have resulted in complex PTSD and a healing journey that will last the rest of my days on earth. Healing is a lifelong journey toward self-love, understanding, patience, kindness, mindfulness, and finding who I am; on my terms.

My story is just one of thousands. Women around the world have shared their stories with me. Their stories are quite different, but we seem to share something in common...we are healing together in this space I call Redeem Thyself. As I shared on Sunday, I am sharing these stories through a podcast called Redeeming Stories on Spotify, Apple, and Youtube. I hope you will come and listen to these stories, support one another, and help me to create a space where we can come together in community. If you have any questions, please DM me or email me at info@juliemlane.com.

For now, know that you belong here. ~ julie

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Some 30 years ago, I stepped away from a very successful career as a professional and accomplished harpist. Why? Because...
11/07/2025

Some 30 years ago, I stepped away from a very successful career as a professional and accomplished harpist. Why? Because those who should have loved me, taken an interest in me, and supported me shunned me instead. Walking into a house with my boyfriend/then husband for 18 years to a large in-law family with no acknowledgement takes its toll. Every Sunday dinner, every family gathering, holiday event, birthday celebration, wedding, birth, new car, new job, new success was meant for everyone else, but me. It was here that I learned to sit in the corner, not speak, and become as invisible as I possibly could be. I also learned that my musical career was not acceptable to this so called family in which I was supposed to belong. So, I left that career behind.

Today, I am opening my heart to my music again. My music is opening my heart after years of silence. My music is allowing me to feel again. I do not plan to ever return to the calliber of performance I once had. Rather, my music will hopefully create spaces for peace, transition, reflection, and meditation.

If you want to learn more, please visit 7pedals.com and follow me . I am finding myself again, and it is bringing me joy.

Thank you for being here on my journey ~ julie

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I learned and then believed I was to be treated with disrepect, abuse, truama, blaming, shaming, bulling, and gaslightin...
11/06/2025

I learned and then believed I was to be treated with disrepect, abuse, truama, blaming, shaming, bulling, and gaslighting. This was the life I knew. The cycle began at such a young age that I did not know any differently. So, once the patterns were set, I repeated the cycle again and again. Romantically, friendships, working peers, and leaders in my careers. Again and again, I trusted those who should not have been trusted, married men who would continue the pattern, and vulnerability that allowed others to take advantage of me. When I married the third time, I thought maybe "third times the charm." In hindsight, it was the divorce that was the charm. I finally got it!

Today, I have broken the cycle. But to prevent it from ever happening again, I am working hard to heal, to overcome, to resolve, and to not be taken advantage of again. I am not doing this work alone. Finding the right therapist - certified in EMDR and DBT - was my ticket. And while we work, I am finding out who I want to be and who I am.

All of this work is also supported by you. Sharing my story with all of you has been paramount in the strides I have been taking. I really do not know how to describe your sheer presence, following, and comments. For the first time, I feel like others "get me." They understand, validate, and encourage my every step. I am so grateful for you.

Have you broken your cycle yet? Can I suport you in doing so? ~ julie

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I have spent the last 30 some years serving children with disabilities and their families. And, I have shared the words ...
11/05/2025

I have spent the last 30 some years serving children with disabilities and their families. And, I have shared the words of Prof. John Swinton at the University of Aberdeen in Scotland: "To be included you just need to be present. To belong you need to be missed." His definition of belonging has stayed with me since I first read it more than ten years ago. I have spent more time working to ensure that my students belonged without even a thought as to whehter I have belonged. I have belonged in my work as a special education professional. I have been inspired in this work through colleagues, leaders in the field, and from the children and parents that I have served. Yet, I am not sure I have ever really belonged in the other areas of my life.

I obviously did not belong in the eyes of my siblings. During my childhood years, I do not sense that I ever felt like I belonged. I always felt I was a bit odd, disconnected, and participating from the sidelines. As a harpist, I was the only harpist within an ensemble. Finding belonging there was a challenge. I did not feel like I belonged in my marriages - especially my second marriage where I was literally shunned for 18 years. Now, I also admit that I contributed to my not belonging. I learned that I was not worthy. I learned not to trust. Staying on the outside of ""community"" is where I thought I belonged and where I could stay safe. I guess that explains how abuse and trauma can change your worldview; how it can put you on the outside.

Belonging is essential for every child if they are to have healthy self-beliefs of themselves and of those around them. ~ julie

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My boundaries were not respected from a very early age. Although I do not have vivid memories of when they were first cr...
11/04/2025

My boundaries were not respected from a very early age. Although I do not have vivid memories of when they were first crossed, my body can feel the anxiety of a very little girl who was afraid to exist, to be seen, to be worthy.

My brother, who is just 18 months older than me, was from all accounts a handful. As one of his younger sisters, I still sense his unkindness as a little girl. I would describe him as always having to win, aggressive, a bully, manipulative, inappropriate - in so many ways, sexually abusive - incredibly smart, and living on the edge of the illegal.

My younger sister was incredibly outspoken. She was pushy, unkind, demanding, and often struggling with chronic health issues. Today she has described herself to me as a "brassy broad." I would agree.

But here is the thing, we have not lived anywhere geographically close to one another for decades. The only thing that tied us together were our parents. Our parents passed on in 2021 and 2022. Since that time, I have been acting as trustee of my parents estate; I was the dependable child as I was told. Those duties will come to a close in yearly 2026. At that time, there will no longer be a need to me to engage with my two siblings. I no longer will have to live within the lie they created for me.

I am worthy. I am lovable. I will not engage with others who do not respect my worth, my boundaries, my voice, and my being. I am really looking forward to this next chapter of my healing journey...a chapter when I can leave them in my past and live in a place of truths. ~ julie

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I do not know why I chose the path I did. So often, young girls who experience trauma and abuse take a darker road. I fo...
11/02/2025

I do not know why I chose the path I did. So often, young girls who experience trauma and abuse take a darker road. I found the path of resilience from early on. Regardless of what I was experiencing at home, I kept getting up each day, going to school, doing as I was told (for the most part), and looking to the future. I stayed clear of activities that were illegal, that would cause me to put myself in procarious situations, and in a nutshell, I avoided decisions in which society would not favor. Instead, I dreamed of a better future. I embraced the concept of setting five year goals as taught to me by my parents. I looked to the future. I have had two wonderful careers. I have earned four college degrees including my doctorate from a nationally, if not internationlly, recognized institution. I rose the proverbial ladder in my careers. And, personally, I dedicated myself to being the best mother I could be; giving my daughters all that I wish I had had.

Today, I continue this journey to give myself the space to hear, to forgive, and to find peace. No matter how old I was or am, there is always a space to learn, achieve, and renew.

Will you join me on this journey? ~ julie

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